# How important is height for girls? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2012, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324 "2012-11-17T17:24:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Corcaigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Corcaigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corcaigh)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2012, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/61 "2012-11-21T15:43:18Z")
> [@doctor\_krieger](#): > > Dude, if it makes you feel any better, consider this: I’m 6’5 and I haven’t had a girl in forever. It’s not nearly as important as everyone makes it out to be. How _you_ doin’ 😉 ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2012, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/62 "2012-11-21T17:55:23Z")
> [@doctor\_krieger](#): > > Dude, if it makes you feel any better, consider this: I’m 6’5 and I haven’t had a girl in forever. It’s not nearly as important as everyone makes it out to be. 6’5" ? Let my friends set you up with me! 😉 Hmm, that would likely make me a cougar. So, how do you feel about older girlfriends (since society seems to frown on this in general)? Truthfully, I believe height is a silly standard and, up to a certain point, age is too. That certain point? If you are under age 21, stick with someone closer to your own age. If you are an adult, keep your bloody hands off of minors. ---
**Author:** ![claramorena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/2acd7d/32.png) [@claramorena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/claramorena)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2012, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/63 "2012-11-21T18:27:41Z")
> [@Hans35](#): > > But how much does it really mean to girls? And is 5"7 just bad e? > . HI there!I’m a five foot female and frankly as a straight woman, I think what really does matter what kind of person you are. If girl rejects your for your height, you are really better off with someone else. That person is probably not someone you want to associate with. FYI, short people are really dangerous. I let men talk down to me and pet my head so they think I’m a harmless cutie. Then I suffocate them with their own pillow 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Nars\_Glinley](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nars_glinley/32/8177_2.png) [@Nars\_Glinley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nars_Glinley)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2012, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/64 "2012-11-21T20:53:57Z")
Regarding the safety issue - I seriously doubt that my 5’0" wife is safer with her 6’ husband (me) than a 5’7" you. ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2012, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/65 "2012-11-22T05:18:00Z")
I clicked on the thread because from the title I thought it was a question about girls’ height. Turns out to be a question about boys’ height. Maleness was assumed by the OP to be understood. But that depends on someone’s point of view. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2012, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/66 "2012-11-24T07:11:07Z")
I’m not necessarily looking for a taller man when I date. What I look for in a man is someone who likes animals, who likes books, and is interested in many things like news, science and museums. I don’t like very religious men, use of chewing tobacco, douchebaggery and control freaks. ---
**Author:** ![Modern\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@Modern\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Modern_Master)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2012, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/67 "2012-11-24T15:36:18Z")
I’m 5’7’’, and I haven’t had any trouble. No one has broken up with me because of it. If you’re going for girls that only want security (in the form of height), you’re doing it wrong. ---
**Author:** ![zhoen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c4cdca/32.png) [@zhoen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zhoen)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2012, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/68 "2012-11-25T00:24:43Z")
You are not looking for “women” you are looking for a particular woman who thinks you are wonderful. Women who will discount you just by your measurement are not the ones you want anyway. Be utterly yourself, become thoroughly genuine and kind and compassionate, and you will have a lovely life, and probably some kind, smart woman will think you are amazing. ---
**Author:** ![akeimi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f0a364/32.png) [@akeimi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/akeimi)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/69 "2012-11-26T09:33:17Z")
I’m not going to BS you. No girl wants to tower over their boyfriend. We want to feel small and delicate next to him, and not feel like a wildebeest during the sex. (Please do _not_ interpret this as “get huge muscles”, that’s gross.) However, I don’t think you’re screwed. All that really matters is that he be “bigger” - so unless you have a really tiny build, all that matters is she’s your height or less. The average height for a woman is often said to be 5’7", so (mathematically literate people avert your eyes) you won’t even have this stumbling block with half the women out there. We’re not as visual as you - so once a girl knows you, your personality will be more important than height. You might get rejected more often than a taller man would if you’re trying to pick up girls at bars or something, but if she already knows and likes you she’ll accept the whole package, even if she’s an inch or two taller. And look at her shoes. At social events we wear shoes with 3-4" heels, so you might feel like all the 5’3"+ girls are taller than you, but we’re not and we know it. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/70 "2012-11-26T12:54:05Z")
