# How effective is simply asking "want to have sex?" **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 25, 2003, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991 "2003-04-25T00:44:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/21 "2003-04-25T18:10:31Z")
If it worked once, it would be worth it. šŸ˜ƒ * * * Fagjunk Theology: Not just for sodomite propagandists anymore. ---
**Author:** ![merge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9f8e36/32.png) [@merge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/merge)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/22 "2003-04-25T18:33:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by justwannano \* > \*\*Hey merge > > When I click on your link I get a ā€œneed to install Flash 6ā€ > > I also get a ā€œthe IRAQI information ministerā€ (quotes mine) in the address box. WTF \*\* It is a jokeā€¦ install flash if you canā€¦ It is kinda funnyā€¦ and what a waste of those 10 seconds of my life to create it if you canā€™t see itā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/23 "2003-04-25T18:40:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Qadgop the Mercotan \* > \*\*Iā€™d estimate my success rate with this approach is over 50%. Of course, I only ask my wife that question. \*\* Great (married) minds think alike, eh, Hovis? Just what I was going to say. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/24 "2003-04-25T18:41:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by justwannano \* > \*\*I had a friend once , a male, that used to ask strangers,female,ā€œwanna fuckā€. > I asked him once why he used that line. > He said he gets turned down,or maybe they just walk away, more than anyone he knows. BUT he also gets laid more than anyone he knows. > We havenā€™t paled around for over 30 years ,I got married. He still isnā€™t married. > Maybe there is a connection.Maybe not. \*\* Justwannano, it seems I had that same friend, also something around 30 years ago. By any chance were we roommates in college? Anyway, according to my friend, he was rejected 99% of the time, more often than not getting slapped in the process. But, he didnā€™t mind asking 100 different girls to find one whoā€™d say yes. YMMV, of course. ---
**Author:** ![SmackFu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/53a042/32.png) [@SmackFu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmackFu)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/25 "2003-04-25T19:19:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by aasna \* > **(1) go on a date with me? 55% F agree, 50% M agree** Thatā€™s actually rather encouraging and worth some further investigation. > [@](#): > > **(2) go back to my apartment? 6% F agree, 69% M agree** I think this is due to, essentially, the average woman is afraid of being alone with the average male stranger. And the opposite is just not true. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/26 "2003-04-25T21:45:24Z")
> [@](#): > > go back to my apartment? 6% F agree, 69% M agree Hmmā€¦ maybe those 1 in 20 that will go to the apartment are just too shy to answer yes at first, but once they are in the aparment theyā€™ll agree to sex! ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/27 "2003-04-25T21:52:09Z")
Well, to be serious- yes, try asking, but in a more subtle and slightly humerous manner. Maybe- ā€œCan I ask you just one thing- tomorrow, what would you like me to fix you for breakfast in bedā€? ---
**Author:** ![monica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a183cd/32.png) [@monica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monica)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/28 "2003-04-26T00:28:49Z")
Well, if anyone asked me ā€œwant to have sex?ā€ I would laugh in their faces. Of course, that could be 'cause Iā€™m already involved with someoneā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![Murcielago](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/da6949/32.png) [@Murcielago](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Murcielago)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/29 "2003-04-26T00:40:10Z")
If you know how to ask that question with your eyes alone, you will be much more successful. If you donā€™t understand this, you never will.šŸ†’ šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/30 "2003-04-26T00:58:54Z")
iā€™ve never seen anyone accept the invitation from construction workers. ---
**Author:** ![mrsface](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a9adbd/32.png) [@mrsface](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrsface)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/31 "2003-04-26T03:12:06Z")
The direct approach can work if itā€™s phrased politely. For example, ā€œWanna fuck?ā€ is, I would guess, always doomed to fail, but ā€œWould you like to have sex with me next Friday at 12pm?ā€ is more intriguing. ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991/32 "2003-04-26T03:34:59Z")
A mate of mine swears the following is true: When he was only about eighteen or nineteen (long before I knew him), he was drinking and playing slot machines with a friend in a pub. Without warning, his friend leapt to his feet and proclaimed to the whole room and to nobody in particular, ā€œI HAVE A TEN INCH COCK!!!ā€ My friend just thought this guy was being silly, until literally seconds later he was approached by a reasonably attractive woman, and the two left together. I asked my friend if this episode had ever tempted him to try this technique himself, but he said that he didnā€™t have the courage, and also that the guy for whom the technique actually worked probably was just on the lucky end of a statistical glitch that day. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-effective-is-simply-asking-want-to-have-sex/170991.md?page=1)