# How do you get a girl NOT to like you? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 3, 2003, 8:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391 "2003-01-03T08:36:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Conti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c67d28/32.png) [@Conti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Conti)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 8:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/1 "2003-01-03T08:36:32Z")
Don’t call me crazy. My ex-gf will NOT get the hint. She has a new boyfriend, yet she still calls me and tells me she that she’s still in love with me. Sometimes I tell her not to call. Sometimes I don’t answer the phone. But none of this works. She keeps calling. I thought about trying the “nice guy” routine and be super-nice to her and call her all the time and all that stuff, because everyone knows a girl doesn’t like the “nice guy”. The problem is, she has a boyfriend, and I don’t feel like fighting over her ass. So HOW, might I ask, can I get her to stop liking me without coming off as a total jerk? ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/2 "2003-01-03T08:39:51Z")
Block her number and hope she takes the hint? ---
**Author:** ![SlickRoenick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e68b1a/32.png) [@SlickRoenick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlickRoenick)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/3 "2003-01-03T08:42:48Z")
Ask in front of her friends if she still has a yeast infection or not. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/4 "2003-01-03T08:46:27Z")
He said he didn’t want to come off as a total jerk, Muldoon. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hawklette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/258eb7/32.png) [@Hawklette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hawklette)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/5 "2003-01-03T09:06:41Z")
Try ignoring her no matter what. I also think **Muldoon** has _part_ of the answer. Asking her friends about what she really doesn’t like, and doing that, may work. If you’re close to some of them you may try getting them to talk to her about it. If that doesn’t work, telling her straight out how you feel is always a good answer. If she’s not willing to listen to reason hiding out in a celler or old bomb shelter for a year or so could get her to move on 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 9:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/6 "2003-01-03T09:19:31Z")
Start dating her brother. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![welby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d78d45/32.png) [@welby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/welby)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/7 "2003-01-03T12:26:32Z")
The problem with assisting you in this situation lies in your not wanting to come off as a “total jerk.” Unfortunately, the firm of Welby, Welbi, and Welbeigh cannot take a job of that magnitude. However, if you should need advice on how to be a mindless dweeb, total jerk, or complete fool in the future, please feel free to contact us. References are available. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/8 "2003-01-03T14:25:24Z")
Stop dropping hints. Tell her straight out that you’re not interested, that she has absolutely no attraction for you anymore and that you’d like her to stop calling you. Worked for me once. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/9 "2003-01-03T14:26:51Z")
I usually get women to NOT be attracted to me by being interested in them. Hey, it works for _me!_😛 ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/10 "2003-01-03T14:32:41Z")
From [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=153986) thread it would appear that proposing might do it…😃 ---
**Author:** ![Chanticleer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/65b543/32.png) [@Chanticleer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chanticleer)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/11 "2003-01-03T15:01:03Z")
Tell her that you think of her like " a sister". ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/12 "2003-01-03T15:07:15Z")
Restraining order? ---
**Author:** ![yojimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yojimbo/32/232_2.png) [@yojimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yojimbo)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/13 "2003-01-03T15:15:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish \* > Stop dropping hints. Tell her straight out that you’re not interested, that she has absolutely no attraction for you anymore and that you’d like her to stop calling you. And if that doesn’t work then **FUCK OFF YOU DOZEY BINT** should 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/14 "2003-01-03T15:23:47Z")
This has actually happened to me before. After a solid **month** of trying to be “a nice guy”, I finally had a face to face with her. Conversation as follows: **Dante** : Do you understand that we are broken up? **Relentless Ex** : Yes but… **D** : No no no. Do you understand the situation, yes or no? **RE** : Yes, but… **D** : _(raising voice slightly)_ You don’t understand, do you? We are broken up. We are no longer going out. This is fact. When I tell my friends about the psycho who won’t leave me alone, I refer to you as my “ex-girlfriend”, not my “girlfriend”. Do you understand? **RE** : Look, I just thought that maybe we could give it another shot. **D** : I don’t want to. I don’t like you. I did like you, and although I don’t think we were compatible as boyfriend/girlfriend I thought it might be nice to be able to be civil to one another since we share mutual friends. But for the past month you have made me so uncomfortable that I no longer wish to be in the same university, never mind the same room, as you. Have I made my feelings quite clear? **RE** : Fine _exeunt ex_ I immediately went home and was physically ill. I felt so awful for having been such a bastard, but the point absolutely needed to be made. You may have to do the same. Try and think of it this way: If you were a woman, and a man was doing this, people would be telling you to press charges and arm yourself. Which may not be a bad idea. I’ve never met your ex… ---
**Author:** ![Kn\_ckers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/96bed5/32.png) [@Kn\_ckers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kn_ckers)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/15 "2003-01-03T15:38:11Z")
Yeah, be brutally honest with her - it’s not “being a jerk” to tell her you have no feelings for her, never will, and that you insist she stop pestering you. If she can’t take a hint, tell her your new girlfriend is the violent, jealous type, and you can’t answer of her actions if Miss Ex-GF doesn’t bugger off. I was sort of joking about that part, but if you think it’ll work, go for it. ---
**Author:** ![misstee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@misstee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misstee)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/16 "2003-01-03T15:42:57Z")
If you are broke up, does it really matter if you are a jerk? I mean that whole “let’s be friends” thing hasn’t really ever worked for me. ---
**Author:** ![SlickRoenick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e68b1a/32.png) [@SlickRoenick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlickRoenick)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/17 "2003-01-03T15:57:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by misstee \* > \*\* I mean that whole “let’s be friends” thing hasn’t really ever worked for me. \*\* Never worked for me or my friends either. ---
**Author:** ![roadrunner70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e19b73/32.png) [@roadrunner70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roadrunner70)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/18 "2003-01-03T16:04:30Z")
I was talking to a friend of mine just yesterday, she’d gotten dumped on Christmas Eve by a guy she was totally in love with. He told her that he was seeing somebody else, his ex-GF, and wanted to try to work things out with her. She was so devastated that she doesn’t want anything to do with him anymore. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/19 "2003-01-03T16:07:59Z")
To quote Steve Martin, “Throw up on her shoes.” ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2003, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391/20 "2003-01-03T17:00:56Z")
Be like them. Say you’re ‘busy’… Why are you talking to her if you don’t want to? Isn’t that a double message? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-get-a-girl-not-to-like-you/146391.md?page=2)