# How long do virgin (guys) last during sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 3, 2004, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409 "2004-06-03T06:30:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Foggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foggy/32/1082_2.png) [@Foggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foggy)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/61 "2013-12-14T19:58:39Z")
> [@](#): > > 1. She got “two or three good pumps, a couple big grunts and a 10 second quiver” So you want 3 pumps, 2 grunts, and a small quiver is that all or would like some fries with that? ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/62 "2013-12-15T05:59:09Z")
> [@Dunderman](#): > > Forever. I didn’t come my first time. Same here. Too self-conscious. Yeesh. Zombie thread, and I answered it already in 2004. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/63 "2013-12-15T06:07:07Z")
Can’t speak for myself (still a virgin!) but a friend told me about his first time. “Oh! Hey, it’s warm!” \<\<\\>\> About ten seconds. ---
**Author:** ![GameHat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ed655f/32.png) [@GameHat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GameHat)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/64 "2013-12-15T06:12:32Z")
My first time was a disaster. It was my then-girlfriend’s first time as well. Terrified about the risk of pregnancy, we decided I should wear two condoms (we were young and stupid, didn’t know any better) …I couldn’t feel a fucking (literally) thing. I probably kept up the motions for about 30 minutes, very little sensation, before the girl asked, “Can we stop? It’s starting to hurt.” So: no climax, nobody had any fun. I remember thinking, “Is this all there is? Hell, masturbation is better.” …but we did learn, and eventually we got it down. And yes. Sex is better than masturbation, once you learn not to wrap your guy in like a quarter-inch thick layer of latex. ---
**Author:** ![Vagabond](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/258eb7/32.png) [@Vagabond](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vagabond)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/65 "2013-12-15T06:22:36Z")
> [@Dunderman](#): > > Forever. I didn’t come my first time. Same here, it was awkward, I was horrible…no one involved was impressed:smack:😃 ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/66 "2013-12-15T06:35:50Z")
I was with a guy I had wanted for a very long time - totally my type, so I was already extremely turned on. I was lying on my back, and he began JOing me. I’m pretty sure it was within 10 seconds, and I shot straight up and hit the ceiling. Yes, it was dripping down on us. The next time we were together, he had painted a bulls-eye on the ceiling, centered on my cum stain. For years after that, he told people the bulls-eye was there first. I became a legend in certain circles, as “The Bulls-eye Guy.” So . . . less than 10 seconds. ---
**Author:** ![USCDiver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/uscdiver/32/354_2.png) [@USCDiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/USCDiver)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 7:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/67 "2013-12-15T07:35:09Z")
> [@virginboy](#): > > Ms pumpkin … I am really a virgin > Pls reply Wait, is no one going to acknowledge this poor kid who makes a profile just to take up Ms. Pumpkin’s offer? ---
**Author:** ![3trew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/13edae/32.png) [@3trew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/3trew)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/68 "2013-12-15T16:02:29Z")
Ah, youth. Maybe a minute the first time, but the second, third, and fourth times were better and all occurred during the same night. I’m going to go sit in my rocking chair now and later maybe shake my cane at those kids who are on my lawn. If I have the energy. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/69 "2013-12-15T20:12:43Z")
This thread keeps coming back for more. Kind of like a vigorous young lad getting started 😃 But yes, people tend to assume the male orgasm is just a purely mechanical matter of a few strokes at the right pressure and speed and BAM! there it is, and that the virgin male is near explosively at the edge by definition. But just as its female counterpart, a lot of it happens in your mind and if it’s not happenning in there it’s not happenning at all. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2013, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/70 "2013-12-16T02:04:52Z")
> [@Wesley\_Clark](#): > > Same here. I could go all night without coming. After she left I jerked off and was empty in 5 minutes. She liked my stamina at first, but soon got upset because she felt there was something about her that was preventing me from finishing. > > Do guys who have lost their virginity, then go through a long (many year) dry spell filled only with masturbation who then go back to sex have this issue come up or is it just virgin guys? IME, it’s not just virgins, some men coming out of a passionless relationship experience the same problems. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2013, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/71 "2013-12-16T02:30:28Z")
I had an interesting experience my first time. I ejaculated about 45 seconds in… but it was an ejaculation without an orgasm attached. It was also without that period of sensitivity or softness that normally follows orgasm, so I just kept going and then reached a normal orgasm/ejaculation some time later (about the amount of time it has always taken me to get there). ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2013, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/72 "2013-12-17T17:18:00Z")
