# How do you tell a humorless, whiny Blowhard to get over himself? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 25, 2002, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673 "2002-07-25T01:05:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/1 "2002-07-25T01:05:18Z")
[In this thread about whether or not men also fake orgasms](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=126866) **Blowero** set himself up for the perfect joke and I being a sucker for a straight line took the bait. As per usual \*\* Blowero\*\* reacted in a disproportionate manner. When told by a mod “Behave, blowero. That was uncalled for. Knock it off.” He responded with the rationale of “But she started it and besides it’s just not fair!!!” :stamps foot, pouts: It is obvious to any reader that Blowero hates me with an ire that burns like a thousand suns but, I can honestly say this hatred is neither mutual nor well deserved. I said something rash in reaction to a whole series of unrelated events and he has taken this slight and whipped it up into a self-righteous fury Even after I apologized for the initial remark, his tyrade continues. To be blunt, it intrigues the hell out of me how I could ingnite such depth of emotion in _anyone_, much less someone to whom I made an off hand remark on a message board. But come on people, who could resist such a perfect set up? I would have responded the same had it been any other person on this board. Anyone else would have said "Damn I set myself up for that one didn’t I. :smack: Blowero, get a grip on yourself and stop taking everything so fucking personal, OK? Your little temper tantrums are juvenile and downright tiresome and besides everything is not about you. No really it’s not. ---
**Author:** ![Myrnalene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@Myrnalene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Myrnalene)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/2 "2002-07-25T01:25:48Z")
So what is it, exactly, that makes your swipe at his sexual prowess a lighthearted jibe, but makes his slam on your appearance a nasty, mean hearted slur? Couldn’t he just have been giving as good as he got? Might you be overreacting a little? Or is there some history here I am unaware of? (His was just a smidge meaner, but hey, you _did_ start it.) ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/3 "2002-07-25T01:29:43Z")
He set himself up. and yes there is history. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/4 "2002-07-25T01:36:42Z")
If there is ‘history’, my recommondation would be to wrap your fingers in duct tape until the urge to post a ‘joke’ aimed in their direction passes. I read the thread, I saw your jibe, his answer, the mod’s step in, then **you** kept it up. As far as I’m concerned, neither your original post nor their response was all that horrible, but once the mod stepped in, it really wasn’t ok for you to nudge the situation a bit more. Your last post (the first one on page 2) would have been the more appropriate reaction. and to open this thread after the mod posted in that thread for ‘both of you’ to let it drop, is probably not your best plan either. keeping in mind that I generally **like** you, **Mermaid** , so this is meant as constructive suggestions. ---
**Author:** ![seawitch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@seawitch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seawitch)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/5 "2002-07-25T01:53:32Z")
Please, let the grudge go. It isn’t pretty to witness. I don’t have anything against you, **Mermaid** , but there’s potential for a real train wreck here. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/6 "2002-07-25T02:04:25Z")
Yes I know, but … I’ve said what I wanted to say. I just didn’t want to keep hijacking Chekmate’s thread to say that responses should be kept proportional to the original remark. I merely repeated his words back to him to let him see how comically it was written and he again responds with the notion that I must be a cold fish so to speak. I already regret even bringing it up. Some people have no sense of humor what so ever. ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/7 "2002-07-25T02:40:00Z")
It has nothing to do with having a sense of humor, or lacking one. What it looks like is you just have to have the last word, even if it means doing so when a mod asked you _both_ to stop. This thread is another example. You don’t like how he continues to hate you? Then drop this immature bullshit and quit goading him. I don’t see how you can post things like that and then say the feelings aren’t mutual or deserved. Obviously, you _do_ have something against him, and I don’t think I could blame **blowero** for disliking you for this kind of thing. > [@](#): > > But come on people, who could resist such a perfect set up? I would have responded the same had it been any other person on this board. Anyone else would have said "Damn I set myself up for that one didn’t I. You yourself mentioned your history with **blowero** , yet you posted the jab anyway. Did you not think that that might not be the smartest thing to do, given that history? Do you blame **blowero** for being upset? Did you think he’d momentarily forget what happened before, or that he’d put it aside and laugh along with you? Please. If anything, the fact that there was a prior incident should have made you more sensitive that he might not take your remark so kindly, and think that maybe, you shouldn’t post what you did. Regardless of how good the setup was. :rolleyes: I’m not defending **blowero** or saying he’s totally innocent. But you ain’t helping yourself by continuing this childish crap. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/8 "2002-07-25T03:40:32Z")
