# How difficult are you to live with? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 21, 2021, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-difficult-are-you-to-live-with/940471 "2021-04-21T18:48:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2021, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-difficult-are-you-to-live-with/940471/21 "2021-04-23T04:30:58Z")
How easy is the other person to live with? Is he a complainer? I probably wouldn’t like that, and would probably push back. Does he have definite opinions? That’s OK, I can keep my mouth shut when it’s to my advantage. Does he have every single nook and cranny in the kitchen filled with cooking utensils, including the dishwasher and the warming oven? Well, he does all the cooking, so I don’t get a say in the kitchen, even when there is stuff that never gets used or duplicate stuff that serves the same purpose. Does he need me to be entertaining? Sorry, he’s out of luck there. Is sex an issue? No comment. I guess it all depends really on what’s at stake. If I were living with a roommate there would be lines that can’t be crossed or else one of us would have to leave. When it’s my husband, after 29 years I have learned that almost all those battles aren’t worth fighting over, nor holding grudges over, nor pouting about. They’re worth about a shrug, which is mostly what they get. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2021, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-difficult-are-you-to-live-with/940471/22 "2021-04-23T15:18:14Z")
I _could_ be very easy to live with if I chose to be, i.e. it was for some reason mandatory that I share a dwelling. Because I live alone by choice and would hate to share my space with anyone, I gave myself an 8. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2021, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-difficult-are-you-to-live-with/940471/23 "2021-04-23T15:49:58Z")
I gave myself a 5. I can be very easy to live with - I clean up after myself, I cook, I work, etc. - but damn, I hate talking to people after work, and I don’t handle changes in plan well. I used to, but after I had kids, I found I needed a schedule as much as they do, and woe betide the person who screws that up, or attempts to do modify it. Edited to add: I don’t refuse to talk to my family after work. Sometimes it’s a bit of an effort because they’re always so freaking _there_ and _chatty_, but yes, I talk to them and I’m nice. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-difficult-are-you-to-live-with/940471.md?page=1)