> [@Dunderman](#): > > Forever. I didn’t come my first time. What he said. I still have trouble finishing with a condom. ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/73 "2013-12-18T04:06:47Z")
Probably under 10 seconds. Even with “experience” I never got over maybe 5 minutes, and it’s always instant if I go at anything other than a snail’s pace. Of course, this is only to ejaculation, not orgasm. I’ve never orgasmed from sex. It’s so so so so so painful, especially the “cumming” part. I can’t even describe how much it hurts. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/74 "2013-12-18T04:34:43Z")
> [@Jragon](#): > > Of course, this is only to ejaculation, not orgasm. I’ve never orgasmed from sex. It’s so so so so so painful, especially the “cumming” part. This confuses me. What is the difference for you between ejaculating and “cumming”? When you _do_ have an orgasm, do you also ejaculate? Or is it something different? ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/75 "2013-12-18T04:38:44Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Back in my hobo\* banging days, and the beginnings of my sex life, I actively tried hard not to cum as I didn’t want to have any hobo babies running around and hopping trains trying to find me and make me pay for their school learnin. > > \*They were lady hobos. A smurf banging a hobo is quite a mental image. ---
**Author:** ![Cerealbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Cerealbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerealbox)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/76 "2013-12-18T04:43:05Z")
> [@Clancy](#): > > If you are a guy, how long did your “first time” last. > > If you are a girl, how long do virgins last in bed. And does this disappoint you? I couldn’t cum. Spent a good 30 minutes at least before I gave up. Felt great, really surprising, actually. But I still couldn’t cum. I will say also that the first time I got blown was terrible. I couldn’t stop laughing. I was so sad. My dick completely lost all ticklishness by the third or fourth time, though. I have a friend who swears the exact same thing happened to him. ---
**Author:** ![Cerealbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Cerealbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerealbox)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/77 "2013-12-18T04:45:32Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > This confuses me. What is the difference for you between ejaculating and “cumming”? When you _do_ have an orgasm, do you also ejaculate? Or is it something different? Yeah, really what the hell is he talking about? Now I’ve came without ejaculating much before. When I first discovered masturbation I could orgasm, but not ejaculate. But you can’t really do it the other way around. I think he’s continuing to be stimulated after he cums, which indeed would be very sensitive and unpleasant. So yeah, that’s not really how it works. ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/78 "2013-12-18T05:13:33Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > This confuses me. What is the difference for you between ejaculating and “cumming”? When you _do_ have an orgasm, do you also ejaculate? Or is it something different? I do orgasm when I ejaculate from masturbating, but every time I’ve had sex it is NOT the same feeling. It is a very very painful feeling, and I’m not entirely sure how to describe it (and no, it’s not the same feeling as extra stimulation after ejaculation, it feels differently from that too, though that does hurt). Basically, the entire act of sex is absurdly painful for me, and the part where I “cum” is the most painful of all of it. I’m not sure what info I can give other than “it hurts” and “I’ve experienced both this pain and orgasm and they’re qualitatively different.” ---
**Author:** ![Cerealbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Cerealbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerealbox)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/79 "2013-12-18T05:15:25Z")
> [@Jragon](#): > > I do orgasm when I ejaculate from masturbating, but every time I’ve had sex it is NOT the same feeling. It is a very very painful feeling, and I’m not entirely sure how to describe it (and no, it’s not the same feeling as extra stimulation after ejaculation, it feels differently from that too, though that does hurt). > > Basically, the entire act of sex is absurdly painful for me, and the part where I “cum” is the most painful of all of it. Hm… This is not a problem I have any familiarity with. Obviously, it wouldn’t hurt to bring this up with your doctor. ---
**Author:** ![3trew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/13edae/32.png) [@3trew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/3trew)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409/80 "2013-12-18T07:57:52Z")
> [@Wesley\_Clark](#): > > Do guys who have lost their virginity, then go through a long (many year) dry spell filled only with masturbation who then go back to sex have this issue come up or is it just virgin guys? Fresh anecdata: sometimes yes. Some other times, like maybe tonight, no. If anyone needs me, I will be doing the happy dance with Snoopy over by the Christmas tree. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-do-virgin-guys-last-during-sex/248409.md?page=5)