# how do I get this guy out of my house? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 17, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621 "2003-11-17T02:04:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Daisy\_Mae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/46a35a/32.png) [@Daisy\_Mae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daisy_Mae)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/81 "2003-11-19T03:30:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > \*\*Feel free to get the fuck off the cross anytime now hun. > > The OP was in a tough situation, and finally made some steps to remedy it, and you come in here like some rag calling him spineless. > > Just because you can be an ass is the pit doesn’t mean it’s appropriate 100% of the time. \*\* The op is in a tough situation THEY created and are now on here complaining about it. I suppose if you have an opinion, it better be sunshine, roses, and kudos huh? The same people who are on here bitching at Diane for suggesting it might not be a good idea to invite a stranger into your home with your children around would be the first ones with a hammer, nails, and a cross if they read about a child rape and murder in the same situation. I can just imagine the PAGES and PAGES of psychobabble about how could anybody be so stupid to put their child in harm’s way. If you wish to live dangerously and invite strangers into your home and put your life at risk, possibly lose all your worldly possessions, and support someone you don’t even know… knock yourselves out. When you do so while you are responsible for a minor child, you are bordering on reckless behavior and should rethink your priorities. If your kid gets raped or killed, I guess you’ll always be able to wear your badge of compassion as comfort. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/82 "2003-11-19T03:34:56Z")
**Shayna** and **Diane** said pretty much the same thing I wanted to say. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/83 "2003-11-19T03:47:05Z")
> [@](#): > > Yes, “Grow a backbone” is callous. Do I -really- need to search through every single one of your posts until I find a callous remark? You post here, you’re asking for advice and part of asking for advise is asking for judgement. From Diane. You couldn’t find a callous remark. WorldEater is the very model of kindness and politeness, and the defender of all such on these boards. The very bastion of integrity. The very model of a modern major general. So the 9-year old is raped and murdered, at least the OP didn’t have to deal with random facelss internet acquaintances telling her to be more cautious with strange men in the house. You should be ashamed. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/84 "2003-11-19T04:25:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shayna \* > \*\*Well, since you asked, no. She asked what to do to actually get the guy out of her house and so far all she’s done is tell him they’re uncomfortable with him there and _hopes_ he’ll be out in a month. It hardly seems like they’re any closer to getting him out than they were when she posted in the first place. Seems to me there was still room for comment on how to actually accomplish what she originally asked. \*\* She acted on something she was nervous about, and communicated her feelings to the asshole, which was a big step. It’s a shame it was lost in all the arguing here, because she should be commended for it. If that doesn’t translate to so far so good, I don’t know what does. \*\* > [@](#): > > Uhm, yeah, so? I just said exactly the same thing; “And once you’ve done so, and it’s now making your homelife unbearably uncomfortable, not to mention infringing upon your finances, it’s incumbent upon you to _grow a backbone_ and ask the person to leave,” yet you characterize **Diane’s** comment as “a kick in the ribs,” and mine as an observation you have no problem with. What’s “epoch shattering” is your contention that “there are different ways to say the same thing,” yet, we didn’t say the same thing differently, we said the same thing _the same way_. Well, I don’t know. \*\* Christ, this is so fucking stupid. Let’s go back to what pissed me off, and let me say it real slow. **Diane** said something that I thought was in poor taste. Telling someone they have no backbone is generally a bad thing. I thought she could have said the same thing differently, perhaps more tactfully, and still conveyed her point. OK, get it? There isn’t much left to discuss. \*\* > [@](#): > > Do you want to have a discussion on a discussion board or do you just want to have the last word? I’m ok with either one, your pick. \*\* Be my guest, have the last word. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/85 "2003-11-19T04:39:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ilsa\_Lund \* > \*\*So the 9-year old is raped and murdered, at least the OP didn’t have to deal with random facelss internet acquaintances telling her to be more cautious with strange men in the house. You should be ashamed. \*\* Did I miss **Superstar’s** kid getting raped and murdered? ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/86 "2003-11-19T04:46:29Z")
