# How Long has it been since **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 26, 2001, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213 "2001-11-26T02:08:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2001, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/21 "2001-11-26T18:30:39Z")
last had sex: this morning, about 6am (my fav time) longest dry spell (since losing virginity): about 6 weeks number of partners: with whom I’ve had intercourse, or do other intimate activites count? 3 all the way, probably 150 or more doing other things (fellatio, handjobs, cunnilingus, frottage, etc., etc.) fav position: doggie, but cunnilingus is a very close second fav experience: getting my first handjob advice: tell her to talk with him and practice stopping several times just before he comes. He’ll get better control. (maybe) ---
**Author:** ![TheNerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TheNerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheNerd)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2001, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/22 "2001-11-26T21:51:01Z")
**you have had sex?** Depends on how you count. Intercourse, almost 2 years. Everything but, about 15 hours. **What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** Intercourse, almost 2 years, and counting. Everything but, about 21 months. **How many partners have you had in your life** 1 or 3, depending on how you count. **Favorite posistion** Her on top. But they’re all good. 🙂 **Favorite experience** Have to get back to you on that one. So far, it’s involved fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold. ---
**Author:** ![racinchikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@racinchikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racinchikki)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2001, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/23 "2001-11-26T23:11:45Z")
I use the Starr definition of sex as including both intercourse and everything else as opposed to the Clinton version of requiring penile-vaginal penetration. _How long has it been since you have had sex?_ About 18 or 20 hours. _What is the longest amount of time you have done without?_ Not counting the 18.5 years I spent a virgin, longest time without so far is about 6 weeks. Actually, that’s my regular spacing. 6 weeks of abstinence, a weekend of sex. 6 weeks of abstinence, a weekend of sex. Damn the 430 miles between me and **Gunslinger**! _How many partners have you had in your life?_ One. _Favorite position?_ Don’t have enough experience to answer that yet. _Favorite experience_ Hmmm… I haven’t that much experience, and they were all good, but if I had to pick just one, well, I had a grand old time in the parking lot of a bowling alley on Labor Day weekend… ---
**Author:** ![JRT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/3e96dc/32.png) [@JRT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRT)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/24 "2001-11-27T05:28:50Z")
How long has it been since you have had sex? Not quite 3 days What is the longest amount of time you have done without? 6 months How many partners have you had in your life? eight Favorite posistion 69 Favorite experience Going down on my current girlfriend for the first time. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/25 "2001-11-27T06:02:27Z")
B]you have had sex?\*\* Since February. \ **What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** I dunno - about 3 years **How many partners have you had in your life** Enough. **Favorite posistion** I’m not choosy - it depends on my mood. 69 is dern fun though… **Favorite experience** Sex in a shrubbery. ---
**Author:** ![Genseric](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Genseric](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genseric)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/26 "2001-11-27T06:41:48Z")
Hmmm… I just did some research and apparently it’s been exactly 13 months and 13 days since last I made the beast with two backs. What that means, I know not. ---
**Author:** ![dtaylor404](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bc79bd/32.png) [@dtaylor404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dtaylor404)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/27 "2001-11-27T07:45:49Z")
A voice in the back of my head is telling me not to do this… \*\*How Long has it been since you have had sex? \*\*About ten days. \*\*What is the longest amount of time you have done without. \*\*About six months. Or, looking at it from another perspective, the last ten days. One never knows if the last time will be _the_ last time… \*\*How many partners have you had in your life \*\*One. \*\*Favorite position \*\*Decisions, decisions… Her on top. \*\*Favorite experience \*\*The last time we did it outdoors. > [@](#): > > Also… my friend is a newlywed (she is 35 hubby is 30) he has no