# How do I get someone to stop asking me about my weekends? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 23, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928 "2013-08-23T00:50:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2013, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/101 "2013-08-25T02:48:44Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > I can’t imagine how this could be a big deal. Just say you hung out with some friends and got some rest/ran some errands. It’s not interesting enough to encourage further conversation but it won’t make her comment that you never do anything. I once had the following conversation: “What did you do during the weekend?” “Oh, enjoy my properties. Went to the supermarket, did laundry, had coffee with a neighbor…” “Yes, but what did you DO?” “Laundry?” “You really should have done something! You should have gone somewhere!” “I just came back from a seven weeks trip and you want me to ‘go somewhere’? The last thing I want to do is go anywhere!” ---
**Author:** ![merlotmerlot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c57346/32.png) [@merlotmerlot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/merlotmerlot)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2013, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/102 "2013-11-01T20:35:26Z")
Ahhhh reading this thread made my day! Good to know I’m not alone 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2013, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/103 "2013-11-01T20:37:37Z")
So OP, what you doing this weekend? ---
**Author:** ![BrianJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/54ee81/32.png) [@BrianJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrianJ)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2013, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/104 "2013-11-01T21:04:40Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > Put me in the camp with those who don’t get why this is such a big deal. I often do nothing on the weekends and have no plans for major holidays, and I’m not the least bit offended if someone asks what I’m going to do, nor distressed to let the asker know that I’ve got nothing planned. > > I smile broadly and let them know that doing nothing is exactly how I want to spend my weekend. If someone asks Monday morning how my weekend was and I’ve had my usual action packed weekend of napping, reading and hanging out with my dogs, I tell them that and add, “it was awesome” > > I ask my coworkers about their weekends because it is appropriate small talk. Like mentioning the weather. I can’t imagine anyone really caring all that deeply about how that question gets answered. This. When I ask how someones weekend was, I sonetimes get the answer "too short’ 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2013, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/105 "2013-11-01T21:05:04Z")
I told the last person who asked what I had planned for the weekend “Plans are for suckers!” It got a laugh, but it was a friend of mine. I find in general if someone is trying to be judgmental about something, if I don’t show any sensitivity to their judgment, it tends to go away. So if someone said, “Wow, you sure are boring” and I said, “I know! I should win the Nobel Prize for it!” then they get deflected. If they were just being friendly, they will laugh and enjoy the joke. If they were being mean-spirited, they might laugh or might just think you’re not vulnerable to that line of attack and move on. ---
**Author:** ![Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bites_when_provoked/32/18073_2.png) [@Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bites_When_Provoked)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2013, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928/106 "2013-11-02T13:25:20Z")
I actually had a coworker say something similar to me about my lack of excitement on the weekends, to which I answered, “That’s because they’re MY weekends, and that’s how I like to spend them”. I don’t like being on the defensive though, so now when people ask I just say something like, “Oh, you know - slept in, watched some telly, mucked about with computer games - _all the good stuff_”. Adding that last cheerfully flippant bit seems shift people from judgmental to slightly envious and they’ll usually say something like, “That sounds great; I had to get up early for X” and then they carry the conversation. Problem solved. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-someone-to-stop-asking-me-about-my-weekends/666928.md?page=5)