# How do i tell her i love her?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 29, 2003, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373 "2003-05-29T21:33:43Z")\
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**Author:** ![Ego\_Mk2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/58956e/32.png) [@Ego\_Mk2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ego_Mk2)\
**Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373/21 "2003-05-30T14:50:17Z")

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I’ve been dating a girl for \< 1 year but a while now. Both of us know we’re not in the “I love you” state yet. We’re close, but we don’t spend enough time together to be able to say so yet.

If you know it, tell her. There’s nothing special to saying so, unless she starts laughing at you.

Oh, and if she says “What!?!” say “To blathe Sue, you know, to owe Sue money!”

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**Author:** ![Evil\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/45deac/32.png) [@Evil\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_One)\
**Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373/22 "2003-05-30T15:08:20Z")

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Let me tell you about scared. I started an online relationship by saying hello out of the blue. We talked online for a month and online and by telephone for another month. I felt strongly enough for her by then to say I love you. But I was afraid if I did, she would bolt. Way too soon, right? Well, we were talking about love in general and I blurted it out. Her response? “I love you too!” She was as afraid to cross the line as I was. Fast forward. We’ve been married for two and a half years and have two children.

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**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\
**Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373/23 "2003-05-30T15:24:35Z")

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> \*Originally posted by Susanann \*  
> \*\*90% of all men are either wimps or liars.
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> Half of them are liars and say “I love you” when they dont mean it just to get sex, and the other half dont say “I love you” until the relationship is ending and its too late.
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> 99% of all women want someone who is honest and who is not a wimp. \*\*

Cite? (_Cosmo_ is unacceptable 😉 )

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**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\
**Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-i-tell-her-i-love-her/178373/24 "2003-05-30T15:51:02Z")

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I once asked a woman friend how she would feel if I told her that I love her & she said it would freak her out. Usually I ask them what love means to them first cause no one defines it the same way.

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