stamina… it is driving her crazy any advice (besides viagra) I do not think she wants to “offend him” > I would be blunt and say take something, but she is way to kind 😉 You’ve gotten some great advice already on this question. They _must_ discuss this, somewhere other than in their bed. If he loves her, he’ll want to know that this is important to her. (I’m in a similar situation: my partner has health problems. Not serious, but sometimes inconvenient.) You’ve been a little vague, and I confess I’m not sure what the problem is. Apparently I’m not the only one, from the varying replies you’re getting. If he _ahem_ can’t get started, then viagra is one of several options; if he _ahem_ finishes too soon, there is another set of options, including topical anaesthetics and condoms. If he simply doesn’t want to, or doesn’t feel like it very often, well, that defies any simple answers. Either way, they need to talk to each other, and probably then to his physician. ---
**Author:** ![dwc1970](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a183cd/32.png) [@dwc1970](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dwc1970)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/28 "2001-11-27T14:55:51Z")
**What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** As of today, 4,172 days (that’s over 11 years) **How many partners have you had in your life** Two **Favorite position** Would have liked to try doggie-style **Favorite experience** Been too long to remember ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/29 "2001-11-27T15:06:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by alice\_in\_wonderland \* > \*\*Sex in a shrubbery. \*\* But the real question here, AI, is… Did it look nice? It wasn’t too expensive, right? Did it have another shrub beside it, only slightly higher so you get the two-level effect with a little path running down the middle? And was his name Roger? 😃 -BK ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/30 "2001-11-27T16:22:49Z")
**you have had sex?** 8 days **What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** Two years **How many partners have you had in your life** Nope. Not gonna answer that one. **Favorite position** Missionary, but me on top is a close second. **Favorite experience** Hard to articulate. Like many people on the boards, I’m in an LDR. I’d have to say that the first time with him ranks right up there. \*\*Also… my friend is a newlywed (she is 35 hubby is 30) he has no stamina… it is driving her crazy any advice (besides viagra) I do not think she wants to “offend him” I would be blunt and say take something, but she is way to kind 😉 \*\* Perhaps your friend should discuss this with her husband? I don’t have any advice from experience. I understand there’s a lovely gel available that will not numb the skin, but lessen sensation. ---
**Author:** ![DaToad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@DaToad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaToad)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/31 "2001-11-27T17:37:57Z")
you have had sex? Way too long. About 8 months now. (I’ll probably be asking for advice soon) What is the longest amount of time you have done without? Last 8 months. How many partners have you had in your life? A lot. 40-50. Favorite position? Any. Favorite experience? I don’t know if it was my favorite, but, letting my wife explore her fem-dom side was probably the most interesting and unusual. I’m not into pain, so that part didn’t turn me on, but the rest was good. I agreed to submit for a whole weekend, and all in all, she was very creative. She got into the role playing, and really got off, so that made it exciting for me. Ah, the things we do for love! ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/32 "2001-11-27T18:42:11Z")
Like **racinchikki** , I’m using the ‘if one person physically helps the other to orgasm, it’s sex’ definition, FWIW. **How long has it been since you have had sex?** About 14 hours. **What is the longest amount of time you have done without?** About 3 years. **How many partners have you had in your life?** Ten. **Favorite position?** There’s a lot to be said for the missionary position. **Favorite experience?** When I discovered that one GF had orgasms when _I_ came in _her_ mouth. **my friend is a newlywed; [hubby] has no stamina…** Depends on what you mean here. I’m going to guess that she’s ready for more pretty quickly, while he’s done for awhile after one pop. If that also kills his _interest_ in further playing around for considerably longer than she’s happy with, then that’s something they need to talk out how to deal with; outside suggestions won’t be good for much. If his spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, so to speak, that’s when he should be using his tongue and fingers to bring her off some more, and when he’s worn out _that_ way, she can masturbate while he watches. A bit of all that should bridge the gap until he’s ready for seconds. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/33 "2001-11-27T19:06:27Z")
