# How did you tell your SO that you like him/her? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 11, 2005, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604 "2005-08-11T16:42:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2005, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/21 "2005-08-11T21:12:38Z")
I know it’s not _quite_ the same thing (one step up, though), but I asked **auntie em** to marry me when I was delirious and in pain from allergy testing gone bad. (Luckily, she didn’t run. But, eh, I would have caught her anyway. I was dizzy and there were three of her; I wouldn’t have missed.) ---
**Author:** ![Lissa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lissa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissa)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2005, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/22 "2005-08-11T22:03:03Z")
I said it flat out: “I love you.” Why be coy? Life’s too short, and love’s too important. Damn the torpedoes. ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2005, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/23 "2005-08-11T22:08:07Z")
Probably in an email. In fact, I’m pretty sure it was in an email. When he replied saying he felt the same I nearly exploded with joy. I still have almost all of the emails he sent to me when we were courting. I remember saving them thinking it would be nice to look back on them and remember how sweet he was when we first started getting serious. I haven’t had to go back and look at them, he’s only gotten sweeter and more romantic over the years. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2005, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/24 "2005-08-11T22:38:49Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > She was the chatelaine of my local SCA group. The chatelaine’s job is to make sure that new people to the group get the information they need to fit in. Given the group we were in, this was a difficult conversation: “Okay, this couple flirts with everybody, but they’re devoted with anybody, so if anybody tried to take them up on it, they’d be hurt; that couple has an open relationship and you don’t want to get within ten miles of them; that lady has an unfortunate ailment and doesn’t tell guys before they start fooling around…” > > I then asked about her and Steve, and she said they had an open relationship, and she was looking to trade up… Total hijack [hijack] WTF? The chatelaine feels the need to know that much about you & tell that much about you? Wow…and is it only couples or what’s the deal? [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2005, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/25 "2005-08-11T23:01:38Z")
I’ll assume that stories about exes count… A few years back, there was a girl I was really close with and whom I was quite attracted to. We hung out a lot together, and I thought that she liked me too…but, hey, I’m one of those you-need-to-club-me-over-the-head types, so I wasn’t quite sure. One night, we’re out on the deck, sitting on a lounge chair, looking at the stars and chatting. During a lull in the conversation, I ask her, “If I kissed you right now, what would you do?” “I’d kick your ass.” I thought about this for a second. “Okay, that sounds fair.” Then I kissed her, she kissed me back, I think fireworks may have gone off somewhere, and at that point we were pretty sure we liked each other. Come to think of it, she does still owe me that ass-kicking… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![phungi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/phungi/32/395_2.png) [@phungi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phungi)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/26 "2005-08-12T00:01:11Z")
a mutual friend had tried to fix us up, and assured us we would be a perfect match… timing was not on our side, and we could never be at the same place with out mutual friend… we eventually met at a party, and my opening line was: “\_\_\_ keeps telling me how wonderful you are, so I thought I would introduce myself before I dropped down on one knee and propose.” I called her, we went out, and after two break-ups and 4 years, we were married… ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/27 "2005-08-12T01:51:14Z")
I was oblivious. He was my best friend. He _proposed_ to me on Christmas Day, 2003. He was in earnest. We’ve been happily married since February 2004. ---
**Author:** ![gfloyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d2c977/32.png) [@gfloyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gfloyd)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/28 "2005-08-12T02:08:30Z")
It was last October and we were sitting around talking with friends. I had made cookies and was discussing my passion for cooking. Max looked at me and said “You’re nice, smart, funny and you can cook. Are you seeing anyone?” The power went out in the area at that instant. He looked up and said “Okay God, I get it. I’m not supposed to date girls nine years younger than I am. I get it, just turn the lights back on.” Fastforward to this June through nothing more than a close friendship. I was crashing at the apartment he and a couple of my friends shared because I couldn’t deal with my parents for one more night. I was lying on the couch, talking to one of his roommate. He stood across the room, sort of dreamly watching me. He said “It’s a damn shame.” “What is?” I asked. “That you’re moving in two weeks to California.” His roommate took the hint and left. “So what are we going to do about it?” I asked. “I don’t know” “I don’t want to have any regrets …” This led to kissing, which led to his bedroom and other things. We both trully thought that we’d just make out and that would be it. Yeah, right. We admitted our mutual love at some point during the most passionate, two week whorlwind affair I could imagine. When I told him I didn’t want to break up the night I was leaving for California, he looked at me like I was crazy (furter proof men have the IQ of kumquats). The week I was driving cross country was gut wrenching. I wrote him every night. When I got here and got a phone, I called him, to give him my number and put it all in his court. He called me back and told me that he loved me and that he never wanted that to change. He’s moving out in a few weeks. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/29 "2005-08-12T02:33:18Z")
