# How do you deal with this? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 17, 2008, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013 "2008-02-17T21:06:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/21 "2008-02-18T09:00:42Z")
[QUOTE=Nametag] Heh. Jim Stafford had it right: [/QUOTE] Or, “turn loose o’ my leg, you don’t know me that well turn loose o’ my leg, in love with you I have not fell I know what you want, you ain’t gonna get it so remove your hand turn loose o’ my leg, I’m not that kind of man.” (also Jim Stafford) Again, heh. Painfully appropriate. ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/22 "2008-02-18T09:05:57Z")
[QUOTE=brujaja] (snip) I was - shall we say - rather _forward_ with the gentleman in question. Mind you, I don’t believe it was without encouragement. Just kinda tacky. I have a “nothing ventured, nothing gained” philosophy about that kind of thing, but I was I think rather over the top. [/QUOTE] So, my advice to always clean up your own sick would be wasted then? Drunken passes should always get ‘passes’. Apologize and say it would never have happened if he hadn’t been so utterly gorgeous. I’m sure you’ll be forgiven. ---
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/23 "2008-02-18T09:20:14Z")
Aww, that’s sweet, **maggenpye**. Provided I don’t actually die of chagrin, should I run into him again soon, I will certainly try that. ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/24 "2008-02-18T09:29:07Z")
That’s the trouble with being drunk, we never actually die/sink through floors/vanish when we sober up - not matter how convenient that would be. The ads I’m getting are: Do I drink too much wine? Alcohol metering; a hands free drinking system for disabled people and … an alkaline food diet. Alkaline food diet? Does it get you drunk? Do you have to apologize for how you lost the weight? ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/25 "2008-02-18T09:37:04Z")
You can either apologise to all and sundry, or just act as if nothing happens! Both have worked well for me in the past. This last weekend, I just decided to get up in the morning and ask everyone what I’d done the night before. Luckily it wasn’t anything untoward and I was with friends so we had a laugh about it and that was the end of it. ---
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 10:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/26 "2008-02-18T10:18:19Z")
You know, once again, I suspect that drinking in many parts of the world is regarded with a shade less guilty shame than it is in the US. Perhaps I should be leering at British or New Zealander guys? ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 10:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/27 "2008-02-18T10:26:13Z")
[QUOTE=brujaja] Perhaps I should be leering at British or New Zealander guys? [/QUOTE] Well _hello_. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 10:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/28 "2008-02-18T10:40:13Z")
I’ve never lost memory from drinking - been horribly drunk, but just never not been able to replay it all in my mind the next day. I have, once, _claimed_ no memory of the embarrassing events. This was less effective than admitting memory and just apologising brokenly. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/29 "2008-02-18T11:32:39Z")
The last time it happened to me, I promised myself to never let it happen again. And I haven’t, knock on wood. ---
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/30 "2008-02-18T12:09:00Z")
Well, having had 24 hours to cringe, mull, ruminate & otherwise shrivel up with random exclamations of torture, I think that the only things that were really embarrassing were 1. My statement revealing a grossly misinformed status regarding a detail of Patti Smith’s personal life, while talking to her veritable High Priest, and 2. The aforementioned leering. (by the way, hello, jjimm.) …and what I wrote on the paper along with my phone number. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 12:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/31 "2008-02-18T12:19:51Z")
> [@brujaja](#): > > I was - shall we say - rather forward with the gentleman in question. Mind you, I don’t believe it was without encouragement. Just kinda tacky. I have a “nothing ventured, nothing gained” philosophy about that kind of thing, but I was I think rather over the top. You’re apologizing for hitting on some dude? Is one of you two married or something? Are you cousins? Otherwise, I don’t see the big deal. People get drunk and hit on each other all the time. > [@brujaja](#): > > …and what I wrote on the paper along with my phone number. 😃 Well, do you actually want him to call you? If so, why apologize? I’ve never considered drunken sexual forwardness a crime, on my part or on anyone else’s, but maybe that’s just me. ---
**Author:** ![Staggerlee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/staggerlee/32/3134_2.png) [@Staggerlee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Staggerlee)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/32 "2008-02-18T16:41:21Z")
Something else to bear in mind is that while your drunken behaviour may seem embarassing from a sober standpoint, usually those you’re interacting with at the time are under the influence somewhat, too. I rely on this a fair bit… ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/33 "2008-02-18T18:48:15Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] \<\\> If part of a pattern, then think deeply about how you use alcohol. \<\\> I have destroyed urinals, woken up in strange places, puked on airplanes \<\\> [/QUOTE] Pattern recognition is important. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/34 "2008-02-18T18:49:22Z")
[QUOTE=brujaja] Qadgop, fear not [/QUOTE] No fear. I couldn’t resist playing off of your location. ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/35 "2008-02-18T19:22:56Z")
[QUOTE=Priceguy] The last time it happened to me, I promised myself to never let it happen again. And I haven’t, knock on wood. [/QUOTE] Of course, that was just last night! **rimshot** HEY-O!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/36 "2008-02-18T21:03:36Z")
Since “that guy” could be any one of us on a given night of drinking, we have generally found it best to never speak of that night again. At least until we are out drinking and sharing stories of “remember that time when so and so did that thing!”. Jaeger is an evil drink. I also found that in the early 90s, so called “ice beers” also had an evil effect. We would serve them at our fraternity sometimes and those parties would end up with the most fights and random hookups. Ahh good times. ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/37 "2008-02-18T21:33:11Z")
\>Apart from not doing that in the first place… how do you deal with that awful feeling? Mmmm. Sounds like some kind of a trick question. Like, if your hand was caught by a car door closing, what would you do? Instead of opening the door, that is? ---
**Author:** ![Lanzy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/74df32/32.png) [@Lanzy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lanzy)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/38 "2008-02-18T21:54:01Z")
So, drinking too much makes you tell lies? or maybe it makes you tell the truth but removes that filter that prevents you from hurting people for no reason? Just own up to your behavior admit that’s who you really are. Recognise that when drunk you will speak your mind. or don’t drink. ---
**Author:** ![lobotomyboy63](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobotomyboy63/32/2900_2.png) [@lobotomyboy63](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobotomyboy63)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/39 "2008-02-18T22:13:01Z")
As the saying goes, those with clear consciences usually have poor memories. Everybody has gone over the top at least once. What you need is a true friend who was there (and relatively sober) to enlighten you. What you don’t need is a non-true friend who was there and wants to yank your chain, inventing all kinds of stuff that never happened. Then you apologize. The reason you don’t feel better (and probably won’t for awhile) is that you haven’t forgiven yourself. People can accept your apologies etc. but until you decide that ok, you made a big mistake but you’re human, you’ll continue to beat yourself up. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2008, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013/40 "2008-02-18T22:14:40Z")
Chiming in with the Jager is evil theme. I know bars that have stopped serving it because of this very fact. One was a lesbian bar where one of the managers claimed they stopped selling it because “It makes women mean.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-deal-with-this/438013.md?page=3)