> [@](#): > > The only difference being the kick in the ribs by Diane with her comment. See, this is where you come off as nothing more than a yapping harpy. Telling the OP to grow a backbone and kick the guy out of the house = a kick in the ribs. :rolleyes: Excuse me for thinking you are nothing more than a hysterical priss looking for something to be insulted over. Odd thing is, is that you took such offense to something that wasn’t even aimed at you. If you can’t handle the backbone comment, Lord help you if you ever see some of the more lethal Pit threads. > [@](#): > > Christ, this is so fucking stupid. Let’s go back to what pissed me off, and let me say it real slow. Say it as slow as you want, I am pretty certain everyone here got it the first time you blabbed it out of your gob. You were highly insulted that I told Star to grow a backbone. Blah blah blah Boo Fuckin Hoo!!! I’ll say it again - Star needs to grow a backbone and kick the loser out of their home, the home they share with their child! In all of your sputtering and spitting, you have yet to answer questions posed to you. Do you not see anything wrong with bringing a stranger into your home where your child lives? Don’t bother answering, nothing would surprise me. You’ve shown yourself to be nothing more than a oversensitive, whining idiot. Jessity wrote: > [@](#): > > Is World Eater in here somewhere asking for huggies, goshdarnit? It’s not that hard to comprehend, really sweety, but I will try to bring it down to your level in hopes that you may catch a grasp. 1. Star wrote an OP regarding the stranger/child/mooching thing. 2. Diane says “grow a backbone” and kick the asshole out. 3. World Eater says Diane is being a big meanie for saying “grow a backbone”. 4. UncleBill (and Pepper) makes a sarcastic comment regarding tact in the Pit (pay attention as this is where it gets tricky) – TO WORLDEATER. 5. Diane adds to the sarcastic comment TO WORLDEATER by saying: _(hint: Notice how the name “Bill” is used in the first sentence? That means that I was responding to his post but in reality, I was sorta responding to WorldEater too. . . . See how that works?)_ > [@](#): > > Are you crazy Bill? The BBQ Pit was created for us to bitch and whine about how unfair the world has been to us and then have all of our friends give us big huggies and tell us everything will be okay, goshdarnit And as they say, the rest is history. Got it now? If not, you are on your own. ---
**Author:** ![Jessity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c67d28/32.png) [@Jessity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jessity)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/87 "2003-11-19T04:55:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\* > > Jessity wrote: > It’s not that hard to comprehend, really sweety, but I will try to bring it down to your level in hopes that you may catch a grasp. > > 1. Star wrote an OP regarding the stranger/child/mooching thing. > 2. Diane says “grow a backbone” and kick the asshole out. > 3. World Eater says Diane is being a big meanie for saying “grow a backbone”. > 4. UncleBill (and Pepper) makes a sarcastic comment regarding tact in the Pit (pay attention as this is where it gets tricky) – TO WORLDEATER. > 5. Diane adds to the sarcastic comment TO WORLDEATER by saying: > > _(hint: Notice how the name “Bill” is used in the first sentence? That means that I was responding to his post but in reality, I was sorta responding to WorldEater too. . . . See how that works?)_ > > And as they say, the rest is history. > > Got it now? If not, you are on your own. \*\* Yeah, I got it. Thing is, every single time I see your posts, you come off as a harping bitch. Wasn’t World Eater actually saying that you come off as a loud mouthed bitch? Which you do, actually. Harp harp harp. Whatever. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/88 "2003-11-19T05:03:29Z")
I’m curious as if the dude _really_ has two interviews tomorrow. Sounds awful convenient. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/89 "2003-11-19T05:04:33Z")
Good to see I could help. Nice attempt to divert from the fact that you went yammering off about something you didn’t comprehend and looked like an idiot, but as you say - whatever. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/90 "2003-11-19T05:07:18Z")
Sorry Monty, that was meant for Jessity. ---
**Author:** ![Jessity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c67d28/32.png) [@Jessity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jessity)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/91 "2003-11-19T05:08:11Z")
No, sweetie. I comprehended it from the beginning. I don’t think I’m the person who jumped in with both barrels and looks like an idiot. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/92 "2003-11-19T05:10:49Z")
