# how do I get this guy out of my house? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 17, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621 "2003-11-17T02:04:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![mazirian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@mazirian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mazirian)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/41 "2003-11-18T17:31:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > World Eater, I guess you think it is perfectly okay to move a virtual stranger you have only known for 2 days into your home with your child? > > Amazing. Yeah, just look what happened to the Smart family. Those morons had it coming. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/42 "2003-11-18T17:39:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mazirian \* > \*\*Yeah, just look what happened to the Smart family. > Those morons had it coming. \*\* Not the smartest (heh) thing to do, but the family certainly didn’t deserve it, especially Elizabeth. Even so, bringing a stranger into your home is irresponsible and dangerous parenting. Ooops. Sorry. Was that too tactless? ---
**Author:** ![Orbifold](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/779978/32.png) [@Orbifold](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orbifold)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/43 "2003-11-18T17:48:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\*Are you crazy Bill? The BBQ Pit was created for us to bitch and whine about how unfair the world has been to us and then have all of our friends give us big huggies and tell us everything will be okay, goshdarnit! > > No one is allowed to disagree or voice a difference of opinion. How could I have forgotten? > > I apologize to each and every one of you for my horrid display of cruelty and tactlessness when I voiced my opinion regarding the lack of common sense :::sniff::: and the truly awful and mean “grow a backbone” comment. :::gulp::: Will you all ever forgive me? \*\* My, aren’t you the (sarcastic) drama queen? ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/44 "2003-11-18T17:52:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Orbifold \* > \*\*My, aren’t you the (sarcastic) drama queen? \*\* Why yes, yes I am. Do I get to wear a tiara? ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/45 "2003-11-18T17:58:44Z")
Feel free to get the fuck off the cross anytime now hun. The OP was in a tough situation, and finally made some steps to remedy it, and you come in here like some rag calling him spineless. Just because you can be an ass is the pit doesn’t mean it’s appropriate 100% of the time. ---
**Author:** ![fessie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c37758/32.png) [@fessie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fessie)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/46 "2003-11-18T17:59:54Z")
Start playing an instrument. Perhaps the three of you could form a trio. There’s nothing like listening to a novice rehearse to get an unwanted guest motivated. Worked wonders with my mother-in-law. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/47 "2003-11-18T18:27:16Z")
mazirian, you jerk, the Smart family didn’t bring the kidnapper to reside in their home. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/48 "2003-11-18T18:41:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Orbifold \* > \*\*My, aren’t you the (sarcastic) drama queen? \*\* Why yes, yes I am. Do I get to wear a tiara? > [@](#): > > Feel free to get the fuck off the cross anytime now hun. Get off the cross? You think I was seriously apologizing? Not too bright, are ya. :::WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOSH!::: I came in and gave my honest opinion that bringin a stranger into your home is potentially dangerous (especially to his child) and that he needs to grow a backbone and kick the loser out. I didn’t called names and I didn’t swear. I do however still stand by everything I said regarding the OP before you came in like the whining little busybody that you are. He needs to grow a backbone and stop letting this guy take advantage over him and his family. You don’t feel the same? Big whoopdeedoo. If you think I was being an ass in that post, me thinks you are much too sensitive. Did you cry when E.T. died? Do you listen to Barry Manilow? Do you need a tissue? Grow the fuck up and realize that life isn’t always butterflies and flowers and that some people are going to have a difference of opinion. It’ll make life much easier for you and a lot less stressful. ---
**Author:** ![mazirian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@mazirian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mazirian)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/49 "2003-11-18T18:41:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Monty \* > mazirian, you jerk, the Smart family didn’t bring the kidnapper to reside in their home. Would you have hired Brian David Mitchell to repair your roof or David Koresh to fix the plumbing? ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/50 "2003-11-18T18:46:28Z")
Look, you stupid little fuck, prior to anyone knowing about their murderous ways, folks did hire them to perform labor. And, since you obviously don’t know jack about reality, let me explain one little fact to you: roof repair & plumbing repair ARE NOT RESIDING IN SOMEONE’S HOME! ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/51 "2003-11-18T19:01:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > **I came in and gave my honest opinion that bringin a stranger into your home is potentially dangerous (especially to his child) and that he needs to grow a backbone and kick the loser out. I didn’t called names and I didn’t swear.** And what you don’t realize, most likely because you are a dizzy bitch, is that perhaps it wasn’t the appropriate time to tell someone to “grow a backbone”. I suppose people with alcohol and drug addictions should grow a fucking backbone as well. \*\* > [@](#): > > I do however still stand by everything I said regarding the OP before you came in like the whining little busybody that you are. \*\* Ah yes, whining busybody = person offering positive advice. Stay away from social work. \*\* > [@](#): > > He needs to grow a backbone and stop letting this guy take advantage over him and his family. You don’t feel the same? Big whoopdeedoo.\*\* I don’t have a problem with the message, just the way it was delivered. \*\* > [@](#): > > If you think I was being an ass in that post, me thinks you are much too sensitive. Did you cry when E.T. died? Do you listen to Barry Manilow? Do you need a tissue? \*\* So if I think you are a cunt that makes me oversensitive? What color is the sky in your world? Plaid? \*\* > [@](#): > > Grow the fuck up and realize that life isn’t always butterflies and flowers and that some people are going to have a difference of opinion. It’ll make life much easier for you and a lot less stressful. \*\* Oh shut the fuck up. _You_ need to realize that there are better ways to go through life then as a tactless loudmouth bitch. ---
