# Hight Difference and Sex Positions **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 4, 2002, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556 "2002-12-04T23:56:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![renigademaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/71c47a/32.png) [@renigademaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/renigademaster)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2002, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/1 "2002-12-04T23:56:18Z")
This is kinda embarassing, but my girlfriend is 5 foot tall and I am 6’3". We are finding it difficult to have sex, due to the hight difference. In some ways it just doesn’t seem all that intamate. What are some positions that would work better than missionary? Thanks _blushes_ ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/2 "2002-12-05T00:05:50Z")
Huh. Well, we can probably rule out a **69** Perhaps smaller on top? Larger behind smaller? ---
**Author:** ![NeonVns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/94ad74/32.png) [@NeonVns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NeonVns)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/3 "2002-12-05T00:07:50Z")
Large behind smaller… spooning ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/4 "2002-12-05T00:40:57Z")
Huh. I’m 6’8" and my wife is 5’6", so roughly the same height differential. We don’t have any problems. Far from it, actually… (cue porno music) In any case, woman on top, doggie style or spooning are all good ones for tall guys. If you want to have sex standing up, I recommend a staircase. (I _highly_ recommend a staircase, in fact. Mmmmm… Staircase…) Or, if she’s light, just hold her up. ---
**Author:** ![XJETGIRLX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/9fc29f/32.png) [@XJETGIRLX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/XJETGIRLX)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/5 "2002-12-05T00:57:56Z")
Well, I can relate :😁: My husband is 6’2" and I’m 5’0"(barely!) I’ve found that spooning is definitely a good thing in this case. What we’ve found extremely useful at times are those foam exercise steps – they’re just blocks of foam about 10 inches tall by about 2 feet wide. It comes in real handy sometimes :😉: ---
**Author:** ![manhattan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/manhattan/32/7_2.png) [@manhattan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manhattan)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/6 "2002-12-05T00:58:21Z")
I think this is really more a matter for IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/7 "2002-12-05T01:14:55Z")
The only real problem I ever had with the occasional “shorty” was realizing that things like headboards, walls, etc were much closer to _MY_ head than hers. Damn near knocked myself out once and the woman couldn’t stop laughing. I don’t think I can get a link from work but Lady on her back you lay perpendicuar to her Her leg closes to your head hooked over your hip her leg farthest from you betwen your legs Pretty height neutral, and if you have both had a long day its not real strenuous or require much flexibility either. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/8 "2002-12-05T01:18:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by drachillix \* > Her leg closes **t** to your head hooked over your hip > her leg farthest from you betwen your legs ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/9 "2002-12-05T06:01:10Z")
About the only position I have trouble with is doggie style (6’6"), only able to get it to work with both of us on the same surface if the girl is over 5’7" or so. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/10 "2002-12-05T15:36:22Z")
Or you could get one of those swings… ---
**Author:** ![DeadlyAccurate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/11 "2002-12-05T16:12:38Z")
I second **drachillix’s** suggestion. That’s a very comfortable position for both the man and the woman, and as he/she pointed out, it’s nice if you’re kinda tired, too. [sub]My first post in a sex thread. I’m blushing.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![jellen92](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/6bbea6/32.png) [@jellen92](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jellen92)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/12 "2002-12-05T18:55:45Z")
I’m 5’3 1/2" and my boyfriend is 6’7"… we’ve never ever had a problem in any position, although hugging him is a bitch. I usually stand on the footstool so I don’t wring my neck. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/13 "2002-12-05T19:35:50Z")
i’m 5’ and irishfella is 5’11’, but he isn’t the tallest guy i’ve been with, so i feel qualified to answer. i’m wondering why you find missionay unsatisfactory? which position are her legs in? it’s usually better if she keeps them up, and wrapped around your back, or on your shoulders. again GOT and reverse cowgirl are great, but they don’t allow a lot of snuggling…for that you’ll need to be sitting up too. if you’re strong you can start with girl on top and slowly push yourself to sitting, sort of tantric style, with her legs wrapped around your back. i like that one 🙂 doggy can actually be really good, she tries to kneel as tall as she can, you kneel and sort of bend forward…it gives a nice deep angle. ---
**Author:** ![Mnementh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/898d66/32.png) [@Mnementh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mnementh)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2002, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/14 "2002-12-05T20:00:49Z")
GOT can have a snuggling aspect even laying down, if she lays on top of you. This is very similar to missionary except without the problems caused by the height difference. (For the record, I’m 6’4" and my girlfriend is 5’3"). For example, I find that when I’m on top I expend a lot of energy keeping myself elevated so as not to smother her. When she’s laying on top of me, there’s no such problem, and since my hands aren’t occupied with holding myself up, they can be used in other, far more interesting ways. ---
**Author:** ![Keith\_Berry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/22d042/32.png) [@Keith\_Berry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keith_Berry)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2002, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/15 "2002-12-06T06:04:39Z")
I’m 5’9" and once dated a girl who was at least 6’4". Sex wasn’t too much of a problem, except for the standard missionary position…her legs were so damn long that it was difficult to find a place for them to go that wasn’t breaking my collarbone. Kissing was kind of akward, especially in public…i had to stand on my toes, and she kind of hunched over. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2002, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/16 "2002-12-06T06:58:24Z")
I am 5’2" and my now insignificant other is 6’5", never had a problem. On the contrary (I’ve always dated very tall guys) I find it more confortable. YMMV Tall guys, hmm… ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2002, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/17 "2002-12-15T22:59:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mnementh \* > \*\*GOT can have a snuggling aspect even laying down, if she lays on top of you. This is very similar to missionary except without the problems caused by the height difference. (For the record, I’m 6’4" and my girlfriend is 5’3"). For example, I find that when I’m on top I expend a lot of energy keeping myself elevated so as not to smother her. When she’s laying on top of me, there’s no such problem, and since my hands aren’t occupied with holding myself up, they can be used in other, far more interesting ways. \*\* The only issue I see here is “mounting” a larger guy by a significantly smaller woman requires some rather precarious balancing if her knees cant reach the loving surface of your choice. I have found in that situation it is easier if she sits upright astride you with her legs forward and down with her feet flat on the loving surface of your choice. Still a little precarious but does not require as much flexibility and you can counterbalance her risk of flopping over backwards by holding her hands tightly. Balance in the midst of an extended orgasm is a challenge that many never achieve 😃 ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2002, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/18 "2002-12-15T23:02:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Keith Berry \* > Sex wasn’t too much of a problem, except for the standard missionary position…her legs were so damn long that it was difficult to find a place for them to go that wasn’t breaking my collarbone. Around your waist maybe? ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2002, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/19 "2002-12-15T23:04:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DeadlyAccurate \* > \*\*That’s a very comfortable position for both the man and the woman, and as he/she pointed out, it’s nice if you’re kinda tired, too. > \*\* I’m a he Happily married to **Cyn**. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2002, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556/20 "2002-12-15T23:15:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by irishgirl \* > it’s usually better if she keeps them up, and wrapped around your back, or on your shoulders. > \*\* Option 3 I have found useful. Guy on his knees she brings her legs up and he can kinda hold them there by squeezing between his arm and torso. If you ever have the chance Maxim Magazine put out a book called _Maximum Sex_ many issues like this are covered. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hight-difference-and-sex-positions/140556.md?page=2)