# Heterosexuals: Public Displays of Affection are unattractive when you do them, too **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 26, 2003, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004 "2003-07-26T01:30:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/41 "2003-07-26T07:26:51Z")
Well, I’m not sure if it’s part of a normal bear’s diet to eat birds, but in this case maybe I’ll just make an exception:D [sub]ALERT! ALERT! A PDA! ALERT THE NISOSBAR POLICE![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/42 "2003-07-26T07:30:25Z")
Oh, 'punha, my virile cherub… _ravish me_. Take me into your arms, rip off my clothes, and have your wicked, wicked way with me. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/43 "2003-07-26T07:34:11Z")
But … but then **nisosbar** ’s gentle sensibilities might be disturbed! The poor little thing! Why, we must _think of the children_! ::receives index card with hasty scribbles on it:: OOOOOOOOOH. It only applies to HETEROSEXUALS. Well feck, we ain’t none of us that kind’a sexual being, now, is we? Now where was I? Ah yes…come to punha, little bird! [sub]He ain’t so little! :shocked:[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/44 "2003-07-26T07:40:05Z")
> [@](#): > > They always said that you knew best > But this little bird’s fallen out of that nest now > I’ve got a feeling that it might have been blessed > So I’ve just got to put these wings to test _falls into 'punha’s arms and gazes into his eyes_ Take me. ---
**Author:** ![Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecd19e/32.png) [@Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aslan_of_Narnia)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/45 "2003-07-26T07:42:26Z")
Augh!! Why do heterosexuals have to be out in public? WHY?! Their is nothing more disgusting to see than heterosexuals or hetero affection. Thank god we have warning labels or bans on books about heterosexuality, so we don’t have our children turning hetero on us. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/46 "2003-07-26T07:47:10Z")
Hush little birdy, don’t you cry, punha’s going to sing you a lullaby. And if I get inside your bum, punha’s going to make little birdy come… ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/47 "2003-07-26T07:51:07Z")
> [@](#): > > I… love to love you, baby… > I… love to love you, baby… Now we’ll find out what happens when 21 goes into 32. Ravish me, wicked youth! ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/48 "2003-07-26T07:58:50Z")
Meet me in IRC in #sdPublicSex and you’ll find out for sure;) ---
**Author:** ![Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecd19e/32.png) [@Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aslan_of_Narnia)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/49 "2003-07-26T07:58:57Z")
Help, the heteros are escaping the zoo and they’ve already mauled four of us! CALL FOR BACK UP, CALL FOR BACKUP! ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/50 "2003-07-26T08:03:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\*Meet me in IRC in #sdPublicSex and you’ll find out for sure;) \*\* I’m waiting… Do you expect me to stand here naked forever? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 10:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/51 "2003-07-26T10:05:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nisosbar \* > \*\*It does demonstrate that you are an ignorant, insecure person, and it is NOT ATTRACTIVE. IMO, people who do this are typically the same ones who bash gays and are the biggest homophobes on Earth. If you dislike seeing gays suck face and hold hands in front of you, don’t do it in front of complete strangers who may, in fact, be gay, lesbian or bisexual. > > Thank you. \*\* Well, I won’t deny being ignorant and insecure. But I don’t object to gays kissing in public. Does that mean I can PDA with abandon? Sweet. My friend proposed a deal - gay men don’t kiss in public, but lesbians make up for it. But he was joking. Seriously, I think your IMO is wrong (insecurity might be a point, but I don’t think orientation has anything to do with it) but I agree that many people are homophobic hypocrites on this issue, often without realising. ---
**Author:** ![BrightNShiny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@BrightNShiny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrightNShiny)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 10:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/52 "2003-07-26T10:21:19Z")
I think everybody should be kissing in public. Hetero’s, gay men, lesbians, bisexuals. I think they should also have sex and let me watch and… I need to take a cold shower. ---