After about a week of seemingly constant getting to know each other in the biblical sense, I said “I’m not going to say it for a month, and I don’t want you to say it either.” I knew at that time that she was The One, and he might have also; she definately knew what “it” was. A week later, I told her I loved her. And it wasn’t even pillow talk. I came home from work, saw her on my couch, and just said it. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/30 "2005-08-12T02:36:24Z")
> [@Poonther](#): > > It’s now almost 12 years later and the wild monkey sex still continues… Chaffing isn’t an issue, apparently. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 10:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/31 "2005-08-12T10:27:39Z")
We met online. A couple of weeks into talking he sent me a picture…which was just so touching. Yet kinky. Or kinky yet touching. I blurted out “I love you”. (If you can blurt typing. Anyway I didn’t know what I was doing till I hit send.) Then I took it back. It was too soon. Then we danced around the phrase for another month (“I l\*\*\* you” “I lo\*\* you” “I l_v_e you”) Then we gave in 🙂 . ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/32 "2005-08-12T12:31:20Z")
We were at a Londope. the drink was flowing, I was flirting with everyone. He ended up kissing me, and I think fireworks went off then and there. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/33 "2005-08-12T12:36:04Z")
He said, “wanna go skinny dipping?” and I said, “Sure!” ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/34 "2005-08-12T12:42:30Z")
We had been talking about places that we would really like to visit and agreed that Tahiti is at the top of both our lists. I then read an article in that February’s edition of **Islands** magazine and it had the Polynesian phrase for “I love you” in it (it had something to do with a Valentine’s Day trip). The next time I saw here, I told her I loved her in Polynesian. ---
**Author:** ![SnootQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@SnootQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnootQueen)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/35 "2005-08-12T12:45:22Z")
I didn’t have to TELL my SigO that I liked him… that’s what’s essentially super cool about it all… ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/36 "2005-08-12T12:50:42Z")
We met on a cruise that a mutual friend talked me into going on. We were introduced at O’Hare Airport the Saturday after the Cubs had clinched the division title in '84. She was wearing a bright pink cotton dress and a Cubs cap. I said something like Hi, nice to meet you, fuck the Cubs. (Sox Fan here) Despite the difference, we hit it off. Ran into each other a few times, talked, played 21 at the casino together late one night. About the 3rd night out we managed to be dancing. I just went in for the kiss and got it. I told her to be careful women tend to fall straight in love with me :rolleyes: . She said, “yeah men do that to me too” We both smiled and just kind of hung on. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/37 "2005-08-12T15:00:55Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Total hijack > > [hijack] WTF? The chatelaine feels the need to know that much about you & tell that much about you? Wow…and is it only couples or what’s the deal? [/hijack] Well, it’s a little outside the bounds of what chatelaines normally do… usually they just hook people up with armorers, or archers, or calligraphers, or dancers… in our group (San Francisco), we had a lot of college students & military people coming through looknig for a good time and/or a boy/girlfriend, so she felt it necessary to broaden the job description a bit. Other chatelaines I have spoken with have been shocked that she would do that… but as I said, there was that one lady with the unfortunate ailment… ---
**Author:** ![Alias](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a88e4f/32.png) [@Alias](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alias)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/38 "2005-08-12T17:26:43Z")
Harborwolf is really dense. I spent weeks and weeks flirting with him, making eyes at him, even sitting on the floor at his feet one night and resting my head on his knee. Nothing. He just kind of smiled and kept talking. One night, we went for a long walk where we just walked for hours and talked about everything under the sun. We walked out on a fishing pier, and stood in the moonlight. I turned to face him, lifting my chin so he could kiss me, and. . . he didn’t take the hint. Finally, that night, when he walked me to my door, I was ready to confront him. He turned to leave, and I just said, “You can’t leave until you kiss me.” Part of me was expecting him to explain that he didn’t like me in that way, that he only wanted to be friends, etc, but no, his eyes lit up and he kissed me perfectly. Later, he said that he’d had no idea I’d liked him. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Pixisis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@Pixisis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixisis)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/39 "2005-08-12T17:27:39Z")
i haven’t told him yet. heck, i’m not sure he’s even an SO yet … (unless you count **marathon** phone calls) but when i get home from Germany, we’re going to Vermont for the weekend to look at leaves … ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2005, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604/40 "2005-08-12T18:01:01Z")
Miguel and I had been working together (construction) for several months. There was never even the mildest flirtation because I knew he was way too young and hot to ever be interested in me. But oooh I was so crazy about him. I’d catch him stretching sometimes…that beautiful back would show from under his shirt and I’d swoon inside…but as shy as I am I’d barely look at him in the face. One particular day we had a job together, just us, and we were waiting around for the boss to bring us some materials. There was nothing to do so we were just tossing this marble around, bouncing it back and forth. After a while he started getting closer to me…and closer…and closer until we werethisclose. Then he leaned in for a kiss. Ahhh man, what a kiss! The boss and another coworker showed up a few minutes later so it was back to work. I could barely focus, of course! At the end of the day we all piled into his van as usual, but he got the other guy to drive and we sat in the very back, whispering about how we both had liked each other from the very beginning. Two years later and I still get all giddy inside thinking about that day! (I still have the marble too!) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-did-you-tell-your-so-that-you-like-him-her/316604.md?page=1)