# How does an orgy happen?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [January 10, 2007, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467 "2007-01-10T22:54:52Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Baron\_Greenback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Greenback)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/21 "2007-01-11T01:02:09Z")
[QUOTE=Hilarity N. Suze]
Take several college students of both sexes & all possible orientations. Get together for bridge. Oops, wrong number for bridge. Okay, poker. Add substances–say, Annie Green Springs strawberry wine & something you can smoke. Decide it’s gonna be strip poker. Etc.
Finish with chocolate chip cookies and water (the only potable left).
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Yeah, I’ve seen that one.
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### Author:  [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/22 "2007-01-11T01:04:56Z")
[QUOTE=figure9]
UH-OH! No listing in my yellow pages under Orgy Planner.
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In biz school, that’s called “unmet demand”. Sounds like a business opportunity if I ever heard of one. 😉
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### Author:  [@Fiveyearlurker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveyearlurker)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/23 "2007-01-11T01:36:08Z")
[QUOTE=pravnik]
How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
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I say minimum of five. Four is two couples.
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### Author:  [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/24 "2007-01-11T01:51:51Z")
[QUOTE=JohnT]
In biz school, that’s called “unmet demand”. Sounds like a business opportunity if I ever heard of one. 😉
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I’ll bet there’s probably a p0rn version of a certain J.Lo vehicle that’s way ahead of you on this one.
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### Author:  [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/25 "2007-01-11T01:55:49Z")
The one I attended was pretty much an open invitation amoung a group of regulars at a club. ‘Hey orgy at my place at 2’.
I think orgy’s are alot less enjoyable in real life then they look in pornos. To many people and no organization makes for alot of kneeing and elbowing.
4 seems to me as a starting point for an orgy. Though if it is 2 couples that doesn’t count.
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### Author:  [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/26 "2007-01-11T02:24:02Z")
Back when I was going to art college I went to a “Mazola” party - empty appartment (or house, I suppose), black garbage bags taped up all over the place, walls, floor, etc, mazola, naked or semi naked people.
It wasn’t actually billed as an “orgy” per se, but there were a boat load of people fucking, so I guess it qualifies.
So, I guess that’s one way.
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### Author:  [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/27 "2007-01-11T02:42:19Z")
[QUOTE=Larry Mudd]
The only literal orgy I ever attended started as a run-of-the-mill nerd party. A little after midnight, the hostess loudly declared that anyone who wished to remain were required to strip down, and everyone else could hit the road. Good times.
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And which did you do? Don’t leave us hanging brother, details, details…
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### Author:  [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/28 "2007-01-11T02:44:36Z")
A friend of ours keeps whining that he wants to have a naked party. We keep telling him that one doesn’t plan a good naked party; it has to be _spontaneous_.
We have another couple in our neighborhood that broke up because they were wife-swapping and couple B ended up liking each other more than they liked their respective spouses. I asked the same question: How do wife swappers ever connect up? I mean, that has a great potential for ending the evening on a real sour note.
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### Author:  [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/29 "2007-01-11T02:48:28Z")
Hey, I just realized we should have a Doper orgy. Now that would be fun.
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### Author:  [@Sunshine\_and\_Smiles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunshine_and_Smiles)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/30 "2007-01-11T02:48:31Z")
All you need is drums to start an orgy party.
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### Author:  [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/31 "2007-01-11T02:53:04Z")
It’s got to be more than two couples, otherwise it’s just swapping. If you’re going to organize an orgy, remember to:
1. Make sure everyone understands that No Means No.
2. Provide condoms. A variety of shapes, colors or even flavors enhances the experience.
3. Provide lubrication.
4. Provide clean linens and a pile of handtowels, and leave them out where people can see them.
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### Author:  [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/32 "2007-01-11T03:20:14Z")
[QUOTE=PunditLisa]
I asked the same question: How do wife swappers ever connect up? I mean, that has a great potential for ending the evening on a real sour note.
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I wonder this myself. It’s not like anyone’s ever asked us, “so, you guys wanna make a trade tonight?” (Maybe we’re just really unattractive, or something. ☹ )
But really–how do potential wife swappers and orgiers find each other?
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### Author:  [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/33 "2007-01-11T03:23:26Z")
[QUOTE=Green Bean]
I wonder this myself. It’s not like anyone’s ever asked us, “so, you guys wanna make a trade tonight?” (Maybe we’re just really unattractive, or something. ☹ )
But really–how do potential wife swappers and orgiers find each other?
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Like everything else there are websites for it. Before websites it was done through networking.
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### Author:  [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/34 "2007-01-11T03:24:55Z")
How does an orgy happen? Well, when a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy love each other VERY much …
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### Author:  [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/35 "2007-01-11T03:36:47Z")
[QUOTE=Czarcasm]
It’s got to be more than two couples, otherwise it’s just swapping. If you’re going to organize an orgy, remember to:
1. Make sure everyone understands that No Means No.
2. Provide condoms. A variety of shapes, colors or even flavors enhances the experience.
3. Provide lubrication.
4. Provide clean linens and a pile of handtowels, and leave them out where people can see them.
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You know, sometimes I forget just what an incredible resource our moderators are. And then they say something like this.
**Czarcasm** , sir, you should run for public office. Your country needs you.
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### Author:  [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/36 "2007-01-11T03:41:37Z")
[QUOTE=Mr. Excellent]
You know, sometimes I forget just what an incredible resource our moderators are. And then they say something like this.
**Czarcasm** , sir, you should run for public office. Your country needs you.
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No, I think I’ll stay where I am most needed in these trying times. Moderating orgies is a thankless task, but _somebody_ has to do it.
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### Author:  [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/37 "2007-01-11T04:10:10Z")
[QUOTE=boytyperanma]
Like everything else there are websites for it. Before websites it was done through networking.
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Okay–but how did you know who to network _with_??
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### Author:  [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/38 "2007-01-11T04:18:58Z")
They’ll find you.
Anecdote: Back in the early 80’s there was an active swapping group going on among the troops stationed at Fort Richardson, Alaska. Because several of them were in my roommate’s unit, and he couldn’t/wouldn’t attend, the invitations tended to get tossed my way. The girl I was dating at the time was into that scene, so that was no problem. Not really my scene, but an interesting experience nonetheless.
Pre-AIDS was such an easier time…
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### Author:  [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/39 "2007-01-11T04:21:13Z")
[QUOTE=Green Bean]
Okay–but how did you know who to network _with_??
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Generally word of mouth. There were “hot spots” where you could expect to meet some swingers, from there you generally hooked up indepedently for future activities. For example, in my area there are a couple “adult theatres” with “semi-private viewing rooms”. Basically a bunch of chairs and a projector playing a porno. On Saturday nights they have “couple’s night” where only couples are allowed in the theatre. If you see a couple going in there, odds are reasonably good that they’re into at least some level of swinging.
Enjoy,
Steven
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### Author:  [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)
#### Post date: [January 11, 2007, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-does-an-orgy-happen/387467/40 "2007-01-11T04:35:40Z")
Oh \*\*FormerMarineGuy…\*\*where are you?
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