# How is complimenting a woman's body misogynistic? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 31, 2012, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407 "2012-10-31T08:37:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/41 "2012-10-31T21:21:40Z")
I think the first time I got ‘Nice tits!’ yelled at me, I was 15 and walking to school alone, yelled by some guys in a van who crawled along the road keeping pace with me for half the street. I nearly had surgery (chickened out faily late in the waiting list) to reduce my boobs, mainly because I couldn’t go outside without guys staring, unless I was wearing a duffle coat or something, forget a nice fitted top. I once moved somewhere where literally _every single day_ I had a variation of ‘Nice tits!’ yelled at me by at least one random guy… So yeah, I don’t care how good looking you are, if that’s something you say without a clear invitation to go there, I’m not interested in any futher conversation. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/42 "2012-10-31T21:44:17Z")
> [@MegaBee](#): > > Are you a Men’s Rights Activist? No. I think that one of the biggest problems for modern civil rights activism is how it’s fragmented into thousands of factions that care about “rights for X” and not rights for everyone. Not only is it unfair in itself, but it lets the enemies of civil rights play the Divide and Conquer game. An ideal civil rights law or principle should be like the First Amendment; which is about free speech for everyone, not free speech for a list of groups and if you aren’t on the list too bad. ---
**Author:** ![Corcaigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Corcaigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corcaigh)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/43 "2012-10-31T23:01:46Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > Considering the complaints I hear from women about men who apparently think sending them pictures of their penises is a good idea, I can believe it. Please don’t go giving him ideas!! Although come to think I haven’t seen, or heard, him in a loooong time. > [@Saraya](#): > > In most cases, women won’t _mind_ it as long as the person saying it is attractive (or attractive to them). > They may \*act \*shocked or give rebuttal, however they’re really/secretly happy about it. :dubious: > [@Beware\_of\_Doug](#): > > Where does “gee, you’re tall” fall on the creepy scale? I don’t regard that as creepy, I do regard “are you worth the climb?” creepy, or some variation on “what’s at the top of those legs then???” You are never, ever, going to find out and if I catch you looking at me again, it’ll be the last thing you see. Is what I’d love to say, but am too chicken. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/44 "2012-10-31T23:31:32Z")
> [@Saraya](#): > > In most cases, women won’t _mind_ it as long as the person saying it is attractive (or attractive to them). > They may \*act \*shocked or give rebuttal, however they’re really/secretly happy about it. The problem with that logic is that acting in such a way makes a man unattractive to a woman. It’s crude and it’s impolite; neither of which are features that help in attracting women. ---
**Author:** ![Enkel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/df705f/32.png) [@Enkel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enkel)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/45 "2012-10-31T23:33:45Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > Otherwise, you come across looking like a giant, walking boner. who like to point it out. Unless you’re in a meeting discussion new additions to your dairy herd, the phrase “nice tits” is better left out of any conversation. ---
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/46 "2012-10-31T23:37:35Z")
It’s one of those inexplicable things that differentiate male and females and their perception of sexuality. One thing I’ve noticed is that if you are walking towards a woman and you look at her tits she will try to look you straight in the eye. If you walk towards a woman and you look her straight in the eye she will look down at her tits as though she’s wondering what’s wrong with them. Yes, I’m clueless. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2012, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/47 "2012-10-31T23:41:12Z")
Redacted, wrong place. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2012, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/48 "2012-11-01T00:41:50Z")
Unless you’re at Fort Lauderdale during Spring Break, or New Orleans during Mardi Gras, the phrase, “Nice tits!” has no place outside a strip club (where the objectification of women is a given.) It’s not a compliment, in any way shape or form, it a base sexist remark. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2012, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/49 "2012-11-01T01:09:39Z")
> [@Enkel](#): > > Unless you’re in a meeting discussion new additions to your dairy herd, the phrase “nice tits” is better left out of any conversation. Or a bird watcher! You can make remarks about “nice boobies” then too… > [@elbows](#): > > Unless you’re at Fort Lauderdale during Spring Break, or New Orleans during Mardi Gras, the phrase, “Nice tits!” has no place outside a strip club (where the objectification of women is a given.) Or possibly if the woman in question is wearing something like [this](http://www.birdorable.com/blog/check-out-these-great-tits/).\* 😃 \*(which I found while looking for that joke pic of a tit and a boobie (the birds, of course) saying their names) ---
**Author:** ![Enkel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/df705f/32.png) [@Enkel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enkel)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2012, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/50 "2012-11-01T01:44:44Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > Or a bird watcher! You can make remarks about “nice boobies” then too… Okay, I’ll give bird watchers tits and boobies. But, I see from the Wikipedia that Great Tits have a history of being harassed by woodpeckers and weasels and boobies are apparently thought to be to stupid to out wit sailors. But enough about Spring Break in FL. ---
**Author:** ![zhoen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c4cdca/32.png) [@zhoen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zhoen)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2012, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407/51 "2012-11-01T01:48:35Z")
Any kind of sexual comment made to a strange woman in public is intrusive and threatening. Any comment made to a strange woman in public, is a potential threat. It says “You must be interested in my very important opinion!” It says he has no boundaries, no empathy, and an overinflated sense of himself. Which makes him frightening. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-is-complimenting-a-womans-body-misogynistic/639407.md?page=2)