# How hard is it to get a date? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2012, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252 "2012-11-27T07:46:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Mdcastle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@Mdcastle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mdcastle)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/61 "2012-12-10T04:36:42Z")
I’m 40 and have never had one, so I guess for me it’s hard. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/62 "2012-12-10T04:45:20Z")
> [@Mdcastleman](#): > > I’m 40 and have never had one, so I guess for me it’s hard. Have you _wanted_ or made a real effort to have one? As in, have you just been rejected every time or have you never _asked_ a woman on a date? ---
**Author:** ![DJ\_Motorbike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90ced4/32.png) [@DJ\_Motorbike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DJ_Motorbike)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/63 "2012-12-10T04:53:30Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Have you _wanted_ or made a real effort to have one? As in, have you just been rejected every time or have you never _asked_ a woman on a date? Good question, **Ambivalid**. Review the rules I posted above and figure out where you fit in, **Mdcastleman**. They are very general, but if you internalize those rules and work with them in mind you will be successful in love and life. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/64 "2012-12-10T05:06:06Z")
I was a big flirt in high school and college, but I hated dating. Usually, when I guy asked me out, it ended up being a long term term thing. So I had 2 serious long term boyfriends before I met my husband. I did try with a few guys between the boyfriends, but I rarely got past the first date if it was awkward at all. So getting a date was never really hard, I simply don’t like just dating. I’ve always been that way. I suppose I am too insecure to just have a fun date if the guy isn’t my boyfriend. I would always try to see if it was something that could be serious and if it wasn’t I would ignore the guy until he stopped asking me out. Sometimes rejecting a date is harder than getting one! ---
**Author:** ![\_Olive](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/4af34b/32.png) [@\_Olive](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Olive)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/65 "2012-12-10T06:17:22Z")
I haven’t had a date in years. I say to myself the right man will come along when the time is right. ---
**Author:** ![amanset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8dc957/32.png) [@amanset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amanset)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2012, 8:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252/66 "2012-12-10T08:33:53Z")
38, slightly overweight, ginger and bald. I got loads of dates via online dating, the trick was how to get a second date. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-hard-is-it-to-get-a-date/642252.md?page=3)