I remembered this thread last weekend, when I was reading a mag while waiting for the mechanics to bring out my car. They had an interview with Real Madrid/Spanish National Soccer Team goalie Iker Casillas and Barça/SNST center Xavi Fernández (often called by firstname only), where they mentioned that Xavi had been rejected by several coaches on account of being short: 1’70m. He can now laugh at them all the way to the bank and while he polishes his copy of the World Cup. ---
**Author:** ![AnaMen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@AnaMen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnaMen)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/71 "2012-11-26T17:23:46Z")
Women don’t all agree on anything, so you are definitely not doomed. As a 5’ 2" female, I would be unlikely to date someone shorter than me, because I am accustomed to being the shortest adult around. If someone is shorter than me, I fear I subconsciously perceive them as children. A lot of short men get interested in me simply BECAUSE I’m shorter than them, and that’s off-putting. ---
**Author:** ![doctor\_krieger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@doctor\_krieger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doctor_krieger)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/72 "2012-11-26T17:27:55Z")
> [@Corcaigh](#): > > How _you_ doin’ 😉 I’m alright, but my legs are cramped from the chronic lack of legroom. ---
**Author:** ![doctor\_krieger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@doctor\_krieger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doctor_krieger)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/73 "2012-11-26T17:33:31Z")
> [@carnut](#): > > 6’5" ? Let my friends set you up with me! 😉 > > Hmm, that would likely make me a cougar. So, how do you feel about older girlfriends (since society seems to frown on this in general)? > > Truthfully, I believe height is a silly standard and, up to a certain point, age is too. That certain point? If you are under age 21, stick with someone closer to your own age. If you are an adult, keep your bloody hands off of minors. I’m flattered but I feel this post and the one before it kicks some dirt on what I said before (I know you’re both messing around). Something else to consider OP: tall people don’t live as long. ---
**Author:** ![Learjeff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/94ad74/32.png) [@Learjeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Learjeff)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/74 "2012-11-26T19:40:14Z")
oops ---
**Author:** ![Corcaigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Corcaigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corcaigh)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/75 "2012-11-26T20:35:05Z")
> [@doctor\_krieger](#): > > (I know you’re both messing around). I wasn’t. Unless you’re 12, in which case see-ya! > [@](#): > > Something else to consider OP: tall people don’t live as long. Generally speaking that’s only if your have Marfan’s (which can cause heart failure), or some form of tumour causing your excess height. My father was in his 80s when he passed away and he was 6’2", and I’d an uncle who was 6’4" and of similar age when he passed. ---
**Author:** ![doctor\_krieger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@doctor\_krieger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doctor_krieger)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/76 "2012-11-26T21:01:36Z")
> [@Corcaigh](#): > > I wasn’t. Unless you’re 12, in which case see-ya! > > Generally speaking that’s only if your have Marfan’s (which can cause heart failure), or some form of tumour causing your excess height. > > My father was in his 80s when he passed away and he was 6’2", and I’d an uncle who was 6’4" and of similar age when he passed. I’m 25 although everyone thinks I look 21. ---
**Author:** ![doctor\_krieger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@doctor\_krieger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doctor_krieger)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2012, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/77 "2012-11-26T21:08:01Z")
Also OP, one of my friends who’s about 5’7 once dated a girl who’s like 6’0 and could easily be a model. The point is, yeah it’s important for some girls but not for all. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/78 "2012-11-27T17:05:18Z")
I am 5’ 2" and have a preferred height limit for men I date. I try not to have sex with anyone over about 6’. The main reason is mechanics. When the height differential is greater than about 10", I find things can be awkward in terms of fitting body parts together. Example: Let’s say I’m on the bottom and we’re doing missionary position. And I’m banging someone who is 6’4". That puts my face in the center of his chest… which means his body weight is crushing down on my lungs and now my face is smack in the middle of his chest, and now I can’t breathe. I don’t particularly care for cowgirl and the leg length differential makes for a weird and awkward doggie style. It’s just not as enjoyable as being with someone who’s closer to my own size. 5’ 7" would be perfect for me and in fact, the person I’m banging is about that height (he might be 5’ 8", I dunno, I never measured). Bottom line: everyone is different. To some “girls” it may well matter, but perhaps not for the reasons you might think. ---
**Author:** ![Corcaigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Corcaigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corcaigh)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/79 "2012-11-27T19:41:06Z")
> [@doctor\_krieger](#): > > I’m 25 although everyone thinks I look 21. omg I’m old enough to be your gra … older sister. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![doctor\_krieger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@doctor\_krieger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doctor_krieger)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324/80 "2012-11-27T20:44:44Z")
> [@Corcaigh](#): > > omg I’m old enough to be your gra … older sister. > > :eek: So you’re 27? That’s how old my actual sister is. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-important-is-height-for-girls/641324.md?page=5)