# Hey Jim's Son? Go fuck yourself **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 9, 2018, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355 "2018-08-09T18:14:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/101 "2018-08-12T05:57:50Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok, i find this not cool. Seriously, i changed my fucking username for a fucking reason. I used my real name when i joined because my whole reason for joining was to have a discussion about an incident that happened involving me that was the subject of an online article which is what my op primarily consisted of. I found it pointless to use a different username when my real name was all over the article which was central to my op. It wasnt until i decided to stay and become a more long term member did i decide to change to a pseudonym. I feel like it is incredibly disrespectful for you to use my real name when its clear that i dont want to be identified so effortlessly. Sure, if someone searches it out they can find it but that isnt at all like some asshole taking it upon himself to broadcast my real identity publicly knowing i don’t wish it to be known. Fuck you asshole. The internet never forgets. Get over yourself dude. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/102 "2018-08-12T05:58:00Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok, i find this not cool. Seriously, i changed my fucking username for a fucking reason. I used my real name when i joined because my whole reason for joining was to have a discussion about an incident that happened involving me that was the subject of an online article which is what my op primarily consisted of. I found it pointless to use a different username when my real name was all over the article which was central to my op. It wasnt until i decided to stay and become a more long term member did i decide to change to a pseudonym. I feel like it is incredibly disrespectful for you to use my real name when its clear that i dont want to be identified so effortlessly. Sure, if someone searches it out they can find it but that isnt at all like some asshole taking it upon himself to broadcast my real identity publicly knowing i don’t wish it to be known. Fuck you asshole. A. _mea culpa_. I apologize for that. It was reckless and inconsiderate of me, and I’ll try to do better in the future. B. Do I get to count that as a Pitting? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/103 "2018-08-12T05:59:36Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > What’s an extra H between friends? > > 😃 Depends on the Preparation. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/104 "2018-08-12T06:02:36Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > He’s Jamie McGarry, of course. > > Honestly, the level of institutional memory we get around here these days is _crappy_. Reported. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/105 "2018-08-12T06:04:11Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > Depends on the Preparation. That almost deserves a pile-on. Almost. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/106 "2018-08-12T06:05:51Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Reported. Oh FFS. As I said upthread dude, get the fuck over yourself. NOBODY BLOODY CARES about your previous incarnation. It’s the AMBIVALID one who is shitting all over the board today. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/107 "2018-08-12T06:07:10Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > That almost deserves a pile-on. Almost. Let’s compromise. I’ll take you to the movies, and you can pick your seat. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/108 "2018-08-12T06:08:51Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > A. _mea culpa_. I apologize for that. It was reckless and inconsiderate of me, and I’ll try to do better in the future. > > B. Do I get to count that as a Pitting? Ok cool. I still reported it tho and i want that post deleted. Consider it whatever the fuck you want. I know who you are, I had considered you a very decent poster, even if i never had any (or at least anything substantial) interaction with you. That’s why you caught me so off guard with your doxxing of me. That shit was malicious. Goddamn, how many posters here have this uncommunicated hostility towards me? Ive never said one goddamn word to you. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/109 "2018-08-12T06:13:41Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Oh FFS. As I said upthread dude, get the fuck over yourself. NOBODY BLOODY CARES about your previous incarnation. It’s the AMBIVALID one who is shitting all over the board today. Wow. Are you joking? Someone publicly identifies me and i am somehow being a prima donna or drama queen by being upset and wanting it removed? That is fucking insane. I dont give one molecule of a fuck whether you care or if anyone cares about me being doxxed. Not the fucking point. \ care. Why does everyone here hide their identities? Why do you? And even if someone does post their real names here, it is a decsion re their privacy that THEY are making, autonomy intact. Having that autonomy removed is the issue here. Not being the one making the decision whether or not to publicly identify themselves in an online forum that is anonymous in nature is unacceptable. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/110 "2018-08-12T06:19:38Z")
**Dseid** , don’t forget referring to someone who committed suicide as a “nutjob”. THAT was disgusting. Maybe she was, maybe she wasn’t. But being depressed doesn’t make one nuts. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > Reported. For what? There’s no rule that people can’t mention your previous username. And nobody “doxxed you”, except you yourself. YOU came here, identified YOURSELF, and now you’re pissed that people remember? That’s like Internet 101: if you don’t want people to know about it, don’t fucking post it on the goddamned internet. