I notice that most of the folks responding in this thread are high school teachers or college TAs. TA-ing is a whole 'nuther kettle of fish. I can only remember one discipline problem in four years of TA-ing, which was quickly resolved by telling the student to stop making an ass of himself. The problems there are more about grades and the like.
In the K-6 ranks we often refer to “breaking” kids - taking on the discipline problem(s) and getting him/her under control. I always had more success with the boys rather than the girls in this respect. It’s really hard (and dangerous) to deal with girls for men… so many things can go wrong and you can be accused of some really jacked up stuff… of course, it’s true of any kids - never touch or do anything behind a closed door.
One of my favorite kids was a real knucklehead as a third grader. One time a fellow teacher and I busted him bullying some of his classmates. As a parting shot, I said to him, “I hope I get you in my class year. I can’t wait.” The look on his face was priceless!
First day of class, Rico is acting up. I got to know his two older sisters the year before. I said to him, “Rico, this can work two ways. You can get it together and focus on getting your reading up to grade level this year and being a leader, or you can try to act a fool every day - and I promise, I will be at your house every day letting your mama know what you’ve been up to. Your choice.” Guess what he chose? Through his sisters I dropped dime on this kid every day, and by the time I got to the house his mom had already raked him over the coals - his sisters would exaggerate his malfeasances, I’m sure. Finally, about a month into the year, Rico struggles through the day with no major problems… has his homework, even does a good job as monitor.
I square him up. “Rico, you know I’m going to your house today,” I say. He looks crestfallen. “Of course, I’m going to have to tell your mom you had a pretty good day.” Kid’s face lights up like a Christmas tree. I go to his house, tell his mom about how well he did and how I appreciated her staying on his case. She starts to cry. he starts to cry. I hightail it out of there before I start to cry… and from the point on, Rico was putty in my hands. If I needed him to do anything he’d jump to do it.
I also sent the well-behaved kids on errands to their third- and second-grade teachers. They loved being shown off as “big kids” and looking like a big shot in front of their cousins and siblings.
Shodan’s right. At a tough inner-city school like mine, you wouldn’t dare send a kid to the office unless he/she took a swing at you or was beating the crap out of somebody. If you wanted to undermine any credibility you might have had among the staff, just send a kid to the office… because the kid would be back in five minutes and tell you, “The principal said for you to deal with me yourself.” We worked out time outs in each others’ classes. My friend taught 5th grade - so her kids who acted out would come to my class and have to suffer the ignominy of sitting in a 4th grade classroom as an example of a loser. Conversely, my kids would be embarrassed to go to the next grade up as an example of a immature kid. We’d always make a comment, like “It’s too bad you can’t behave in your classroom and you have to come to fourth grade to learn how to behave.” Sweet.