# How do I keep from getting stuck in the "acquaintance zone"?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 10, 2014, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-keep-from-getting-stuck-in-the-acquaintance-zone/692802 "2014-07-10T22:46:49Z")\
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**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\
**Post date:** [July 14, 2014, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-keep-from-getting-stuck-in-the-acquaintance-zone/692802/92 "2014-07-14T18:22:09Z")

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I think the reason I suck at flirting is because I suck at talking to girls at a platonic level. Once I can get comfortable with that and start having flowing conversations with girls just as friends, flirting will come a lot easier.

Now, as for the whole “asking her about herself” issue. I am still unclear on that. It’s kind of confusing because every time I went to go get advice they would always tell me to ask her questions and about herself. Just look in my [last thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=717309) - the second response:

> [@Talking to a girl I like.](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-to-a-girl-i-like/682757/3):
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> More listening, **more questions**.

Even in this thread, if you look on the first page.

However, you people are also right in that the problem is that it starts becoming an interview which even I don’t like. I want (and she probably does too) to have a nice fun conversation.

But then I don’t know what else to do or say…

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