# Honey, he wants to lay you, really badly... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 31, 2006, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950 "2006-08-31T18:02:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/1 "2006-08-31T18:02:25Z")
[Applebee’s customer leaves $10,000 tip for waitress.](http://msnbc.msn.com/id/14598504/>1=8404) They aren’t sure what the motive is for the huge tip yet. My bet’s on “honey, there’s another tip he’d like to give you.” Is there a leering smiley? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Frelling\_Tralk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecc23a/32.png) [@Frelling\_Tralk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frelling_Tralk)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/2 "2006-08-31T18:36:18Z")
Could be a lonely guy who doesn’t know how to interact with women, and hopes the tip will make her more than a little appreciative of him. Or could just be a nice guy with more money than he knows what to do with, and wants to help out someone who’s nice to him that he knows could use it. Either way, damn. Lucky girl. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/3 "2006-08-31T18:43:38Z")
If I had the money, I’d leave tips like that. I appreciate someone who makes one’s day brighter. (And, while I might fantasize that it would make an attractive female server more favourably inclined to me (in the nudge-nudge wink-wink sense), I certainly wouldn’t expect it. And on second thought, from her viewpoint, that would seem a bit disturbing. But if I’d been coming in to the same place for three years and the server and I had gotten to know each other a bit, presumably I’d have some sense of what would be appropriate.) ---
**Author:** ![js\_africanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/87869e/32.png) [@js\_africanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/js_africanus)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/4 "2006-08-31T18:49:09Z")
[QUOTE=Sunspace] If I had the money, I’d leave tips like that. I appreciate someone who makes one’s day brighter. [/QUOTE] Especially if it was a bartender you’ve seen a couple times a month for three years, who’s always been nice and friendly, and whose dad is going to be off work for surgery on both knees. It doesn’t sound like she knew he was loaded and then hit him up for money with a story about dad needing an operation, so why not? If I was rolling in money, I might do that sort of thing, too. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/5 "2006-08-31T19:04:41Z")
Heh. Very _As Good as It Gets_. Good for her. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/6 "2006-08-31T19:10:07Z")
Moved from IMHO to MPSIMS. ---
**Author:** ![velvetjones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5f9b8f/32.png) [@velvetjones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velvetjones)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/7 "2006-08-31T19:19:39Z")
I’m just wondering if bartenders and servers at Applebee’s pool their tips. What part of that $10K will have to be shared with the servers, hosts and busboys? ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/8 "2006-08-31T19:20:03Z")
> [@](#): > > Kienow said that while she always talks with the man when he comes in — usually about current events or the weather — she can’t think of anything that would have prompted the huge tip. Look down your own blouse, honey. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/9 "2006-08-31T19:21:51Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] They aren’t sure what the motive is for the huge tip yet. My bet’s on “honey, there’s another tip he’d like to give you.” [/QUOTE] He could have not tipped her at all. He could have given her the shaft. ---
**Author:** ![Grammaticaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ed655f/32.png) [@Grammaticaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grammaticaster)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/10 "2006-08-31T20:09:27Z")
> [@](#): > > If I was rolling in money, I might do that sort of thing, too. I would too, except for the part about eating at Applebee’s. ---
**Author:** ![Hal\_Briston](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a9a28c/32.png) [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/11 "2006-08-31T20:16:22Z")
> [@](#): > > “ **This is a great deal for us** and a great deal for Cindy,” said Rhodri McNee, vice president of operations for JS Enterprises, the owner of the Hutchinson Applebee’s. “We did have a guest leave this tip on a credit card, and we’re doing everything to make sure it’s a valid charge.” > > The company is in the final stages of verifying the tip, McNee said, while also working to maintain the customer’s privacy and make sure the money goes through the proper channels to get to Kienow. > > “ **Nothing would make us happier than to present her with that check** ,” McNee said. “She’s been with us for eight years, and she’s a great employee who does a great job.” Bolding 1: Why in the happy hell is it a great deal for you? The only ones this should be a great deal for are the waitress who got the tip and the lucky bastard busboy who happened to share her shift (assuming he gets the standard 10% – and I’d certainly be calling bullshit if they tried to snake the busboy’s cut away from him). Bolding 2: Why are they making it sound like they’re doing the waitress a favor? I realize the charge has to be confirmed, but wtf? Hey manager lady – she got a tip, give her her damn money – stop trying to make it like you have anything to do with this story. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/12 "2006-08-31T20:27:49Z")
Eh, they’re getting free advertising, so they’re hamming it up. Not that big a deal. And probably they are happy that she’ll get the money. ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/13 "2006-08-31T20:42:16Z")
Hal: > [@](#): > > Bolding 1: Why in the happy hell is it a great deal for you? Because they can tell people they employ a waitress so good, she got a five-figure tip. Chill out, management isn’t ALWAYS trying to screw over labor. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/14 "2006-08-31T22:38:30Z")
[QUOTE=Grammaticaster] I would too, except for the part about eating at Applebee’s. [/QUOTE] Heh heh heh. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/15 "2006-08-31T23:27:52Z")
Nah, service better be mega super fucking awesomely sweet, **cmkeller**. Bet you that the manager tried to play up the “My employee got this good of a tip because of my training!” angle. ---
**Author:** ![Roadfood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9fc348/32.png) [@Roadfood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roadfood)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2006, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/16 "2006-08-31T23:44:46Z")
Jeez Louise, I thought **I** was cynical. The only reason a man would ever be extremely generous to a woman is because he wants to get into her pants. Couldn’t be that he’s just a really nice person, naw, there just has to be more to it. Couldn’t be that he’s well-off and amortized a more generous tip over the three years that he’d been coming there, naw, he has to be just on the make. What the hell is our society coming to when we can’t just accept generosity at face value? ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2006, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/17 "2006-09-01T00:04:55Z")
[QUOTE=Roadfood] What the hell is our society coming to when we can’t just accept generosity at face value? [/QUOTE] I’ll anwer your question for twenty bucks! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![IntelInside](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a5b964/32.png) [@IntelInside](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IntelInside)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2006, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/18 "2006-09-01T00:17:21Z")
Dude’s probably beating his head against a wall now, because he meant to leave a $26 tip on his $10,000 bar tab. He was regretting that 5 martini lunch the next day, I bet. That, or we’ll be seeing one of those Citibank Visa card with fraud protection commercials with some poor schlep victim talking in an overdubbed voice about what awesome tips he leaves real soon. ---
**Author:** ![George\_Kaplin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3e96dc/32.png) [@George\_Kaplin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/George_Kaplin)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2006, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/19 "2006-09-01T00:24:51Z")
Bitch still hasn’t called me… ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2006, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950/20 "2006-09-01T03:54:51Z")
[QUOTE=Roadfood] Jeez Louise, I thought **I** was cynical. The only reason a man would ever be extremely generous to a woman is because he wants to get into her pants. Couldn’t be that he’s just a really nice person, naw, there just has to be more to it. Couldn’t be that he’s well-off and amortized a more generous tip over the three years that he’d been coming there, naw, he has to be just on the make. What the hell is our society coming to when we can’t just accept generosity at face value? [/QUOTE] Are you saying that if someone with whom you had a casual-but-friendly working relationship suddenly gave you $10,000 out of the blue, you wouldn’t wonder for a moment if he was working some kind of angle? The whole “he wants to do you” thing is tongue-in-cheek, but I am waiting raptly to find out what this dude wants. Sorry if that makes me a cynic. ☹ [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/honey-he-wants-to-lay-you-really-badly/370950.md?page=2)