Yes this thread is a train wreck and was a horrible idea. That still does not stop me from feeling what I feel. I feel like blowero is way too quick to cross the line of what is a justified and what is an irrational response. That is what I wanted to say. I sat and watched him perpetuate 3 fucking pages about what a cunt I am and in some the most foul and inappropriate language possible. Those kind of comments are hard to forget. Perhaps I am being childish. Maybe I do bear a grudge. It doesn’t mean I have no right to be angry when I am insulted. When Coldfire said drop it, I took that to mean in that thread which I did. So step right up and tell me how stupid, childish and petty I am. It will not change the way I feel. ---
**Author:** ![minty\_green](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@minty\_green](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minty_green)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/9 "2002-07-25T03:45:41Z")
> [@](#): > > Perhaps I am being childish. Yep. > [@](#): > > Maybe I do bear a grudge. Certainly. You concede as much. > [@](#): > > It doesn’t mean I have no right to be angry when I am insulted. It does in this instance, since you bloody well started it. > [@](#): > > So step right up and tell me how stupid, childish and petty I am. It will not change the way I feel. You’re being somewhat stupid, and very childish and petty. We can’t foce you to grow up, of course, but we’re under no obligation to facilitate any delusions of justice on your part. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/10 "2002-07-25T04:34:55Z")
To answer just the thread title, you start with: "Now, **Scylla** , we need to talk about your behavior … :d&r: 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Vic\_Ferrari](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/dbc845/32.png) [@Vic\_Ferrari](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vic_Ferrari)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/11 "2002-07-25T05:03:28Z")
Let’s dissect **The Mermaid** ’s OP together! _1. “He responded with the rationale of ‘But she started it and besides it’s just not fair!!!’”_ Bzzt! Actually he said “Hrrmmph! She started it…” The tone of which leads me to believe that he wasn’t too upset. _2. “It is obvious to any reader that Blowero hates me with an ire that burns like a thousand suns…”_ Actually it’s not obvious at all. - 1. “but, I can honestly say this hatred is neither mutual…”\* Yeah, you’re just taking potshots at him in IMHO and opening pit threads about him while apparantly seething in anger over his “perpetuat[ing] 3 fucking pages about what a cunt I am and in some the most foul and inappropriate language possible.” Nuthin’ mutual about that. _3. “nor well deserved.”_ Judging from your OP I have my doubts. _4. “Blowero, get a grip on yourself and stop taking everything so fucking personal, OK?”_ Oh yes, _ **Blowero** _, please get a grip on yourself. :rolleyes: _5. “Your little temper tantrums are juvenile and downright tiresome and besides everything is not about you.”_ Except, apparantly, for the comment **The Mermaid** made about you in the IMHO thread, and this entire Pit thread too, of course. _6. “No really it’s not.”_ Yes really it is. By the way, have you let Blowero in on the fact that you’ve pitted him? I don’t see anything in the IMHO thread. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/12 "2002-07-25T05:03:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Mermaid \* > **Yes this thread is a train wreck and was a horrible idea. That still does not stop me from feeling what I feel. > I feel like blowero is way too quick to cross the line of what is a justified and what is an irrational response. That is what I wanted to say. I sat and watched him perpetuate 3 fucking pages about what a cunt I am and in some the most foul and inappropriate language possible. Those kind of comments are hard to forget.** What are you talking about? I’m lost or your meds are better than mine. His response to your taunt in the thread was pissy but fairly mild. Where are these three pages of foul language and invective you cite? ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/13 "2002-07-25T05:15:26Z")
