# How do people feel differently after having sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 28, 2019, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679 "2019-03-28T19:51:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dunmurry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d2c977/32.png) [@Dunmurry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunmurry)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/1 "2019-03-28T19:51:17Z")
Basically one of the things I would like to know is how sex makes people feel differently compared with before they had it. I would like people who have had sex to respond and tell me if they separate their lives into before they had sex and after it And it it is life-changing And also if it makes them feel more confident ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/2 "2019-03-28T19:55:28Z")
Before sex: “I’d like to have sex one day” After sex: “I’d like to have more sex” ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/3 "2019-03-28T19:59:21Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > Before sex: “I’d like to have sex one day” > > After sex: “I’d like to have more sex” Pretty much that. Erased ‘losing my virginity’ from the list. Wrote ‘have sex again’ at the top of the list using indelible ink. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/4 "2019-03-28T20:07:24Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Pretty much that. Erased ‘losing my virginity’ from the list. Wrote ‘have sex again’ at the top of the list using indelible ink. I wrote “1A find someone willing to have sex with me on a regular basis, 1B explore new and different ways to have sex. As often as possible” I did walk with a bit more strut in my stride for while after the first time. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/5 "2019-03-28T20:27:13Z")
> [@guestchaz](#): > > I did walk with a bit more strut in my stride for while after the first time. I walked differently too, but the soreness went away after a few days. ---
**Author:** ![HotDogWater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/35a633/32.png) [@HotDogWater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HotDogWater)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/6 "2019-03-28T21:37:26Z")
**"How do people feel differently after having sex"** I get sleepy. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/7 "2019-03-28T21:41:34Z")
After sex, I notice I become mush better at things like math and solving the world’s problems. For about five minutes anyway. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/8 "2019-03-28T21:49:08Z")
The answer to the OP in song form: [https://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/snl-digital-short-i-just-had-sex/n12998](https://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/snl-digital-short-i-just-had-sex/n12998) ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/9 "2019-03-28T21:53:42Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I walked differently too, but the soreness went away after a few days. had a little hitch in your britches did ya? I forgot that [this song](https://video.search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?fr=yhs-sz-001&hsimp=yhs-001&hspart=sz&p=stayin+alive#id=1&vid=3ee334995b541cfd634d1b1ff8c4c8a3&action=click) also played when I walked ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/10 "2019-03-28T22:11:11Z")
> [@Dunmurry](#): > > And it it is life-changing Let’s put it this way. Suddenly I knew what I had been missing. ---
**Author:** ![rsat3acr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a3d4f5/32.png) [@rsat3acr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsat3acr)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/11 "2019-03-28T22:31:47Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > After sex, I notice I become mush better at things like math and solving the world’s problems. > > For about five minutes anyway. Just not better at spelling.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/12 "2019-03-28T22:34:31Z")
No, no I like ‘became mush’, sounds truer.😉 ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/13 "2019-03-28T22:58:07Z")
**How do people feel differently after having sex** Kinda sticky. It goes away, though. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/14 "2019-03-28T23:50:07Z")
A bit conflicted (I pushed through, no pun intended, a moral quandry about it), simultaneously awesome, barely able to stand, and hella eager to make sure I did it again ASAP. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/15 "2019-03-29T00:46:03Z")
I thought the question was going to be about how I feel differently after having sex at any given time, not how I feel differently as a consequence of having finally had sex for the first time and no longer being a virgin. The answer to the question I thought you were going to ask has bearing on the one you _did_ ask. After sex, I feel connected to my partner to a spiritual degree, open and intimate and trusting and unprotected and it feels great. So: never having had that yet, but somehow sensing it, I craved it. And once I’d finally had that happen I felt less isolated, less lonely (and yeah less haunted by the prospect that it was _never_ going to happen for me; I was a late starter) ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/16 "2019-03-29T13:43:02Z")
I remember thinking, next time I want to have someone else with me for this. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/17 "2019-03-29T14:10:15Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > I remember thinking, next time I want to have someone else with me for this. Or perhaps more than one. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/18 "2019-03-29T15:04:24Z")
I am _so_ hoping **Hal** chimes in. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/19 "2019-03-29T15:07:16Z")
We could all shear him on. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2019, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679/20 "2019-03-29T15:07:25Z")
To be honest, I don’t separate my life into before-sex and after-sex. I’m not even entirely sure when I lost my virginity. If that means first orgasm by somebody other than myself, whether oral or manual, I sure as shit have no clue. I know _who_ it was with, but I don’t remember the first time. First attempt at penetrative sex? No idea. Would have been with the same person, but there were a lot of false starts and awkward attempts, so I honestly don’t know. Oddly, I do remember my first kiss. That seemed to be a more “flashbulb memory” moment in my life. I didn’t particularly find it life-changing in any way. I still wanted sex as much before as after (meaning I was still a horny teenager and then twenty-something.) It was certainly more pleasant with someone else involved (most of the time), sure. But, at least for me, it wasn’t some sort of transcendental moment. It was a great bonding moment, yes. I did feel closer to my partner, and I am, in general, not a “casual sex” type of person. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-people-feel-differently-after-having-sex/831679.md?page=2)