# How do I get my EX Back **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 29, 2010, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761 "2010-12-29T23:36:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/21 "2010-12-30T01:47:07Z")
Have you tried standing outside her window late at night, holding up a boombox and blasting Peter Gabriel? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/22 "2010-12-30T01:54:14Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Have you tried standing outside her window late at night, holding up a boombox and blasting Peter Gabriel? Peter Gabriel? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/23 "2010-12-30T02:13:01Z")
No no. [Here](http://xkcd.com/159/)’s how you do it. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/24 "2010-12-30T02:20:18Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Peter Gabriel? Specifically [“In Your Eyes.”](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Say_Anything...#cite_ref-7) (Having to explain a reference kind of takes some of the fun out of it) ---
**Author:** ![Justin\_Credible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a8b319/32.png) [@Justin\_Credible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Justin_Credible)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/25 "2010-12-30T02:25:51Z")
Or Shock the Monkey, like Stan did on South Park. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/26 "2010-12-30T02:29:57Z")
> [@conurepete](#): > > Punctuate. Women love punctuation. Well, I dunno. I punctuated a woman once, and she broke her colon. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/27 "2010-12-30T02:33:28Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Specifically [“In Your Eyes.”](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Say_Anything...#cite_ref-7) > > (Having to explain a reference kind of takes some of the fun out of it) Sorry, I never saw that one. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/28 "2010-12-30T02:34:52Z")
It’s an 80’s thing. ---
**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/29 "2010-12-30T02:40:54Z")
Send that bitch a smiley face. Bitches love [smiley](http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/hs475.snc4/50499_288988734147_5437981_n.jpg) faces. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/30 "2010-12-30T02:43:02Z")
What kind of skills do you have? ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/31 "2010-12-30T03:28:00Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > I punctuated a woman once, and she broke her colon. Now she has two semicolons‽ ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/32 "2010-12-30T03:40:46Z")
> [@mookieblaylock](#): > > I’m almost 24 and I have no ex to even try to get back. Be glad you have a memory at all. **Moderator note** : nm. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/33 "2010-12-30T03:47:50Z")
I’m just going to be honest and a mom here. Let it go. It’s obvious that neither one of you needs to worry about serious relationships right now. Sweetie, let her go. You had some fun. 7 months is a great run for 16. Give yourself some time and then date again. Worry about finding a life partner when you are older. Now’s the time to date around and learn how to deal with people and learn what you want in a relationship. You don’t have to have your forever girl now. ---
**Author:** ![Gestalt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/90ced4/32.png) [@Gestalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gestalt)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/34 "2010-12-30T04:46:01Z")
> [@RandMcnally](#): > > Send that bitch a smiley face. > > Bitches love [smiley](http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/hs475.snc4/50499_288988734147_5437981_n.jpg) faces. Heehee. That made me laugh. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/35 "2010-12-30T05:06:14Z")
As with anything you love, set her free. If she loves you, she will come back. If she doesn’t come back, then she never loved you. Seriously, though, feign indifference to her; she won’t know how to handle it and if there is anything women can’t stand, it’s indifference. She will be compelled to regain your attention. Or not. ---
**Author:** ![nathaniel1994](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@nathaniel1994](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nathaniel1994)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/36 "2010-12-30T06:30:33Z")
Thank you for all the advice you guys gave me. I’ll do the No Contact Rule and I’ll probably just let her go. She has seem to have moved on so i’ll do the same. 🙂 😛 ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 9:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/37 "2010-12-30T09:03:06Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I actually think that, for once, it was appropriate. Yeah, we could do without the “pitiful me” part, but he has a point: rather than being upset about the breakup, the OP be happy for the times you had together. IMO it doesn’t work like that. Imagine you were just toddling along with your life normally, then you discover a long lost relative has left you a million bucks. You adjust to life with that million, start to enjoy yourself, then suddenly you get told there’s been a mixup and you have to give the rest of the money back. You are definitely going to be sadder than before you thought your life was going in a different direction from before. (Unless she was a psycho or a minger of course.) ---
**Author:** ![Septima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@Septima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Septima)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/38 "2010-12-30T11:05:16Z")
I the OP sticks around, I suspect this thread will be linked to in the 2016 edition of the “Things I used to put up with from the appropriate sex”-thread. She sounds like a little kid and you are well rid of her. Spend a few years reading books, getting friends, having experiences. Focus on being an interesting guy to date at 19 or 20, instead of trying to find girlfriends now. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/39 "2010-12-30T11:50:31Z")
> [@nathaniel1994](#): > > Alright i’m sorry I didn’t use correct grammar I just wanted that all out of my brain and well it came out like that. It was all of my thoughts bunched together I guess. Well, I agree with the people who said to let go, and I’m glad you’re following the advice, but you definitely get kudos for “being a fast learner” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761/40 "2010-12-30T16:17:29Z")
> [@LouisB](#): > > As with anything you love, set her free. If she loves you, she will come back. If she doesn’t come back, then she never loved you. > > Seriously, though, feign indifference to her; she won’t know how to handle it and if there is anything women can’t stand, it’s indifference. She will be compelled to regain your attention. Or not. Damn! I always thought it was: **“If you love something Set it free If it loves you/It will come back to you If it doesn’t – hunt it down and kill it.”** I now understand those warrants better. But seriously, eons ago I was in the same boat. The exact same boat. Except maybe for the boxing part. But now I can’t even remember the girl’s name. And there have been so, so many more since then, including the _real_ love of my life for many a year now. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-my-ex-back/565761.md?page=3)