Yes, the discussion is simple
- a kid does not need insurance, except maybe to cover his funeral (and what are the odds of that??).
-a senior needs coverage for a funeral if they haven’t planned ahead; that would be what? $10,000? $20,000 at the outside. The kind of family that thinks a funeral needs to cost $20,000 is probably the same sort of family that never saved for it and never planned ahead.
-a younger family, the traditional spouse and 2.3 dependents type, needs a helluva lot more than that. Where I used to work, the group benefit options were 1x to 5x annual salary, for salaries that started from at least $50,000 (probably much higher now). And as a group benefit policy, for 20 to 55 year olds, it was pretty cheap. (My wife’s policy for 55-plus gets expensive, and cannot be used for over 65 spouses) Up to 5x might cover outstanding mortgage (maybe) and perhaps the other debts, and give the stay-at-home spouse (if so) time to get established in the workplace.
So with whole life someone is either seriously underinsuring their 25-55 responsibilities, or seriously overpaying and over-insuring in their 60’s and beyond when they (usually) have no dependents and have their financial future and retirement income already mapped out. You sure as hell don’t need the equivalent of two or three years’ salary to pay for a funeral, unless it’s an open bar and your friends are a lot younger than you.
This is why the argument - skip whole life. Depending on how much you select, it either pays nowhere near enough when you need it, or way too much when you don’t and most likely your ex-dependents don’t. The difference between whole and term is better spent saving for and spending on retirement instead.
Another note about funerals. They are different today. My recent experience is that a lot of people live into their 80’s and 90’s. Someone who is 90 is probably less mobile, and many of their friends are gone already, and the majority of attendees at the funeral will be family - if they are not spread all over the country. Any friends are possibly sufficiently old too that getting to the funeral is a difficulty; co-workers are a distant memory. The huge funerals of years gone by were for those who went early - 60’s or 70’s - when they still had a large circle of active friends and people who knew them from assorted activities, to fill a church.