# how do i find a sugar daddy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 11, 2013, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395 "2013-04-11T13:33:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/41 "2013-04-11T19:11:55Z")
How about you start volunteering at a nursing home? ---
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/42 "2013-04-11T19:15:54Z")
As stated upthread, I’m afraid she’s not coming back. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/43 "2013-04-11T19:17:46Z")
> [@Joey\_Tightlips](#): > > And how rich does one have be to qualify to be a sugar daddy anyway? Based on the article \*\*Bricker \*\*linked to, the average sugar daddy on the website was spending $3000 a month. Not millionaire country, but low six figures annually would support that easily. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/44 "2013-04-11T19:29:11Z")
> [@leftfield6](#): > > As stated upthread, I’m afraid she’s not coming back. ☹ _She_? $5 says it was a 47-year-old unemployed dish-washer from Des Moines. And that’s just because I don’t think many 14-year-olds know or would use the term “sugar daddy.” ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/45 "2013-04-11T20:01:12Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > _She_? $5 says it was a 47-year-old unemployed dish-washer from Des Moines. And that’s just because I don’t think many 14-year-olds know or would use the term “sugar daddy.” Oh, it’s made a comeback. I’ve seen it used online in the past few weeks by people born since the Berlin Wall fell. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/46 "2013-04-11T20:25:20Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > … You’ll have to beat the sugar daddies off with a … Is it legal to do that in public? ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/47 "2013-04-11T22:52:05Z")
> [@leftfield6](#): > > As stated upthread, I’m afraid she’s not coming back. ☹ The beauty of the SDMB is that it just doesn’t matter. ---
**Author:** ![gazpacho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/6f9a4e/32.png) [@gazpacho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gazpacho)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/48 "2013-04-11T23:12:38Z")
> [@Peremensoe](#): > > Of course, they _are_ a species of prostitute. [http://www.theonion.com/articles/housewife-charged-in-sexforsecurity-scam,1773/](http://www.theonion.com/articles/housewife-charged-in-sexforsecurity-scam,1773/) ---
**Author:** ![hunnybee87](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/5e9695/32.png) [@hunnybee87](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hunnybee87)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/49 "2013-04-12T00:46:32Z")
umm I’m in south centra KY. I have tried marrymesugardaddy and they want ME TO PAY to view/send messages. anyways what do I have to offer…well I’m not the best looking but better than some I’ve seen that have sugar daddy’s. hmmm I’m a pretty good person in general, and ive been told I have the best bj skills. I’m bi so we could do threesomes lol…I guess these would be positives, wouldn’t they? ---
**Author:** ![Razncain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9d8465/32.png) [@Razncain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Razncain)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/50 "2013-04-12T01:00:42Z")
> [@hunnybee87](#): > > hmmm I’m a pretty good person in general, and ive been told I have the best bj skills. What does being good in blackjack have to do with anything? ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/51 "2013-04-12T01:06:28Z")
> [@razncain](#): > > What does being good in blackjack have to do with anything? There were so many really funny things you could have done with that- I guess you decided to play it safe. ---
**Author:** ![DataX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@DataX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DataX)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/52 "2013-04-12T01:11:07Z")
While plenty of people make fun of it and liken it to prostitution, there is a subset of women who will not have “sex for money”, but will have sex with a man after a couple dates who is paying their bills and treats them well, gives them spending money, and what not. These arrangements start at much less than $3,000 a month - and often start on a “per date” basis. The woman often isn’t expected to have sex on the first “date”. If they hit it off there will be more dates, but most likely the woman is going to have to put out at this point. There are women who won’t just fuck anyone for money, but will fuck ONE person for money if he treats her well and doesn’t make her feel like a whore. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/53 "2013-04-12T01:13:00Z")
Whyncha jist git married? ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/54 "2013-04-12T01:15:13Z")
> [@hunnybee87](#): > > hmmm I’m a pretty good person in general, and ive been told I have the best bj skills. I’m bi so we could do threesomes lol..I guess these would be positives, wouldn’t they? **Told you** it was a 47yo dishwasher! ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/55 "2013-04-12T01:31:03Z")
> [@hunnybee87](#): > > umm I’m in south centra KY. I have tried marrymesugardaddy and they want ME TO PAY to view/send messages. anyways what do I have to offer…well I’m not the best looking but better than some I’ve seen that have sugar daddy’s. hmmm I’m a pretty good person in general, and ive been told I have the best bj skills. I’m bi so we could do threesomes lol..I guess these would be positives, wouldn’t they? Depends on the guy, I guess. Assuming that you’re real, put up an ad here: [http://bgky.craigslist.org/w4m/](http://bgky.craigslist.org/w4m/) ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/56 "2013-04-12T01:32:21Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > While plenty of people make fun of it and liken it to prostitution, there is a subset of women who will not have “sex for money”, but will have sex with a man after a couple dates who is paying their bills and treats them well, gives them spending money, and what not. > > These arrangements start at much less than $3,000 a month - and often start on a “per date” basis. The woman often isn’t expected to have sex on the first “date”. If they hit it off there will be more dates, but most likely the woman is going to have to put out at this point. > > There are women who won’t just fuck anyone for money, but will fuck ONE person for money if he treats her well and doesn’t make her feel like a whore. The technical term for this woman is that she is a semi-pro. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/57 "2013-04-12T01:33:05Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > While plenty of people make fun of it and liken it to prostitution, there is a subset of women who will not have “sex for money”, but will have sex with a man after a couple dates who is paying their bills and treats them well, gives them spending money, and what not. Right, sex for money. Just not so baldly stated. > [@](#): > > There are women who won’t just fuck anyone for money, but will fuck ONE person for money if he treats her well and doesn’t make her feel like a whore. Even prostitutes who acknowledge the fact often prefer not to “feel like a whore,” I understand. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/58 "2013-04-12T01:41:26Z")
I don’t really see any difference between “girlfriend experience” prostitutes (who certainly discriminate in their customers) and “sugar babies,” except that the former are a little more forthright in setting their terms of sale. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/59 "2013-04-12T01:42:36Z")
> [@hunnybee87](#): > > umm I’m in south centra KY. Move to Lexington. Go to Keeneland. Hang around the sales. See who’s bidding. Strike up a conversation. One other thing. Prepare for competition. ---
**Author:** ![DataX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@DataX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DataX)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395/60 "2013-04-12T01:53:20Z")
> [@Peremensoe](#): > > I don’t really see any difference between “girlfriend experience” prostitutes (who certainly discriminate in their customers) and “sugar babies,” except that the former are a little more forthright in setting their terms of sale. Completely different - all GFEs are pros and most will see whoever calls them. Most that advertise GFES really aren’t by most guy standards - many just consider kissing and oral (for the girl) GFE. Sugar babies usually don’t even know what GFE means - they have all different ideas on what they want - some are happy to spend four hours with a guy for $125. There are all kinds of different arrangements made - usually involving something other than just straight money for sex. Some sugar babies have delusions of guys playing them $10k a month. They think of a well traveled business man who will put them up in a nice apartment and pay all their bills, give them fine jewelry - cars - etc. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-a-sugar-daddy/655395.md?page=4)