**Author:** ![fotosbyfrank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/54ee81/32.png) [@fotosbyfrank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fotosbyfrank)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/53 "2003-07-26T13:24:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by 1000Voices \* > \*\* . . . A simple case of sour grapes (another Aesopian reference). . . \*\* It seems to me that the people who hate PDAs the most, are those who aren’t able to have them. ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/54 "2003-07-26T13:27:59Z")
Yes, though it might be polite to refrain to avoid embarassing those people. (Not if they’re jerks, but lots of people are embarassed for various reasons) ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/55 "2003-07-26T14:05:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nisosbar \* > **"people" and “heterosexuals” are two separate groups.** I can’t be a heterosexual **and** a _people_? > [@](#): > > **I think some heterosexuals (actually, in honesty, most of those who do it) who display affection publicly are trying to “make a statement”.** That statement being, “_I love this person_”. > [@](#): > > **I would prefer if they either remain silent or else use a little discretion, like a peck on the cheek.** That will do. > [@](#): > > \*\*No, it’s not fucking ridiculous. It’s true, as I think you well know. \*\* I think we all well know that you’re nuts. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![nisosbar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@nisosbar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nisosbar)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2003, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/56 "2003-07-26T14:51:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mockingbird \* > \*\*Y’know… > > With nisobar’s two pit threads with the PDAs here and the fat woman who so offended his eyes he had to rant about it, I see a simple course of action: we need a massively obese straight couple to make out in front of nisobar as Bolero plays in the background. > > I think his head will pop like he was in the movie Scanners. > > Any takers on a pool for how many seconds until his cranium showers the walls? \*\* 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2003, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/57 "2003-07-28T22:32:43Z")
I love PDA’s, same-sex or opposite-sex, _especially_ if they’re over the top. 😃 That said, I will only engage in a little hand-holding and discrete smooching with **Q** , and only in places we consider safe (i.e., we won’t get bashed or he won’t be seen by a co-worker). It’s sad we have to think that way. I hope anyone who would condemn same-sex public affection (within reason) can take the time to think about what they take for granted that is allowed to them by society when I have to stop and think every time I do it. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Elza\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2003, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/58 "2003-07-28T22:56:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nisosbar \* > \*\*It takes practice, but you get the hang of it over time, if you study carefully, do your homework, and … ahem… 😛 > > Heterosexuals ARE people, but so are homosexuals and bisexuals. This is kind of like the discussion about gay marriage: “everyone can get married, as long as it’s the opposite sex.” That is, for those of you who make out in front of other people because you “just don’t care,” ask yourselves if you still won’t care if two men are making out in front of you. \*\* My head hurts. I feel like I just went from point A to point B by curling up in the middle of a tire and getting shoved down a hill. I’m a bisexual woman. I’m currently dating a guy. I’m not comfortable with extreme PDAs whether they’re mine or not. However, I think a couple nuzzling each other and kissing in public is sweet - no matter what sex they are. What I’m getting from your post is that any opposite-sex couple that makes out in public is homophobic. Oooookay. Ava ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2003, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/59 "2003-07-28T23:20:57Z")
**nisosbar** , I take it that you and those who are with you on this point are not into porno videos. ---
**Author:** ![nisosbar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@nisosbar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nisosbar)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2003, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004/60 "2003-07-29T02:51:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by grienspace \* > \*\ ***nisosbar** , I take it that you and those who are with you on this point are not into porno videos. \*\* FTR, I was corrected earlier in the thread - the title should read, “Heterosexual **homophobes** …” sorry for the confusion. As to pornos, that’s not a public display of affection, at least not like how I mean. I mean, in the restaurant, or on the subway, at the train station, etc. If homophobic heterosexuals are going to engage in PDA’s in front of everybody else, they should stop glaring at homosexuals who do it, too (holding hands, a peck on the cheek, etc.). Sadly, our world deems some kinds of affection more equal than others, to paraphrase Orwell in Animal Farm… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/heterosexuals-public-displays-of-affection-are-unattractive-when-you-do-them-too/191004.md?page=4)