# How long did you wait to say 'I love you'? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 19, 2010, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597 "2010-04-19T03:23:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![thelurkinghorror](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@thelurkinghorror](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thelurkinghorror)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/41 "2010-04-20T15:18:25Z")
> [@ShibbOleth](#): > > I’d at least wait until it’s in her mouth, if not a bit longer. Anytime after that is fine. From experience, don’t say “we should see other people” at that time. It doesn’t end well. -tlh, used to wear Magnums. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/42 "2010-04-20T16:45:54Z")
I knew I was in love about 3 weeks after our first date. I told him the next day. ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2010, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/43 "2010-04-21T16:37:29Z")
I told my husband that I loved him after we’d been dating for a month and a half or so. And a few months after that, I knew that I wanted to marry him. And I did. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/44 "2010-04-22T09:56:15Z")
> [@interface2x](#): > > Out of curiosity, were you about to be frozen in Carbonite? If so, I think I remember you doing that. There’s actually a dating coach out there that actually says this was a good example of how to respond to this. He’s firmly in the “Don’t let on that you like them too much” camp. Then again, he also says the types of jokes Melon makes are perfect for picking up dates… ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 9:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/45 "2010-04-22T09:58:11Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Then again, he also says the types of jokes Melon makes are perfect for picking up dates… Just fyi, it’s worked for me. ---
**Author:** ![Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f6c823/32.png) [@Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lo-Slung_Denim)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/46 "2010-04-22T11:03:16Z")
> [@lezlers](#): > > I don’t think saying “i love you” is trite at _all_. Maybe if you’ve never truly been in love, I dunno. > > For those of you who haven’t said it 6+ months into the relationship, do you love the person and just haven’t said it, or do you not know if you love them yet? I know it, it just isn’t right to say it yet. I knew it ages ago. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 11:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597/47 "2010-04-22T11:12:56Z")
My current boyfriend waited until maybe 4-5 months into the relationship, on a night when I was so drunk I’d already puked a few times on the way home. (Long story.) He tucked me into bed - I was half crying because I was so miserable and I felt somewhat humiliated by my disgusting state (I get melodramatic when I’m drunk) - and for some reason he felt like this was the perfect time to tell me “I love you.” Hah. I said it back to him on the spot but I think he felt like it didn’t count because I was rather inebriated. :dubious: But we’ve said it enough times since then. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-did-you-wait-to-say-i-love-you/536597.md?page=2)