# How do you respond to alcoholic gifts if you don't drink? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 4, 2007, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847 "2007-12-04T22:40:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/81 "2007-12-07T17:01:08Z")
[QUOTE=Blue Mood] Actually, I have to agree with the spirit of **ftg**. I live in a multi-cultural city and would never give alcohol (not even brandy-filled chocolates) to somebody without knowing for certain that it was not offensive. It would be similar to giving a Jewish person some gourmet pork sausage. [/QUOTE] Or [advertising hams for Chanukah?](http://nancykayshapiro.livejournal.com/35633.html?thread=54321) ---
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/82 "2007-12-07T17:04:09Z")
[QUOTE=Lute Skywatcher] Or [advertising hams for Chanukah?](http://nancykayshapiro.livejournal.com/35633.html?thread=54321) [/QUOTE] Oookay. I _must_ share that with my father, the formerly religious Jew. Thanks! ETA: Are the shrimp and lobster on special, too? ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/83 "2007-12-07T17:31:19Z")
Heh. The Grange in the tiny semi-rural town where I work holds a pork-BBQ-and-oyster dinner twice a year; I guess they don’t have a lot of Jews living hereabouts. ---
**Author:** ![Eureka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/74df32/32.png) [@Eureka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eureka)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/84 "2007-12-07T18:44:56Z")
[QUOTE=Annie-Xmas] As Miss Manners has written, manners are what you do in public. Ethics and morals are what you do in private. Gift giving is mostly public, and manners top morals. [/QUOTE] I disagree with the idea that manners top morals. On the other hand, for many of us in this thread, we do not so much have a conviction that alcohol is IMMORAL so much as we have a conviction that alcohol is UNDESIRABLE. I’m ok with manners topping practical issues. ---
**Author:** ![anu-la1979](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/47e85d/32.png) [@anu-la1979](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anu-la1979)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/85 "2007-12-07T19:08:01Z")
no no **Staggerlee** , they’ve got them antibiotics now, there’s no need to stuff your johnson down the garburator just because you got the clap. All I’m saying is, I wouldn’t be penning any precious little notes on cardstock. Like, “ps, thanks for giving me gonorrhea, I’m sure it will be very useful to me in the coming year…” ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/86 "2007-12-07T19:56:45Z")
[QUOTE=OtakuLoki] Oookay. I _must_ share that with my father, the formerly religious Jew. Thanks! [/quote] Quite welcome. 🙂 > [@](#): > > _ETA: Are the shrimp and lobster on special, too?_ [Apparently not](http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/food/2007/12/06/2007-12-06_balduccis_offers_ham_for_chanukah.html). ---
**Author:** ![wouldn\_t\_you\_like\_to\_know](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/eb8c5e/32.png) [@wouldn\_t\_you\_like\_to\_know](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wouldn_t_you_like_to_know)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2007, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847/87 "2007-12-07T21:15:10Z")
[QUOTE=Dangerosa] (By the way, why is it always wine or Scotch. No one shows up with a bottle of Bailey’s or Grey Goose. [/QUOTE] I get a different brand of vodka every year for christmas from the wife. Its a standard gift. I’m hoping for Tito’s Handmade this year… 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-respond-to-alcoholic-gifts-if-you-dont-drink/428847.md?page=4)