# How common are separate beds in marriages? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 1, 2016, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611 "2016-03-01T08:17:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2016, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/21 "2016-03-01T23:29:57Z")
We have a queen size bed, but I like having a spare for those times we’re on wildly different schedules, or someone is ill, or having some other sort of issue that makes sharing a bed less than wonderful. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2016, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/22 "2016-03-01T23:40:00Z")
> [@ElderSign](#): > > Hitler had them in the bunker. > [@Randolph](#): > > And the relationship didn’t last very long after they moved in. Coincidence? I thought he meant that Hitler ‘had’ retired couples and that he took them in the bunker. Hey, coulda happened… That Man was Evil. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2016, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/23 "2016-03-01T23:41:43Z")
> [@Rhiannon8404](#): > > I can remember a couple of times when I was little being sick in the night and going into my mother’s room and my father was in bed with her. I remember thinking that was weird at the time. It wasn’t until later when I was older that I realized what the reason for that might have been. :eek: Hee. I love the moment in Short Cuts where Tim Robbins is trying to get somewhere with Madeline Stowe and one of their kids comes in. He tries to play it off: “Silly daddy, sleeping on top of Mommy”. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2016, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/24 "2016-03-02T00:13:56Z")
> [@Waxwinged](#): > > I’ve had to sleep in a separate room from the hubby on occasion, especially on a worknight- he’s got snoring issues. I’ve had to sleep in a separate room from the wife regularly, she’s got snoring issues. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2016, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/25 "2016-03-02T00:25:34Z")
> [@snowthx](#): > > I’ve had to sleep in a separate room from the wife regularly, she’s got snoring issues. That was the deal for my grandparents, only it was my grandfather that snored. Sometimes he’d doze off at family get togethers and it sounded like someone was using a chainsaw. I’m surprised she didn’t hear him all the way in the other room. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2016, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/26 "2016-03-02T00:31:59Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > That was the deal for my grandparents, only it was my grandfather that snored. Sometimes he’d doze off at family get togethers and it sounded like someone was using a chainsaw. I’m surprised she didn’t hear him all the way in the other room. I once visited my parents after they moved to the east coast and I had not been to their home in some time. I was surprised to find that they had moved into separate bedrooms due to both of them snoring. Each had their own bathroom, too (mom had the master bed/bath, and dad had the 2nd bedroom and guest bath). They seemed good with that, and who was I to ask. Now that I am forced to live this way now it is kinda a downer knowing I am having to live like this with my spouse, but at a much younger age. Anyway, back to the thread at hand. ---
**Author:** ![alphaboi867](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alphaboi867/32/3898_2.png) [@alphaboi867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alphaboi867)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2016, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/27 "2016-03-02T01:55:01Z")
> [@ElderSign](#): > > Hitler had them in the bunker. They also had separate, but connecting suites at the Berghof. > [@Randolph](#): > > And the relationship didn’t last very long after they moved in. Coincidence? On the plus side Eva managed to get married; for some mysterious reason a lot of young German women those days weren’t able to find a husband no matter how hard they tried. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2016, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611/28 "2016-03-02T02:33:45Z")
My parents shared a full-size bed, until we kids left home. Then my mother moved into the smallest bedroom. My husband and I live in separate (next-door) houses, but usually sleep in the same king-size bed . . . possibly along with two cats and two large dogs. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-common-are-separate-beds-in-marriages/747611.md?page=1)