# Horrifying or heartwarming if your SO shared this with you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 14, 2018, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061 "2018-06-14T00:25:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/21 "2018-06-14T18:13:17Z")
> [@wonky](#): > > …For me, I don’t think that would make a difference, assuming we aren’t talking about someone being forced to marry at gunpoint or the like. Maybe not gunpoint but social pressure effectively forcing a passionless political marriage within a social stratum. A tired premise usually imposed on the woman, but it’s a ‘for instance’. There’s a dozen scenarios that make the comment anything from creepy to sweet. Although admittedly for it to be ‘sweet’ she’d almost have to be granting an allowance for some social awkwardness that afflicts him (which could also account for his becoming married to the mother). ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/22 "2018-06-14T18:20:29Z")
Horrifying and sad. Reminds me of the troublesome lyrics in this otherwise cool Ambrosia song: [ShieldSquare Captcha](http://www.songfacts.com/detail.php?id=8655) ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/23 "2018-06-14T18:32:46Z")
Out of curiosity, who’s the author? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/24 "2018-06-14T18:55:51Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > Out of curiosity, who’s the author? Margaret Maron. It’s a mystery novel called [Three-Day Town](https://smile.amazon.com/Three-Day-Town-Deborah-Knott-Mystery-ebook/dp/B004QZ9PAQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1529002500&sr=8-1&keywords=three+day+town). ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/25 "2018-06-14T19:05:49Z")
In the next chapter, Dwight shows Deborah the shrine of all the photos he has surreptitiously taken of her all through the years, surrounded by candles and bits of litter that she once handled and discarded. He also shows her the trophies that he took from all those who wronged her over the years, and met an untimely fate. Deborah weeps with joy at how much Dwight loves her. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/26 "2018-06-14T19:10:07Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > In the next chapter, Dwight shows Deborah the shrine of all the photos he has surreptitiously taken of her all through the years, surrounded by candles and bits of litter that she once handled and discarded. He also shows her the trophies that he took from all those who wronged her over the years, and met an untimely fate. > > Deborah weeps with joy at how much Dwight loves her. Now I’m horrified. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/27 "2018-06-14T19:36:29Z")
Yeah that definitely clears it up. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/28 "2018-06-14T19:41:52Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > In the next chapter, Dwight shows Deborah the shrine of all the photos he has surreptitiously taken of her all through the years, surrounded by candles and bits of litter that she once handled and discarded. He also shows her the trophies that he took from all those who wronged her over the years, and met an untimely fate. > > Deborah weeps with joy at how much Dwight loves her. No no, that’s book 18. ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/29 "2018-06-14T19:41:58Z")
(To be clear, I never read the book. That was fiction on top of fiction that I typed up there.) ---
**Author:** ![Sveltington](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ab097/32.png) [@Sveltington](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sveltington)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/30 "2018-06-14T19:57:11Z")
Heartwarming? NO NO NO NO! Horrifying? NO Seriously nauseating? Yes I would dump him immediately. I can not imagine the author thought that sentiment would fly. @Wonky, Did you read 1-16? ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/31 "2018-06-14T19:58:42Z")
If I were Deborah, I would ask, “So who do you fantasize about _now_ when you’re with _me_?” ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/32 "2018-06-14T20:02:30Z")
> [@Sveltington](#): > > Heartwarming? NO NO NO NO! > Horrifying? NO > Seriously nauseating? Yes > > I would dump him immediately. I can not imagine the author thought that sentiment would fly. > > @Wonky, Did you read 1-16? I just checked on Goodreads and I’ve read 8 and then 11-17. That likely means that I knew at some point more about Dwight and his ex, but I’ve forgotten details now. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/33 "2018-06-14T20:12:16Z")
> [@wonky](#): > > Dwight says, paraphrased, “He actually is kind of yours because every time I had sex with my ex I was thinking of you.” > [@wonky](#): > > Margaret Maron. It’s a mystery novel called [Three-Day Town](https://smile.amazon.com/Three-Day-Town-Deborah-Knott-Mystery-ebook/dp/B004QZ9PAQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1529002500&sr=8-1&keywords=three+day+town). Thanks. For some reason I got the impression that this was the kind of thing that a female author would have a male character say. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/34 "2018-06-14T20:15:41Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > Thanks. For some reason I got the impression that this was the kind of thing that a female author would have a male character say. Interesting. I was surprised that a woman would write it and then have a woman character respond very positively to it. Because it was so not something I would respond positively to! ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/35 "2018-06-14T20:31:03Z")
> [@wonky](#): > > Interesting. I was surprised that a woman would write it and then have a woman character respond very positively to it. Because it was so not something I would respond positively to! Given that a female author wrote Twilight, I am under no illusions that there is _anything_ that some woman somewhere doesn’t think of as sexy. _Especially_ unhealthy obsession from a man. Oh, and regarding the OP, I’m with **CookingWithGas** - ‘So who are you fantasizing about _now_?’ Clearly the dude’s vows are worthless, after all… ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/36 "2018-06-14T22:57:04Z")
> [@begbert2](#): > > Given that a female author wrote Twilight, I am under no illusions that there is _anything_ that some woman somewhere doesn’t think of as sexy. _Especially_ unhealthy obsession from a man. Something about a more powerful being finding you worthy of undivided attention suggests you are a truly remarkable being, possibly unable to conceive of your own worth and potential as a being. I didn’t read 50 shades (but saw all three movies for the geo-porn, I miss PacNW)–is it a stretch to apply that to Anna as well? ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/37 "2018-06-14T23:00:55Z")
Ugh. Bad writing. _ **Bad.** _ That’s what’s horrifying… the writing. ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2018, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/38 "2018-06-14T23:19:21Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > Something about a more powerful being finding you worthy of undivided attention suggests you are a truly remarkable being, possibly unable to conceive of your own worth and potential as a being. I didn’t read 50 shades (but saw all three movies for the geo-porn, I miss PacNW)–is it a stretch to apply that to Anna as well? Given that 50 Shades is _literally_ Twilight fanfiction, I’d say that drawing parallels between Bella and her alt Ana is fair game. Not that I’ve read either one, or seen any of the fanfiction’s movies - I have taste. Not _too_ much taste though, because I’ve seen all five Twilight movies and didn’t murder myself, as taste would require. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2018, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061/39 "2018-06-15T00:18:26Z")
150 Shades isn’t _too_ bad, but I strongly recommend being high AF at the time so it feels more like a mystery. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/horrifying-or-heartwarming-if-your-so-shared-this-with-you/816061.md?page=1)