# How do you tell a coworker they are too fat to ride? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 24, 2016, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507 "2016-05-24T00:51:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![misling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ab097/32.png) [@misling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misling)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2016, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507/41 "2016-05-24T19:34:00Z")
My very fat friend has broken 3 kitchen chairs, 1 office chair, and the springs/suspension of my best friend’s passenger seat. Also broken a toilet off the wall in my best friend’s downstairs bathroom. The passenger seat is in a 18-yr-old station wagon, so it wasn’t exactly new, but still - it can happen. I’m not sure what she weighs. She’s refused to check since she passed 340 a couple years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Lowdown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Lowdown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lowdown)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2016, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507/42 "2016-05-24T20:20:34Z")
Is it just you and the fattie? If so that’s easy, just say you don’t feel like carpooling anymore. Probably don’t bring up the tubbiness or ruining of seats, unless you’re thinking that maybe your life needs more drama or you are in a dick mood. Otherwise, I’d skip it. If, however, you’ve got a whole gaggle of carpoolers and you’re wanting to exclude the heftiest among them, that’s a lot trickier. I don’t think there’s a drama-free way to do that. You could try getting pretty creative with white lies, but I don’t think that’s going to play. Best bet is probably, again, just stating that you don’t feel like carpooling anymore. Or, I guess you could just lay it out there. Depends on the dude(tte). Some people are super touchy about their weight, others not so much. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2016, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507/43 "2016-05-24T20:25:15Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Extremely thin people are a problem as well. They tend to get down in the cracks between the seat and the back, taking spare change they find and spending it on things other than food. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Aspidistra](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspidistra/32/3894_2.png) [@Aspidistra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspidistra)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2016, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507/44 "2016-05-24T21:23:38Z")
Indeed. I just opened this thread because it makes my brain play [this song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZkouut-9RQ) to me. And I looooove a bit of Weird Al ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2016, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507/45 "2016-05-25T14:33:39Z")
> [@Lowdown](#): > > If, however, you’ve got a whole gaggle of carpoolers and you’re wanting to exclude the heftiest among them, that’s a lot trickier. I don’t think there’s a drama-free way to do that. You could try getting pretty creative with white lies, but I don’t think that’s going to play. Best bet is probably, again, just stating that you don’t feel like carpooling anymore. Make it fun like an amusement park! How about a hoop they have to step into - “You must be smaller than this big around to ride this ride”? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-coworker-they-are-too-fat-to-ride/755507.md?page=2)