# How did you handle your drop in libido?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [January 16, 2010, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198 "2010-01-16T15:35:29Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/1 "2010-01-16T15:35:29Z")
I’ve turned 40. Along with the thinning hair, the change in eyewear prescription and the creaking in my bones, I seem to have misplaced my libido.
I used to get that itch every three days or so…If I got a little sumpin’ sumpin’ twice in a day or so, I’d be good for two weeks. If I was left to my own devices, I’d masturbate nearly daily, and it wouldn’t have the same lasting effect as sex with my wife.
Now? Not so much. I still have the biological abilities, it’s just that the urge isn’t there like it used to be…and doing things manually tides me over for a week or so. easy.
I guess I should be happy it gets my libido nearer in sync to my wife, but I feel like somethings missing. Like somethings wrong. Like I shouldn’t be worried about it, but I am. (You know, hairy chest thumping virility)
Or, sigh, I’m just gettin’ old.
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### Author:  [@Hilary\_Algar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilary_Algar)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/2 "2010-01-16T16:41:37Z")
It definitely takes the pressure off.
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### Author:  [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/3 "2010-01-16T16:43:34Z")
I figure it frees you up to do more productive\* things.
\*versus reproductive things
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### Author:  [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/4 "2010-01-16T16:49:46Z")
Damn **Shib** that’s some funny there!
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### Author:  [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/5 "2010-01-16T16:54:44Z")
Expand your range. Try new things. Bring in a 2nd shetland pony, or make sure the mime is bisexual next time.
OTOH, if it brings parity to your and your wife’s libidos, the best course may be to just accept it.
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### Author:  [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/6 "2010-01-16T18:11:18Z")
It’s not boredom in the bedroom, it’s not that the ‘spark is gone in the relationship’, it’s that the pilot light doesn’t put out quite the heat that it used to.
I think the concern I’m having is making sure it’s ‘normal’, and that I ‘still can’. If that’s the case, then I’ll just have to figure out what I’m going to do with all this free time.
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### Author:  [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/7 "2010-01-16T18:21:35Z")
If the mime is riding the second Shetland pony, do you really need the marmosets?
To each his own and all that, but… 😉
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### Author:  [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/8 "2010-01-16T18:22:15Z")
Would you consider having your thyroid checked? From personal experience, I know that it takes a toll on one’s libido.
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### Author:  [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/9 "2010-01-16T18:25:42Z")
**eleanorigby** You need the marmosets to make the proper gender change.
**MoodIndigo1** I’m open for most anything (a loaded statement to make, considering the topic) and it’s something I should do anyway, based on hitting my 40th b’day.
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### Author:  [@sevenwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sevenwood)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/10 "2010-01-16T18:57:25Z")
62-year-old reporting in.
The desire is there, but the capability is definitely on the wane. Both the wife and I need to take a bit more time cuddling before we’re ready for showtime.
But that’s not so bad, really 🙂
Then again, the future looks kind of dim. As that great philosopher Willy Nelson said at the age of 75 “I’ve outlived my dick.”
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### Author:  [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/11 "2010-01-16T18:58:25Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#):
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> I think the concern I’m having is making sure it’s ‘normal’, and that I ‘still can’. If that’s the case, then I’ll just have to figure out what I’m going to do with all this free time.
Use that extra 5 minutes a week to take out the trash and put the toilet set down 🙂
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### Author:  [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/12 "2010-01-16T19:00:15Z")
> [@billfish678](#):
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> Use that extra 5 minutes a week to take out the trash and put the toilet set down 🙂
Weren’t you keeping track? It’s more like 15-_20_ minutes we’re talkin’ bout here!
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### Author:  [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/13 "2010-01-16T19:06:37Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#):
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> Weren’t you keeping track? It’s more like 15-_20_ minutes we’re talkin’ bout here!
Oh, then he has time to pick up his socks and load the dishwasher, too.
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### Author:  [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/14 "2010-01-16T20:47:07Z")
I read somewhere (maybe in something by Vonnegut?) that Plato was once asked what it was like to be past the age when one’s sex drive controls one’s life.
He said, “It’s like being allowed to dismount from a bucking bronco.”
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### Author:  [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/15 "2010-01-16T22:23:43Z")
> [@jackelope](#):
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> I read somewhere (maybe in something by Vonnegut?) that Plato was once asked what it was like to be past the age when one’s sex drive controls one’s life.
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> He said, “It’s like being allowed to dismount from a bucking bronco.”
Sort of: Paul Whitehouse said of Kingsley Amis, “I think it was Kingsley Amis who said it was absolute joy the day that he hit 70 because his libido gave up on him. He said that for 50 years it was like being chained to an idiot.”
I’d be surprised to hear Plato talk about broncos, myself. 😉
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### Author:  [@ouryL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouryL)
#### Post date: [January 16, 2010, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/16 "2010-01-16T22:35:20Z")
How did you handle your drop in libido?:o
I don’t.:rolleyes:
I mean I don’t have to.😉
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### Author:  [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2010, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/17 "2010-01-17T07:11:51Z")
Time to get involved in the “Limp Dick” sports:
Golfing, fishing, shuffle board, etc…
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### Author:  [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2010, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/18 "2010-01-17T08:03:57Z")
I think 40 is way too young to be experiencing this; you might want to talk to your doctor about it. I’m 64, and I’ve just noticed a change in the last few years. And I think it’s more due to medications than age.
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### Author:  [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2010, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/19 "2010-01-17T14:36:37Z")
> [@sevenwood](#):
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> 62-year-old reporting in.
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> The desire is there, but the capability is definitely on the wane. Both the wife and I need to take a bit more time cuddling before we’re ready for showtime.
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> But that’s not so bad, really 🙂
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> Then again, the future looks kind of dim. As that great philosopher Willy Nelson said at the age of 75 “I’ve outlived my dick.”
Willie! Say it ain’t so!!!
Ouch.
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### Author:  [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)
#### Post date: [January 17, 2010, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-handle-your-drop-in-libido/525198/20 "2010-01-17T14:39:05Z")
> [@Shakes](#):
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> Time to get involved in the “Limp Dick” sports:
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> Golfing, fishing, shuffle board, etc…
not me. I am hanging on to what I have for dear life!
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