It’s all just baffling to me. How could anyone dare to tell someone else what to do in his own personal life? How could anyone dare to do that and then try to backpedal by hypocritically saying “I don’t have a problem with homosexuality?” How could anyone dare to assume that his opinion about something that doesn’t affect him in the slightest, should mean he gets to determine what I’m allowed to do and not to do?
Do these people honestly believe that their petty attempts to ban gay marriage is going to stop homosexuals from having sex? Are they just completely incapable of understanding that the people who want to get married are by definition the ones who aren’t promiscuous? Do they really believe they have the right to so casually impose their morality on everyone else? I honestly, sincerely can’t even begin to understand that mindset.
The Dun King, if I may make a perhaps comment or two about how it seems you’re reasoning this?
A lot of what you’ve said about why gay marriage is ‘spiritually’ lesser (and I know you’re not 100% satisfied with the word ‘spiritual’ here), is based on the way you percieve gays in general tend to behave. They are promiscuous and not really interested in the kind of commitment that you are interested in. This might even be completely true within your realm of experience, and lets, for the sake of argument, assume that this is an actual tendancy of gays, and that your spiritual bond and more innate desire to remain committed and faithful derives in part from your heterosexual-ness (ie, commitment is built into hetersexual-ness to some degree. Remember, I’m setting these up as hypotheticals for the moment).
Does this still mean that the gay couple who bucks the trend’s marriage would be ‘lesser’ than the heterosexual couple’s marriage where the husband or wife sleeps around, or maybe chooses to not have kids?
And, really, when it comes down to it, how do you go about ranking the spiritual (or whatever) level of other people’s marriages in a way that can be any more accurate than, “I disapprove of your behavior and/or it gives me an icky feeling and so it must be ranked less than mine”? Is there a method by which proper behavior will rate one higher up on the ‘spirituallly’ correct scale? So that if I am hetero and have one kid who’s adopted, I’ll know how I stand next to a homosexual couple who have a kid by a previous m/f relationship by one of the partners, and how they stand next to a couple who had a kid who was killed and they never had another one?
No one has ever loved as hard as I have, and no one has ever hurt as deeply as I, yet I know that the truth of that only goes as far as my own ego. I would never pretend to think that when I last had my heart broken it broke more than someone else’s, or that the bond I had with the last girl I loved was something that no other person had ever experienced before. We all love, and everyone’s love is different. I’m not really sure on what basis I would go about qualifying other people’s love and commitment.
I feel like I was rambling a bit; I hope you find some valuable questions and thoughts in there.