**astro** I suspect that she’s referring to the ‘history’ they have together. I don’t recall it personally, but I don’t believe she’s attempting to say the linked thread is the one that was 3 pages long of horrible posts. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/14 "2002-07-25T05:41:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by wring \* > \*\ ***astro** I suspect that she’s referring to the ‘history’ they have together. I don’t recall it personally, but I don’t believe she’s attempting to say the linked thread is the one that was 3 pages long of horrible posts. \*\* I’m still confused. Here are their comments in the thread > [@](#): > > Blowero: It’s not always like that, though. I’ve had a few partners who finished pretty quickly, and then got kinda bored with the whole affair. When they start looking at their watch, or say “So…you done yet?”, it kinda takes the fun out of it. In that case I’d fake it. The couple of times that’s happened to me, I just dropped the condom in the trash - I didn’t figure anyone is gonna be curious enough to go digging through the trash looking for evidence. > The Mermaid: So what you’re saying blowero is that your partners are sometimes so bored that they are checking their watches and asking “So…are you done yet”. > > Who’da thunk it? > > Blowero: Well, not literally. I just meant that some people like it quick, and some people like it to last longer, and sometimes you have a discrepancy between two partners. But you needn’t worry, Mermaid - If I were with you (God forbid), it would be the first time in my life I wouldn’t even be able to get it up at all. But I’m sure you have that effect on most men. > > Coldfire: Behave, blowero. That was uncalled for. Knock it off. > > Blowero: Hrrmmph! She started it… > > The Mermaid: I was just quoting the man directly. His words, not mine. > > Blowero: I hate to ask this of the mods, but if you’re not going to allow me to respond to The Mermaid’s insulting posts, could you at least get her to stop posting personal attacks? Her intent is obviously to try to insult me under the guise of “I’m just repeating what YOU said”, and, frankly, is rather childish. I understand your policy of discouraging rude and insulting posts, but it’s a little annoying when it’s only applied to me. Thanks. > > Coldfire: I think you’re both being childish. And I know you’re both going to drop it now. > > The Mermaid: Chekmate I do apologize for the rather rude hijacking of your thread. I am sorry. It is an interesting and unusual topic that I don’t recall has been specifically addressed until now. People always think it’s the women who are faking it. I’m relieved to hear it is a universal phenomenon. Where’s the three pages of horrific invective and name calling much less the word “cunt” The Mermaid cites? ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/15 "2002-07-25T05:47:22Z")
perhaps I wasn’t clear. In this thread, she mentions that they have ‘history’ (ie they’ve had some negative dealings w/each other in the past). The **linked** thread _isn’t_ the ‘history’. I suspect she’s saying that in there’s a thread from way before where the two got ugly w/each other. And that’s why she thinks he ‘over reacted’ to her post in the linked thread. (note, I’m not claiming that he over reacted) ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/16 "2002-07-25T05:56:55Z")
Sorry should had read your post more carefully. ---
**Author:** ![blowero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/41988e/32.png) [@blowero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blowero)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/17 "2002-07-25T08:23:39Z")
Mermaid, you aren’t fooling anyone. You are obviously still angry about the tiff we had a while back, and your little “joke” was posted as revenge. To be honest, you’re kind of scaring me now, and I’d really appreciate it if you would just stop directing any posts at me, no matter how strong the urge to take a jab at me, and I will do the same for you, o.k.? ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/18 "2002-07-25T08:23:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Mermaid \* > **When Coldfire said drop it, I took that to mean in that thread which I did.** Correct. Every poster is free to make a complete and utter fool of themselves in the Pit. Have fun. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 9:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/19 "2002-07-25T09:41:07Z")
Yes, about a month ago the two of them got into a hair-pulling match over some pretty minor stuff. There wasn’t really much worth linking to. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2002, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673/20 "2002-07-25T09:57:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by blowero \* > \*\*Mermaid, you aren’t fooling anyone. You are obviously still angry about the tiff we had a while back, and your little “joke” was posted as revenge. To be honest, you’re kind of scaring me now, and I’d really appreciate it if you would just stop directing any posts at me, no matter how strong the urge to take a jab at me, and I will do the same for you, o.k.? \*\* Ding ding ding We have a winner. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-do-you-tell-a-humorless-whiny-blowhard-to-get-over-himself/120673.md?page=2)