# How long are you trapped on the desert island with the hottie before you ... you know **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2008, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974 "2008-12-13T02:13:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/41 "2008-12-15T13:04:52Z")
> [@LouisB](#): > > Yes, we do. Who is right and who is wrong? Well, if I may be permitted a thought… the idea in IMHO is simply to offer opinions, not to rigorously defend them. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/42 "2008-12-15T13:08:11Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > Well, if I may be permitted a thought… the idea in IMHO is simply to offer opinions, not to rigorously defend them. No it isn’t. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/43 "2008-12-15T15:17:52Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > Well, if I may be permitted a thought… the idea in IMHO is simply to offer opinions, not to rigorously defend them. I take your point and I will happily withdraw my question. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/44 "2008-12-15T15:24:00Z")
About a month, but it wouldn’t be easy. And I like the Cindy Crawford joke better. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/45 "2008-12-15T17:10:52Z")
> [@Magiver](#): > > 98 episodes. After that I’m going after Dawn Wells like there’s no tomorrow. Of course, 98 is just a number. Forty-five hours? Or are you not including commercials? ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/46 "2008-12-15T18:19:58Z")
> [@Silver\_Fire](#): > > Everybody would think you were the world’s biggest asshole if you did. > > I agree with everything Bear\_Nenno said, other real world “stress relievers” be damned. If you’re screwing the only other survivor while I’m killing myself with worry trying to find you, we’re not going to make it when you get rescued. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/47 "2008-12-15T18:49:51Z")
Time for some follow-up Qs: 1. What about the person left waiting at home for the marooned S.O. to be found? How long should he or she wait before getting it on with someone else? Suppose the castaway left behind an S.O. and a sibling, both of whom are sick with worry. When can they give in to the need for stress relief and start intimately comforting each other? 2. Suppose the castaway S.O. is stranded with another person who is not his or her preferred gender? I.e., to get it on with the other castaway requires swinging from straight to gay, or gay to straight. At what point is that a normal response to stress? ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/48 "2008-12-15T19:13:05Z")
> [@Tom\_Tildrum](#): > > Time for some follow-up Qs: > > 1. What about the person left waiting at home for the marooned S.O. to be found? How long should he or she wait before getting it on with someone else? As an aside, this is a point that really bugged me about the eponymous movie: when Helen Hunt’s character is reunited with Tom Hanks’, she says something like, “I always knew it you were still alive. Deep down I knew it.” Nice sentiment - she marries someone else but always knew he was still alive? It’s one thing to say, “Hey, you were dead, I grieved, I moved on…” but to tell him she knew he was alive but married someone else anyway? Pretty cold. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/49 "2008-12-15T21:27:14Z")
Agreed. A clunker of a moment in an otherwise very powerful movie (the theme of which I often listen to on my iPod, incidentally). ---
**Author:** ![Ro\_Carter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7feea3/32.png) [@Ro\_Carter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ro_Carter)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2008, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/50 "2008-12-16T03:27:19Z")
Honestly, for either side of the story (left at home, on the island), I could forgive my SO having sex with another person. I certainly wouldn’t be thrilled about it, but I could understand the situation. If my SO was at home, I would, however, kinda hope that they were drunk when the sex happened if it was within the first couple of months I was gone. As far as the person at home entering a new significant relationship, I would understand it at any point beyond a year. All the above, particularly the bit about new significant relationships, assumes that the SO and I have been in a committed relationship for a reasonable amount of time (basically, this flies out the window if the SO in question and I have only been involved for less than a month or so). ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2008, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974/51 "2008-12-16T08:00:26Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > Forty-five hours? Or are you not including commercials? Unless commercials are considered foreplay I would just fast forward through them. Years ago I was playing triva at a bar and the DJ overheard a conversation about who was hotter, Ginger or Mary Ann. He made it a trivia question and Mary Ann won. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-are-you-trapped-on-the-desert-island-with-the-hottie-before-you-you-know/476974.md?page=2)