**Author:** ![Jessity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c67d28/32.png) [@Jessity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jessity)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/52 "2003-11-18T19:27:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\*Are you crazy Bill? The BBQ Pit was created for us to bitch and whine about how unfair the world has been to us and then have all of our friends give us big huggies and tell us everything will be okay, goshdarnit! > > No one is allowed to disagree or voice a difference of opinion. How could I have forgotten? > > I apologize to each and every one of you for my horrid display of cruelty and tactlessness when I voiced my opinion regarding the lack of common sense :::sniff::: and the truly awful and mean “grow a backbone” comment. :::gulp::: Will you all ever forgive me? \*\* Funny, I don’t see the OP doing any of those things. The OP is frustrated and asking for advice, I don’t see any begging for hugs. ---
**Author:** ![LibrarySpy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f9ae1b/32.png) [@LibrarySpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LibrarySpy)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/53 "2003-11-18T20:48:27Z")
As much as I don’t want to help **Diane** in taking over yet another thread with her explosive diarrhea, I do want to address her point. I would definately allow “strangers” to come into my home, especially if they’re internet friends. I have also been the stranger in someone else’s home. This can be accomplished by anyone with moderation and common sense. Heck, I up and moved to DC to take residence with an acquantaince I hardly knew and I’d only met once before. Guess what? Neither of us have killed each other in a fit of sociopathic rage. **star** ’s rant was not about unwittingly inviting a zombie of EVIL and DOOM into her household. She has acted with extreme politeness. This was a great thread until **Diane** and forced me to experience the shame of agreeing with something **World Eater** said. Here’s to hoping **star** ’ll close this one and keep us updated in MPSIMS. ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/54 "2003-11-18T20:59:24Z")
Shit, I know what a verandah is. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/55 "2003-11-18T21:06:41Z")
Jessity, I wasn’t talking to Star but addressing World Eater. Go back and read the thread. > [@](#): > > I would definately allow “strangers” to come into my home, especially if they’re internet friends. I have also been the stranger in someone else’s home. This can be accomplished by anyone with moderation and common sense. Yer life. However, I feel that anyone who brings a stranger that they have only known FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS - not a pen pal, not an internet pal, but a stranger - into their home with their child is a fool. ---
**Author:** ![superstar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f4b2a3/32.png) [@superstar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/superstar)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/56 "2003-11-18T21:37:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\* > > I don’t even know what to say except “WOW, grow a backbone”. \*\* It’s called being a decent human being. It’s called having compassion. There was never a time that we were going to simply tell him to fuck off. He is not dangerous, do you think we would let anyone near our home like that? It’s not about being weak, it is finding a way to end this frustration while maintaining the guys dignity in a strange country where he knows no one, and is trying to get his shit together. Knowing that he is affecting our sanity, seems at the moment to be enough for him to get his arse moving. fingers crossed. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/57 "2003-11-18T21:50:31Z")
Sounds good. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/58 "2003-11-18T21:58:55Z")
Maybe I am living in the Twilight Zone, but someone please tell me that they see something wrong and potentially dangerous with the following OP snips. > [@](#): > > Had only known him for 2 days . . . . . > [@](#): > > . . . .we have a 9 year old. Can anyone answer that with some civility or are we gonna continue the pissing or shall I say diarrhea match? > [@](#): > > He is not dangerous, do you think we would let anyone near our home like that? Maybe he isn’t dangerous, but how did you know this for certain? > [@](#): > > It’s not about being weak, it is finding a way to end this frustration while maintaining the guys dignity in a strange country where he knows no one, and is trying to get his shit together. Maintain this guy’s dignity? You mean before or after he mooches you out of house, home, and spirit? ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/59 "2003-11-18T21:59:15Z")
Maybe I am living in the Twilight Zone, but someone please tell me that they see something wrong and potentially dangerous with the following OP snips. > [@](#): > > Had only known him for 2 days . . . . . > [@](#): > > . . . .we have a 9 year old. Can anyone answer that with some civility or are we gonna continue the pissing or shall I say diarrhea match? > [@](#): > > He is not dangerous, do you think we would let anyone near our home like that? Maybe he isn’t dangerous, but how did you know this for certain? > [@](#): > > It’s not about being weak, it is finding a way to end this frustration while maintaining the guys dignity in a strange country where he knows no one, and is trying to get his shit together. Maintain this guy’s dignity? You mean before or after he mooches you out of house, home, and spirit? ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2003, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/60 "2003-11-18T22:03:17Z")
I’m gonna have to agree with Diane to a certain extent here. I’m certain you did what you did with the best of intentions and it’s cool to see that somewhere in this world people are still willing to help out strangers, but as the mother of a 9 yr old, I can’t quite get my head around “We let him move in with us and our child” I mean… letting someone crash at your apartment when you’re all in college and sleep with your wallet in your back pocket is one thing, but to trust a near stranger around your child while you’re sleeping is a whole different story. Eff the backbone, grow a strong sense of responsibility and be protective of your kid, huh? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621.md?page=4)