**Diane** said: “WOW, grow a backbone” **World Eater** contends: "[That] was in poor taste. Telling someone they have no backbone is generally a bad thing. **Shayna** said: “it’s incumbent upon you to _grow a backbone_” **World Eater** replied: “I have no problem with this observation, because there are different ways to say the same thing.” But I’m the one who needs to be spoken slowly to. You’re right, there’s something really fucking stupid about this. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/93 "2003-11-19T05:16:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\*See, this is where you come off as nothing more than a yapping harpy. Telling the OP to grow a backbone and kick the guy out of the house = a kick in the ribs. :rolleyes: \*\* OP is _nervous_ to talk to asshole, yahoo comes in an tells her she is acting gutless = kick in ribs And **Jess** nailed it, you are simply a bitch, and each and every post reinforces that fact. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/94 "2003-11-19T05:29:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shayna \* > \*\ ***Diane** said: “WOW, grow a backbone” > > **Shayna** said: “it’s incumbent upon you to _grow a backbone_” > > **World Eater** replied: “I have no problem with this observation, because there are different ways to say the same thing.” > > \*\* Actually I missed you using the actual word _backbone_, as I extrapolated your sentiment from the first few sentences, but I’ll stand by what I said. It was the incredulous tone compounded with the fact that it was vomited from **Diane** , a reknowned bitch, that got my goat, not the actual words used. Hope that helps. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/95 "2003-11-19T05:34:10Z")
Well, **World Eater** , what she _should_ be nervous about is continuing to harbor an unemployed, mooching **stranger** in the same home as her minor child. She wants to know how to **get him out** , not how to get over her shyness. All she’s managed to do so far is tell him they are “finding his presence uncomfortable, and [they] were worried about him. Also that he needs to be proactive with his job searching.” This isn’t even _close_ to actually accomplishing **"get[ting] this guy out of [their] house."** She came here and _asked_ us how to do this and after all the advice she was given, she still copped out of telling him to get out! So **Diane** told her she needs to grow a backbone. And I agree. You can call me a bitch, too, if you want, but that’s just the cold, hard reality of it. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/96 "2003-11-19T05:35:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > > …it was vomited from **Diane** , a reknowned bitch, that got my goat, not the actual words used. > > Hope that helps. Yep. That says it all. (Though probably not what you hope it says.) ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/97 "2003-11-19T05:36:57Z")
Good, now would you like a last word or are we finally finished with this stupidity? ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/98 "2003-11-19T05:54:54Z")
Now everyone feel free to direct their “what if her kid gets ground up into dogfood by this guy” questions to **Superstar** as I am finished defending her. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/99 "2003-11-19T15:07:27Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Jessity_ > No, sweetie. I comprehended it from the beginning. Nice try Dummy, but no you didn’t understand otherwise you wouldn’t have said this: > [@](#): > > Funny, I don’t see the OP doing any of those things. The OP is frustrated and asking for advice, I don’t see any begging for hugs. Or later this: > [@](#): > > Is World Eater in here somewhere asking for huggies, goshdarnit? > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > \*\*Now everyone feel free to direct their “what if her kid gets ground up into dogfood by this guy” questions to **Superstar** as I am finished defending her. \*\* Anyone want to place bets? > [@](#): > > Originally posted by World Eater > > …it was vomited from Diane, a reknowned bitch, that got my goat, not the actual words used. > > Hope that helps In all seriousness - If the words “grow a backbone” coming from my keyboard sends you and Jessity into such a lather, that is your problem. The two of you should really consider not letting me affect your lives they way I so obviously do. Really. It can’t be healthy. As much as I hate hurting your feelings, the feeling ain’t mutual. I don’t consider either one of you anything more than background noise that sometimes spurts idiocy. I will agree that you have given me some quality entertainment over the last few days. Cheaper than going to the movies, ya know? Love, The Reknown Bitch ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2003, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/100 "2003-11-19T15:35:04Z")
**Star** could you give us an update? I think it took real neerve for you to bring the subject up with this guy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621.md?page=6)