# How do I get someone to stop asking me about my weekends? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 23, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928 "2013-08-23T00:50:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/1 "2013-08-23T00:50:40Z")
Every time someone asks about my weekend, I say don’t have any plans. Or that I plan to take it easy. This has worked well enough up until a few days ago. There is a coworker who keeps asking me about my plans for the weekend, and then on Monday she’ll ask me what I did during the weekend. She’s been doing this for several weeks now. Recently, after she asked and I said I had nothing planed, she said, “you never have any plans on the weekends.” I felt that she added a hint of contempt when she said that. For the record, I never have any plans for the weekend. However, I don’t want to discuss my lack of plans with my colleagues. She’ll probably ask me about my weekend plans tomorrow. How should I answer her? ---
**Author:** ![aNewLeaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ac91a4/32.png) [@aNewLeaf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aNewLeaf)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/2 "2013-08-23T00:55:09Z")
“Ever hear of Bohemian Grove? It’s like that, but with a real owl”. ---
**Author:** ![as\_u\_wish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6f9a4e/32.png) [@as\_u\_wish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/as_u_wish)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/3 "2013-08-23T00:57:05Z")
How about answering along these lines: “I’m going to do what I always do–what I love doing–enjoy having unstructured time, to sleep, eat, read and unwind.” What about you? Then kick back and listen to her chatter about her over-planned weekends until you feel you’ve been polite enough. ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/4 "2013-08-23T01:05:26Z")
> [@Lakai](#): > > Recently, after she asked and I said I had nothing planed, she said, “you never have any plans on the weekends.” I felt that she added a hint of contempt when she said that. > > \ > > She’ll probably ask me about my weekend plans tomorrow. How should I answer her? Why on god’s green earth would you even talk to her at all? If I hadn’t been actively avoiding her before she expressed a negative opinion about my off time, that would have made me start. Seriously, I would just stare at her for a few seconds and walk away the next time she asked. Or start giving one-word non-answers. ---
**Author:** ![aNewLeaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ac91a4/32.png) [@aNewLeaf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aNewLeaf)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/5 "2013-08-23T01:06:46Z")
“I’ll be minding my own business. You?” I’ve used this in real life. ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/6 "2013-08-23T01:23:48Z")
> [@OleOneEye](#): > > Why on god’s green earth would you even talk to her at all? If I hadn’t been actively avoiding her before she expressed a negative opinion about my off time, that would have made me start. > > Seriously, I would just stare at her for a few seconds and walk away the next time she asked. Or start giving one-word non-answers. We work in the same department and she stops by my office. I don’t want to be aggressive with her because I think she might escalate things further if she thinks I’m an enemy. I’m looking for a tactful way of telling her to stop asking. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/7 "2013-08-23T01:27:08Z")
What are you doing this weekend? “Same as always. Drinking.” What did you do this weekend? “Same as always. Drinking.” While you reach for a bottle of Aspirin. Should shut her up after a few weeks. ---
**Author:** ![aNewLeaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ac91a4/32.png) [@aNewLeaf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aNewLeaf)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/8 "2013-08-23T01:27:26Z")
Is she trying to ask you out? Invite you to church? Find out if you’re gay? Or does she just think everybody needs company every minute so they can talk nonstop so their lips don’t grow shut? ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/9 "2013-08-23T01:39:29Z")
> [@Lakai](#): > > We work in the same department and she stops by my office. > > I’m looking for a tactful way of telling her to stop asking. “So sorry. Wish I could chat right now, but my goodness, I’m swamped!” Then look back down at the work on your desk and wait for her to get the hint and leave. Alternately, the next time she gives a rude response to your answer to a nosy question, you could look at her and say, slowly, in your best monotone, “Oh. Kay.” That seems to be the current way to tell people they’re being rude. > [@](#): > > I don’t want to be aggressive with her because I think she might escalate things further if she thinks I’m an enemy. Okay, now I’m curious. Has she “escalated” with other people, that you know of? Also, “enemy”? You don’t want to explain your private life. What are you afraid she’ll do? ---
**Author:** ![Cyros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Cyros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyros)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/10 "2013-08-23T01:50:06Z")
> [@Lakai](#): > > We work in the same department and she stops by my office. I don’t want to be aggressive with her because I think she might escalate things further if she thinks I’m an enemy. > > I’m looking for a tactful way of telling her to stop asking. Well, I guess saying that you are going to sacrifice a goat or masterbate like a motherfucker are right out then. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/11 "2013-08-23T01:58:25Z")
I used to get asked, “Did you go home for the weekend?” My response? “Yes. I go home every day after I leave work, because I live here.” :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/12 "2013-08-23T02:03:08Z")
“I sacrificed a goat to the Ichor God Bel-Shamharoth.” “I took a field trip to my frontal lobes. Now I’m back and I’ve brought presents!” That shuts up my staff when they ask me that question. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/13 "2013-08-23T02:08:48Z")
Tell her you’re tanking Heroic Throne of Thunder for your guild. And then give her a hearty “For Gnomeregan!”. Or, if you must, “For the Horde!”. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/14 "2013-08-23T02:08:49Z")
She doesn’t care what you did over your weekend. She wants you to ask her what she did over her weekend. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/15 "2013-08-23T02:15:41Z")
In order to keep from boring myself with the truth, often I make up lies. Not the kind of “funny” lies that a person would know are fake. But realistic lies involving trips to arts festivals and hook-ups with old friends from college and hiking adventures out in the wilderness somewhere. I figure that lying about shit that no one cares about anyway is completely harmless. The more you post, **Lakai** , the more I feel like you’re me and I’m you. I absolutely detest questions about my weekend plans. Or the post-mortem questions on Monday. I know that this is just harmless, well-intentioned chitter-chat, but it just feels incredibly nosy and unnatural to me. I don’t care what other people did over the weekend. So it’s really hard for me to figure out why anyone who be sincerely interested in mine. ---
**Author:** ![Glazer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a88e57/32.png) [@Glazer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Glazer)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/16 "2013-08-23T02:16:29Z")
Same thing I do every weekend Pinky. Try and take over the world. ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/17 "2013-08-23T02:20:34Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > She doesn’t care what you did over your weekend. She wants you to ask her what she did over her weekend. Boom. ---
**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/18 "2013-08-23T02:23:49Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > She doesn’t care what you did over your weekend. She wants you to ask her what she did over her weekend. I’m thinking this, too. Also, she could be jealous of your no-plan weekends and not contemptuous like you think. I’ve had a few people with busy families and young kids ask me what I’m doing the next day and I answer, “Sleep until I wake up, have some bourbon in my coffee, and see where the day takes me from there.” They typically respond with a miffed/jealous remark about not being able to do that or not remembering the last time they got a solid night’s sleep. Eh. We’ve simply made different choices in life. ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/19 "2013-08-23T02:29:43Z")
“Oh nothing special. Just heading down to the cobbler to pick up my shoes, get some groceries, head to the play ground to shop for a kid, pick up my dry cleaning, and wax my floors. You ?” ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/20 "2013-08-23T02:44:29Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > She doesn’t care what you did over your weekend. She wants you to ask her what she did over her weekend. There it is. I started with a new dentist. I know he was just trying to get to know me and all, but when he asked “what are you doing this weekend”, and I said “oh, not much”, he goes “what, are you going to stare at the wall?”. I was too polite to say what I was thinking (why the 3rd degree? - please just STFU and take care of my teeth). [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928.md?page=2)