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/111 "2018-08-12T06:25:53Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > For what? There’s no rule that people can’t mention your previous username. > > And nobody “doxxed you”, except you yourself. Ok. While technically that may be true not one single motherfucker including kaylasdad doesnt know that i was using my real name as my username. It was in the fucking article that was the op. People who would know this know that by using my old username they were esentially doxximg me. “Plausible deniability” is what a coward would hide behind in order to be malicious but be able to deny it upon confrontation. Nigga please. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/112 "2018-08-12T06:31:47Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > And nobody “doxxed you”, except you yourself. YOU came here, identified YOURSELF, and now you’re pissed that people remember? That’s like Internet 101: if you don’t want people to know about it, don’t fucking post it on the goddamned internet. Have you read my posts in this thread? I originally used my real name as my username because i joined to share an article about me that used my real name anyway! I wouldnt be anonymous by using a pseudonym if the thread that my pseudonym was attached to was littered with uses of my real name. I changed usernames when i decided to stay beyond the initial reason and anonymity would be possible ( to an extent at least) and relevant. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/113 "2018-08-12T06:36:32Z")
If you say so. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/114 "2018-08-12T06:43:41Z")
**Ambivalid** , I don’t know whether you know or not, but when you change your username ANY quote of yours prior to the change still comes up as your original one. There is no anonymity here or anywhere else on the intrawebs, so railing against someone who ‘outed’ you is really fucking stupid and ignorant of the Way Things Are. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/115 "2018-08-12T06:44:14Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Hmm. Perhaps i do, perhaps you need to add writing-for-understanding to the list of troubles you wish to be addressed with your doc visit, along with the memory thing. Sometimes an obvious point can be missed but sometimes that point isnt as clear as the source of that point sees it to be. I don’t get you’re point but maybe im overthinking it. You were responding in a snarky way to my post to cockring by using my own words against me, in a lame, toothless attempt to make those words more relevant to ME than to who i directed them towards. I took it as a cliquish circling of the wagons by the looong term original (or at least close to it, i don’t remember for sure but i believe you have been here since 2000?) members or at least members who were here long before me. Hey, if im wrong about that, cool. I don’t care enough to spend one second of time letting this occupy my headspace after this post. Ooooh. “Cockring.” Did someone email that to you? ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/116 "2018-08-12T06:52:11Z")
Ain’t it funny that when you insult someone on the internet, it can turn around and bite you in the ass? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/117 "2018-08-12T07:13:33Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > Ain’t it funny that when you insult someone on the internet, it can turn around and bite you in the ass? Might be ironic even. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/118 "2018-08-12T07:26:07Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok cool. I still reported it tho and i want that post deleted. Consider it whatever the fuck you want. I know who you are, I had considered you a very decent poster, even if i never had any (or at least anything substantial) interaction with you. That’s why you caught me so off guard with your doxxing of me. That shit was malicious. Goddamn, how many posters here have this uncommunicated hostility towards me? Ive never said one goddamn word to you. That’s cool; I have also reported the post to request that it not reflect your original username. I will remark that I do not share your standard for what can be described as “doxxing,” or indeed, “malicious.” That said, my apology stands. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/119 "2018-08-12T08:01:23Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > **Dseid** , don’t forget referring to someone who committed suicide as a “nutjob”. THAT was disgusting. Maybe she was, maybe she wasn’t. But being depressed doesn’t make one nuts. As someone, me, who has suicides, depression, and Alzheimer’s in the elder people of my family I agree with **Guin**. And just because my brain tells me to kill myself because I am a worthless asshole who is of no use to society and that my mere existence is a net drain on those I love, and to society, doesn’t mean that my retard of a brain is right. > [@](#): > > For what? There’s no rule that people can’t mention your previous username. > > And nobody “doxxed you”, except you yourself. YOU came here, identified YOURSELF, and now you’re pissed that people remember? This is true, Jamie. You **Identified** yourself. Which, seriously, you should not do on the Internet. As people with a malice of purpose will try to take advantage of you. It is a sad fact of the human condition and experience. But, seriously dude, people are assholes. They will try try to hurt you if they can. > [@](#): > > That’s like Internet 101: if you don’t want people to know about it, don’t fucking post it on the goddamned internet. I feel like **EVERYBODY** should take this deeply to heart. There are **7 BILLION** people on the planet. Our [Monkeysphere](http://www.cracked.com/article_14990_what-monkeysphere.html) is about 150 people. Everyone else wants us dead because we consume resources, water, food, oil, that they want. The best you can do is to let it go. Fuck them. Let it go. Free yourself from their bulshit. Let it go. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2018, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355/120 "2018-08-12T08:13:18Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > That’s cool; I have also reported the post to request that it not reflect your original username. I will remark that I do not share your standard for what can be described as “doxxing,” or indeed, “malicious.” > > That said, my apology stands. Fair enough. Water under the bridge now. Thanks. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hey-jims-son-go-fuck-yourself/819355.md?page=7)