# How do I find out her ring size? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 9, 2002, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076 "2002-08-09T02:48:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/1 "2002-08-09T02:48:44Z")
Well, me and my lovely girlfriend are approaching the six-month mark rapidly, and I was thinking of getting her a [ring](http://www.5xj.com/). Thing is, I dunno what size she is. I asked one of her friends, but she didn’t know. My girlfriend is living at home (as opposed to at college) now, so there aren’t many friends around that could help me out. She does wear a ring so I suppose I could steal that one, but A) if her hands are anything like mine, because one finger is a certain size, it sdon’t mean any other one is that size, and B) I’d like to keep it a surprise, but unfortunately, I think I’ve waited too long for that to be feasible by the six-month mark. Any help and suggestions would be appreciated, as would stories about how you fellas have worked the magic. ---
**Author:** ![zev\_steinhardt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/97f17d/32.png) [@zev\_steinhardt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zev_steinhardt)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/2 "2002-08-09T02:51:11Z")
When I bought a wedding ring for my wife, I didn’t know her ring size either. The jeweler simply told me “If it doesn’t fit, bring her in with the ring and we’ll fix it…” Zev Steinhardt ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/3 "2002-08-09T02:54:20Z")
Ask her mom. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/4 "2002-08-09T02:59:11Z")
take a chance on her shoe size. it sounds a bit strange, i know. unless she has very thin, long, fingers, chances are the size will be close. ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/5 "2002-08-09T03:22:02Z")
**zev\_steinhardt** - I suppose this is still a possibility, but I’m ordering this ring online (the site is linked in the OP- the word “ring”). Is it plausible to order it online and bring it back to a friendly neighborhood jeweler? I must admit, I have zero experience with this sort of thing. Once again, thank God for the SDMB, and thanks those who have/will respond/ed. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/6 "2002-08-09T03:22:11Z")
Does she have any rings that she dosen’t wear every day? Nick one and take it with you to the store. or make a little card that has a place for every size on it. something like Hat Blouse Skirt Dress Pants Bra Panties Stockings Ring Shoes Ask her to fill this out so you can buy her some presants when ever you want. ---
**Author:** ![WV\_Woman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@WV\_Woman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WV_Woman)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/7 "2002-08-09T03:41:47Z")
Zebra’s got the right idea. If you’re gonna pop the question to this girl, think of something really creative and original. Let me think on it and I’ll get back to you. ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/8 "2002-08-09T04:06:13Z")
Important detail (well, at least in my case)- this is _not_ an engagement ring. Not a promise ring, either. If I understand what a promise ring is, it seems silly at best. But hopefully, I don’t understand it. However, creative and original is good though, is any endeavor. ---
**Author:** ![Gaudere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e495f1/32.png) [@Gaudere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gaudere)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/9 "2002-08-09T04:20:07Z")
If you’re getting one of those rings from the site you linked to, with the custom text, you will _not_ be able to resize it once it’s made. If you needed it made smaller or larger you’d have to chop out a letter or add in extra space–not the way to go. Go with Zebra’s ideas. ---
**Author:** ![symplicity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df788c/32.png) [@symplicity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/symplicity)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/10 "2002-08-09T04:24:17Z")
There are paper ring sizers that a ring store might have or maybe you can find online. When she is asleep you can just check it on her finger. Also, if this isn’t an engagement/wedding ring I am pretty sure she can wear it on whichever finger it fits on. ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/11 "2002-08-09T04:40:01Z")
**Gaudere** - Yeah, I thought that might be the case, except maybe if there’s space between the end of the phrase and the beginning, like a seam on the back. (Maybe I’ll just friggin’ e-mail the guy and ask. :wally) ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/12 "2002-08-09T05:13:39Z")
I, having keptomanic tendencies, would steal a ring for a day and have a jeweler look at it and tell me the size. Or you can do what my friend did and take a ring of hers - when she’s in the bathroom or something - slide it onto one of your fingers until it’s snug, go to a jeweler (or get one of the paper ring sizing thingies), point to your finger, at the point the ring felt snug, and say “Her finger is that big.” Happens all the time, or so he said the jeweler said. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/13 "2002-08-09T05:27:25Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by KKBattousai Or you can do what my friend did…_ Yeah, but like I said above, my left middle finger is _not_ the same size of the right middle finger, so I wouldn’t trust that judgement. I dunno, maybe [insert hand excercise joke here]. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tortuga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c4cdca/32.png) [@Tortuga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tortuga)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/14 "2002-08-09T05:27:59Z")
I ostensibly goofed around with a gum wrapper, little did he know I squirreled it away and measured it later…just make sure you get it measured over the knuckle so she’ll be able to get it on. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![grettle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/aeb1de/32.png) [@grettle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grettle)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/15 "2002-08-09T05:28:38Z")
**symplicity** said, “I am pretty sure she can wear it on whichever finger it fits on.” just wanted to add that this is often not correct because peoples fingers don’t conveniently span sizes. go with zebra’s idea! then you won’t have to worry about any sizes in the future, unless she gets significantly larger or smaller. ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/16 "2002-08-09T07:18:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tortuga \* > **I ostensibly goofed around with a gum wrapper…** Hmmm, I like this one… seems natural enough. I’ll keep y’all posted on my progress. ---
**Author:** ![BobbySuezQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@BobbySuezQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobbySuezQ)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/17 "2002-08-09T14:30:56Z")
well … most rings in a display case are size 6. Not like that will help you any. Generally if the person is right handed their right fingers will be slightly larger than the left. about a 1/2 size. Aside from all the clever advice about getting her ring size without her knowing, since this is an everyday ring, trust me when I say whatever size you get, she’ll make it fit. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/18 "2002-08-09T14:52:57Z")
Does she have big hands? Because I do, and if you got me a ring in a size 6 or whatever, I wouldn’t be able to fit it on any of my fingers. I think I wear an 8.5 or 9 on my ring finger. Anyway, there are some good ideas here. ---
**Author:** ![Jorel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f19dbf/32.png) [@Jorel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jorel)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/19 "2002-08-09T17:50:40Z")
Zebra’s idea is great! Normally you may take a ring purchased elsewhere to your neighborhood jeweler and have it resized, but with a ring like this, I wouldn’t risk it. I repeat: Zebra’s idea is great. You would then have all this info available when buying other gifties…and she wouldn’t think to herself, “he’s getting me a ring!” ---
**Author:** ![Belrix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed655f/32.png) [@Belrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belrix)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2002, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076/20 "2002-08-09T18:32:25Z")
I briefly borrowed another ring of hers, slipped it over my finger, _traced the stopping place with a pen_ and took my finger to the jeweler and tried ring sizers on until one met the same line. Worked fine. Make sure what you buy can be resized. People still change over time. Resizing at a local store isn’t too expensive. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-find-out-her-ring-size/123076.md?page=2)