# How did you meet your SO? / I hate the Drama **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 4, 2009, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950 "2009-04-04T05:16:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Quasimodal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/57b2e6/32.png) [@Quasimodal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodal)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/1 "2009-04-04T05:16:55Z")
I’m getting really tired of meeting people out at bars and random forced social events. Just please tell me that some people met their SO without having to meet at these things. I am more of a quiet person, and unfortunately am hopelessly clueless at being the life of the party. I’m just interested in some stories. I hope to meet someone in a venue where I feel comfortable in, like performing music or rehearsing with a community band. I’ve learned trying with people at work creates too much drama for my tastes. I’ve had bad experiences with it this year. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/2 "2009-04-04T05:28:44Z")
Work in a large firm. It was at work. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/3 "2009-04-04T05:39:24Z")
College - sorry. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/4 "2009-04-04T06:05:16Z")
Tour group in Europe. She and I met on day 2 in London and kissed on day 7 in Paris. ---
**Author:** ![ashenRiot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/65b543/32.png) [@ashenRiot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ashenRiot)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/5 "2009-04-04T06:15:41Z")
a mutual friend invited her along to the movies. don’t know if it counts though since we later discovered we had been friends when we were kids. ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/6 "2009-04-04T06:25:16Z")
She was a friend’s roommate. I dropped by his apartment and she picked me. That was in 1987. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/7 "2009-04-04T06:35:07Z")
Through a newspaper ad. I put an ad in the local music paper. This paper now has thousands of “M seeks F” ads, but at the time it had only a tiny section of half a dozen ads, most bands looking for players. Mine said: ```auto Kate Bush fan with records/videos looking to meet other fans to buy/trade. ``` …and my address. She wrote me, we met in person at a record store, she visited me to watch my videos (this was in 1983 and VCRs weren’t that common), we hit it off and have been together ever since. I have to admit, I don’t believe this advice has wide applicability to anyone else. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/8 "2009-04-04T08:23:03Z")
Anonymous sex. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 8:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/9 "2009-04-04T08:41:17Z")
We worked together, were friends for a while and then started dating. ---
**Author:** ![Breccia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Breccia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Breccia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/10 "2009-04-04T10:38:04Z")
He was a neighbor. After his wife left him he would often sit outside around the time I would stumble home from the library. I’d stop to talk. There were many things I was interested in that he also enjoyed speculating on. After ~6 months his wife contacted him wishing to come back. Ascertaining her location he immediately filed for divorce. Within weeks we had a date and have never been apart since. It’s been 5 years and I’ve never been happier. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 11:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/11 "2009-04-04T11:04:31Z")
For me, the fundamental change in how my wife and I started our relationship wasn’t how we met, it was how the whole process started and matured. We became friends and everything else just flowed from that; without being able to really explain it, all I can say is that everything with our relationship was just so much easier than anything that I had experienced before. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/12 "2009-04-04T11:10:39Z")
I agree with Madmonk28- sure wasn’t love at first sight. The attraction was always there I suppose. ---
**Author:** ![asterion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4da419/32.png) [@asterion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asterion)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/13 "2009-04-04T11:26:04Z")
Another college (small residential college in a small town.) We met when she asked me for help with the intro physics homework. We were friends for the next three years (intro physics was normally a second-year course.) Never saw each other after graduation (two different states and 2,000 miles) until she called me up about 2.5 years later. She had apparently spent quite some time trying to actually get in touch with me–she finally had to go through my parents since I never used my landline and never checked the voicemail (DSL and local calls only), keeping the ringer off, and the only time I knew anyone called was when it’d show up with the caller ID on the TV. Plus, I almost never gave out my phone number (I was listed, but that was it.) So it turned out she had actually called my house from a phone listed under a name I didn’t recognize and going back through the history showed several calls for a few weeks. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/14 "2009-04-04T11:39:12Z")
We met at work, but we’re both English teachers here in Seoul, where work couples are pretty common. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/15 "2009-04-04T12:30:50Z")
Can’t help you, I’m afraid - met my SO in a bar. However, I picked her out because she looked like a quiet person who wanted someone to talk to, if that’s any consolation. You don’t have to be the life and soul of the party to get picked up. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/16 "2009-04-04T12:31:49Z")
We met online at a free dating site, just over three years ago. The wedding is in October. ---
**Author:** ![BrassyPhrase](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea666f/32.png) [@BrassyPhrase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrassyPhrase)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/17 "2009-04-04T12:40:40Z")
I met mine online. I noticed he was online in a group that we both frequented. I’d always enjoyed his comments and quite frankly, I was bored and just thought I’d say hi. Pointed out that he and I were often online at the same time. (At the time, due to some of the info about him, I actually wasn’t sure if he were straight or gay–so I definitely wasn’t really hitting on him. He seemed fun.) We quickly struck up a huge online friendship and dated for five years and have lived together for one. Very happy. (At first we started talking about books too. So, not THAT exciting to many people, believe me.) ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/18 "2009-04-04T13:11:25Z")
First year in college. I was dating her roommate. Switched beds. No. No drama there at all. Heh. On the other hand…it’s been 23 years now so I’ve got that going for me. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/19 "2009-04-04T13:43:52Z")
At my friend’s birthday party. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2009, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950/20 "2009-04-04T13:52:21Z")
OKCupid. It’s been four years this May. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-meet-your-so-i-hate-the-drama/491950.md?page=2)