# how do I get this guy out of my house? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 17, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621 "2003-11-17T02:04:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/141 "2003-11-20T21:20:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > \*\*Why thank you. šŸ™‚ > > \*\* > > Ah, I love the 'ol question their manhood over the anonymity of the internet insult. Classic. > > Are we done, or will you continue to amuse me with your silly potshots? \*\* Worldy- I think you just proved jlzaniaā€™s point. Sam ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/142 "2003-11-20T21:25:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GaWd \* > \*\*Worldy- > > I think you just proved jlzaniaā€™s point. > > Sam \*\* \ Maybe, maybe not. I donā€™t really know what the hell she is talking about to be honest, so you could be right. Oh well, looks like another sleepless night for me. šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/143 "2003-11-20T21:31:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > \*\*Ah, I love the 'ol question their manhood over the anonymity of the internet insult. Classic. > > Are we done, or will you continue to amuse me with your silly potshots? \*\* I think it was more a comparison of your ā€œtouchy feely make niceā€ posts to your ā€œgargle munch I shall destroy your planetā€ handle. Defensive much? No one mentioned your ā€œmanhood.ā€ ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/144 "2003-11-20T21:34:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hamadryad \* > \*\*I think it was more a comparison of your ā€œtouchy feely make niceā€ posts to your ā€œgargle munch I shall destroy your planetā€ handle. > > Defensive much? No one mentioned your > ā€œmanhood.ā€ \*\* Actually, you are spot on. My apologies for that remark, I totally interpreted it the wrong way. Thanks for pointing that out **Hamadryad**. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/145 "2003-11-20T21:40:38Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by World Eater 11-18-2003 06:00 PM_ > > Are we done yet? > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater 11-18-2003 09:36 PM \* > > ā€¦are we finally finished with this stupidity? > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by World Eater 11-20-2003 12:36 PM_ > > Are we doneā€¦? Why do you keep asking this? This is an ongoing _thread_ where a _discussion_ is going on. If you arenā€™t enjoying it, _youā€™re_ certainly free to be done. And if you choose to continue yourself, Iā€™d like to kindly request that you knock it off with the ā€œAre we done yet?ā€ crap. It has become annoying. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/146 "2003-11-20T21:42:17Z")
Dear **Worldeater** -I was hardly questioning your manhood or virility or even the size of your testicles [sub] (which Iā€™m sure are very very large but only if you want them to be)[/sub] in my last post. I thought it was fairly obvious by my rather stilted language that I was, at worst, gently chiding you for being just a wee bit overly sensitive, considering the forum. _You know-joshing you._ If I were seriously impugning your masculinity, Iā€™d be more inclined to call you a cringing sniveling little crybaby whiny whinger Mr. Poopy stinky butt or something. Which Iā€™m sure that youā€™re not, of course. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/147 "2003-11-20T21:58:45Z")
Star, FWIIW I think you are a compassionate person who didnā€™t use common sense in this situation then didnā€™t have enough backbone (sorry) to kick the person out. In fact, I think you are probably very kind if not a bit naive and a bit too trusting. This doesnā€™t make you a bad person, although I am a little alarmed about the child/stranger thing. I do respect you in that you have taken the advice offered to you in this thread and gained enough strength to boot this person out. I wish you luck and hope things go smooth. WorldEater, how many times are you going to be done? ---
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/148 "2003-11-20T21:58:45Z")
> [@](#): > > I thought it was fairly obvious by my rather stilted language that I was, at worst, gently chiding you for being just a wee bit overly sensitive, considering the forum. > You know-joshing you. Ding-ding-ding! šŸ˜ƒ As I said, by being so sensitive, you proved jlzaniaā€™s pointā€¦ Sam ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/149 "2003-11-20T22:04:19Z")
Hijack - Hey ya Shitgirl :D, how are ya? Long time not talk! ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/150 "2003-11-20T22:29:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\*Hijack - > > Hey ya Shitgirl :D, how are ya? Long time not talk! \*\* Well, at the moment, **Diarrhea** , I have tears of laughter practically streaming down my face because I simply had to go back and read that [infamous thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28361) wherein you originally dubbed me **Shitna**. Thankyouverymuch! Damn, sometimes I really do miss the good olā€™ days around here. Back then we could call each other names and still love and adore each other. Life is truly wonderful. Howā€™s the world treating you, ya skank? (Other than being aboused by **Drum Beater** , that is. ;)) ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/151 "2003-11-20T22:38:44Z")
