# How do I go about dating an older woman?

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [May 22, 2001, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-go-about-dating-an-older-woman/66171 "2001-05-22T05:36:11Z")\
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**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\
**Post date:** [May 24, 2001, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-go-about-dating-an-older-woman/66171/21 "2001-05-24T01:26:49Z")

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I wish the age difference didn’t matter with teens 🙂 I have the most fun, beautiful, and caring friend, who’s 19. I’d LOVE to go out with her, seriously, but 5 years is a lot when you’re our ages.

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**Author:** ![Dijon\_Warlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@Dijon\_Warlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dijon_Warlock)\
**Post date:** [May 24, 2001, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-go-about-dating-an-older-woman/66171/22 "2001-05-24T04:13:58Z")

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> \*Originally posted by BlackKnight \*  
> \*\*First, you need a core sample …  
> 😉 \*\*

Well, that kind of takes the thunder away from my intended “Carbon-14” wisecrack…

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**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\
**Post date:** [May 24, 2001, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-go-about-dating-an-older-woman/66171/23 "2001-05-24T23:16:17Z")

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How do you date an older woman? Give her things you think she might want. Flowers, focus, a little bit of fantasy, a lot of friendship. Do YOU want to? My SO is 7 years younger than I am and we started dating after meeting online because he wanted it to happen as much s I did. I like his openess and his strength. He likes my confidence and I am, admittedly, as sexy as all get-out. I don’t need a wallet, he doesn’t need a mommy, but we both need to feel desired and to laugh and be happy.

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**Author:** ![seawitch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@seawitch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seawitch)\
**Post date:** [May 25, 2001, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-go-about-dating-an-older-woman/66171/24 "2001-05-25T00:46:07Z")

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**Lizard** , try this. Quit thinking of her as “an older woman”. Change the question in your head to “How do I date this woman?” I was a little freaked out at dating my SO until I stopped thinking of him as “a younger man” and just thought of him as “a man”. Maybe removing the label will help you relax a little and decide whether you like her as a person.

And **astro,** control is not even an issue with my SO. But then, we both act like six year olds. Neener neener neener.

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