# How are you supposed tp break up with someone?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 26, 2003, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-are-you-supposed-tp-break-up-with-someone/177637 "2003-05-26T21:47:51Z")\
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**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\
**Post date:** [May 28, 2003, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-are-you-supposed-tp-break-up-with-someone/177637/21 "2003-05-28T03:37:07Z")

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I reiterate what **Ferret Herder** said: do NOT give her any false hope. That’s just evil, because, if she’s got it bad for you, she’s not going to heal; she’s going to hope things’ll go back to normal, thus depriving her of a healthy future.

Otherwise, don’t do it right after sex, don’t do it right after she’s just done a somewhat permanent form of birth control (like Depo. Like my ex did to me. That was seventy five dollars I coulda saved), and don’t do it in front of a large amount of people. Don’t do it by phone, don’t do it by note, and don’t don’t DON’T do it via internet (unless you’re in a 'net relationship).

Also, the line, “It’s not me, it’s you,” should never be uttered, unless the other party has done something truly evil. Be the bigger man; say it’s you. It’ll save her a little bit of pain.

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