Oh, and **sillystar** \*, rock on, girl! \*[sub][sup](go read the above-linked thread to avoid potential offense!)[/sup][/sub] P.S. aboused = abused in my addle-brained little world. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2003, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/152 "2003-11-20T23:02:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jlzania \* > \*\*Dear **Worldeater** -I was hardly questioning your manhood or virility or even the size of your testicles [sub] (which Iā€™m sure are very very large but only if you want them to be)[/sub] in my last post. > I thought it was fairly obvious by my rather stilted language that I was, at worst, gently chiding you for being just a wee bit overly sensitive, considering the forum. > _You know-joshing you._ > > If I were seriously impugning your masculinity, Iā€™d be more inclined to call you a cringing sniveling little crybaby whiny whinger Mr. Poopy stinky butt or something. > Which Iā€™m sure that youā€™re not, of course. šŸ˜ƒ \*\* Yep, got that. Iā€™ve recalibrated my touchyness meter a few notches lower, hopefully it will help. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2003, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/153 "2003-11-21T01:12:58Z")
> [@](#): > > Damn, sometimes I really do miss the good olā€™ days around here. Back then we could call each other names and still love and adore each other. Ahhh yes, the good old days. šŸ˜‰ Give that cute hubby Slimey Normus a big hug from me. ---
**Author:** ![Daisy\_Mae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/46a35a/32.png) [@Daisy\_Mae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daisy_Mae)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2003, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/154 "2003-11-21T02:11:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jlzania \* > The very sight of her name may rub some posters the wrong way but Iā€™m not one of them so please donā€™t imply that I am. ::blink blink:: Excuse me? I never implied you were at all. Where is this coming from? You expressed surprise, I expressed my lack of surprise and the reasons why. Iā€™m flabbergasted how you could take offense at that and suggest that I am implying anything about you. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621/155 "2003-11-21T21:39:20Z")
Superstar, FWIW, I agree with the general assessment that you are too kind. Unfortunately, kindness beyond a certain point is no longer virtuous. You have allowed yourself to be a doormat, and there are a lot of people out there who are all too willing to wipe their muddy shoes on you. By no mere accident, one of them is undoubtedly sitting at your computer as I type. (Hey dude! Be a mate and move out already, okay?) I read that you have taken a teeny tiny step forward and have actually set a date for him to move out, 3 weeks out. Good for you! Now, the burning question is do you really expect him to move out? If the answer to the above was ā€œyesā€ then please consider the following: 1. Would YOU ever dream of asking a complete stranger to let you stay at their place for a few weeks? 2. If you did stay with a stranger, or even Uncle Fred, would you eat all his food and sit at his computer all day? 3. If he said he and his family were uncomfortable with you staying, would you stick around for another day, let alone 3 weeks? If the answer to the all of the above is ā€œnoā€ then it is because HE DOESNā€™T THINK LIKE YOU. He is a TAKER and deadlines mean nothing to these types of people. He will stay as long as you put up with him. Because (and hereā€™s the clincher), he has nowhere else to go! Unless he is real lucky and finds another shlep somehow in the next 20 days, HE IS NOT PLANNING ON GOING ANYWHERE. So, please, for your sake, come up with a game plan for removing the new growth from your house in the very real event that he does not willingly go. You are not a victim, you are an enabler. People cannot wipe their feet on you unless you allow them to do so. Quit being a doormat and take charge of your life and your house. If you simply cannot bear a confrontation, on the aforeto agreed upon date, ask him to run an errand. When he is gone, have the locks changed and put his bags on the porch along with some taxi money. Donā€™t return for several hours. He may think unkindly of you, yes. But, IMO, itā€™s better for him to think unkindly of you when you kick him out in December than to have him think unkindly of you when you kick him out in June. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-get-this-guy-out-of-my-house/213621.md?page=7)