# How far would you travel to meet someone? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 28, 2010, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581 "2010-12-28T06:20:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/1 "2010-12-28T06:20:10Z")
By meet someone I mean in a romantic or possibly romantic way. Attempting to post a poll lets see how it works. ETA Oh and I mean for the first time. Someone you get to know some way other than face to face. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/2 "2010-12-28T06:25:30Z")
I said comfortable driving distance, but I’d still rather be the one the other person is coming to. I hate travel. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/3 "2010-12-28T06:40:46Z")
The reason for this poll is because in a few days I am taking a 2.5 hour flight to meet a woman. Something I never thought I would do. Lets hope this doesn’t turn out like _Catfish_. ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/4 "2010-12-28T06:58:45Z")
Comfortable driving distance, depending on the size of the metropolitan area; 30 minutes to an hour at the very most. When I lived in the Cleveland area, my cross-Cuyahoga relationship was apparently quite out of the ordinary. I lived in the eastern suburbs, while my GF lived in the western 'burbs. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/5 "2010-12-28T07:17:24Z")
A comfortable driving distance for me is a few hours. I wouldn’t spend that long driving to meet someone romantically for the first time (mainly because I can’t imagine having romantic thoughts about someone I haven’t met yet). I would spend maybe 20-30 minutes. I sure as hell wouldn’t fly anywhere. If I wanted a long distance relationship I’d just fantasize. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/6 "2010-12-28T07:26:06Z")
> [@elmwood](#): > > When I lived in the Cleveland area, my cross-Cuyahoga relationship was apparently quite out of the ordinary. I lived in the eastern suburbs, while my GF lived in the western 'burbs. Yes, especially for a west-sider to travel to the east-side, it’s like crossing an ocean. I wouldn’t go out of my way to meet someone unless he’s really someone special, someone I have some strong feelings toward. In that case, no distance is too far. If it doesn’t work out, at least I’d be able to experience a new place. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/7 "2010-12-28T07:43:36Z")
Been there, done that. My wife and I conducted a long-distance romance for a couple of years before we wed. She’s from Boston, I’m from SoCal. We tended to meet in places beginning with an “S”: Salt Lake City, San Antonio, St. Louis… ---
**Author:** ![Strainger](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/strainger/32/244_2.png) [@Strainger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strainger)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 7:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/8 "2010-12-28T07:47:38Z")
I’ve done the GU thing before. Never again. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/9 "2010-12-28T16:00:31Z")
GU? ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/10 "2010-12-28T16:01:33Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > Been there, done that. My wife and I conducted a long-distance romance for a couple of years before we wed. She’s from Boston, I’m from SoCal. We tended to meet in places beginning with an “S”: Salt Lake City, San Antonio, St. Louis… Curious, how did it start? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/11 "2010-12-28T16:18:51Z")
Flew from Columbus, Ohio to Las Vegas. I’m not sure how many miles that is, but I’ll call it a long flight (around 4 hours, I think). ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/12 "2010-12-28T16:24:42Z")
I met my late husband here on the Dope and flew from Detroit to London to meet him for the first time. We had been talking for hours every day for a few months by that time. It was the craziest thing I had ever done in my life, and the thing that worked out the best. If it turns out to be the love of your life, what is distance? ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/13 "2010-12-28T16:39:26Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Curious, how did it start? We met on a _Buffy_ board. Introduced by a mutual fried (Hi, Eeyore!). Hit it off in chat, started talking on the phone, she flew out to meet me in 2002, we got married in 2004. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/14 "2010-12-28T16:46:31Z")
An ex-girlfriend of mine once few to New Zealand to meet a guy. They still chat from time to time. ---
**Author:** ![Dunkelheit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dunkelheit/32/248_2.png) [@Dunkelheit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunkelheit)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/15 "2010-12-28T22:28:05Z")
Short answer: First-meeting flights in my experience have ranged from halfway across North America to all the way across North America and the Atlantic. Long answer: is long. ---
**Author:** ![Dunkelheit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dunkelheit/32/248_2.png) [@Dunkelheit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunkelheit)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/16 "2010-12-28T22:29:50Z")
> [@Brynda](#): > > If it turns out to be the love of your life, what is distance? Exactly. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/17 "2010-12-28T22:30:24Z")
Long flight, sure. Have done so in the past and did not regret it. ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/18 "2010-12-28T22:36:05Z")
Traveled from Cleveland to Chicago to meet my fella. ---
**Author:** ![Claverhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Claverhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claverhouse)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/19 "2010-12-28T22:51:48Z")
4830 miles. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2010, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581/20 "2010-12-28T22:52:10Z")
I’ve hopped a bus from DC to NYC for a first date, and a few more besides. Relationship never really took off, alas - but I wouldn’t blink twice at taking that sort of trip again. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-far-would-you-travel-to-meet-someone/565581.md?page=2)