\*\*How long has it been since you have had sex? \*\* 9 days, and no, it was not with **GingerOfTheNorth** , gosh darned it! **What is the longest amount of time you have done without?** 11 months, between the first and the second lucky ladies. **How many partners have you had in your life?** I can count them all on one hand, if you let me use it more than once. 😃 **Favorite position?** Kinda up on my knees, straddling her lower leg as she lays on her side, her upper leg drawn up toward her chest just a little. I’d draw a picture, but just use your imagination. **Favorite experience?** Nonya bidness. But probably the next one. ---
**Author:** ![ModernRonin2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@ModernRonin2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ModernRonin2)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/34 "2001-11-27T19:24:19Z")
Another ones of “those” polls, eh? Isn’t this an MPSIM? ;] _How long has it been since you have had sex?_ Letsee, Sunday night would be… about 36 hours. _What is the longest amount of time you have done without._ Previous to my current girlfriend, I was on a nearly 3-year dry spell. Whuf. Even worse, after she’s gone, I can see the possibility of that kind of thing happening again. _How many partners have you had in your life_ Current girlfriend is #3. _Favorite posistion_ Really don’t care. At this point I’m happy I’m getting any at all. _Favorite experience_ Ain’t tellin’. ;] \*Also… my friend is a newlywed (she is 35 hubby is 30) he has no stamina… it is driving her crazy any advice (besides viagra) I do not think she wants to “offend him”. I would be blunt and say take something, but she is way to kind. \* If she’s not willing to ask him about it, it’s not going to get better very fast, if at all. He’s not psychic and he can’t know what she wants unless she lets him know. Sheesh, why do chicks have such a hard time with this? TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT! I **like** to please you! But if you won’t tell me what it is you like, I’m forced back on trial and error - and that’s a _very_ slow process! -Ben ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/35 "2001-11-27T19:46:00Z")
I just realized it has been 9 days, not 8. And **UncleBill**? _No_. Numpty. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/36 "2001-11-27T19:58:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by UncleBill \* > **How many partners have you had in your life?** I can count them all on one hand, if you let me use it more than once. 😃 You’re welcome to use your hand as often as you want - just shut the door first, OK? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Why\_A\_Duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/37 "2001-11-27T20:19:41Z")
**Elaspsed time since:** About a week. My wife screwed up her back the day before Thanksgiving, so no bouncy-bouncy. Hopefully by tonight the muscle relaxants will have kicked-in. Plus our new matress got delivered today, time for a test-drive. **Longest dry-spell:** hmmm…prolly in the 9-12 month range, I’m horrible with dates. **Total partners:** I can count them on one hand, and I don’t need to use it more than once. **Favorite position:** Up until now I’d say anything that allows tab A into slot B, but I’m going to have to try **UncleBill’s** fave, I can picture it, and it sounds interesting. **Favorite Experience:** whatever the last one was. ---
**Author:** ![JavaMaven1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/cab0a1/32.png) [@JavaMaven1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JavaMaven1)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/38 "2001-11-27T20:31:39Z")
**(how long since)you have had sex?** Thursday night **What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** 3 years **How many partners have you had in your life** Never done an exact count, but it’s over 20, less than 40. **Favorite posistion** Doggie style. Makes me scream like a banshee every time. **Favorite experience** Um… not sayin’. Re: your friends… They need to communicate, communicate, communicate. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/39 "2001-11-27T22:40:58Z")
**How long since you have had sex?** Also 9 days. Also not with **GingerOfTheNorth**. Sounds like last weekend was a busy one for a lot of Dopers! **What is the longest amount of time you have done without.** 16 months…and somebody was about to get hurt, lemme tell ya. **How many partners have you had in your life** Umm…a lot. I was in the Navy for seven years. Nuff said. **Favorite position** Missionary gets me where I need to go most reliably, but depending on my mood, a few others are quite nice. **Favorite experience** Lots to choose from there…the first one that comes to mind is the “Standing O” I got recently…I was having a rather vocal good time and apparently was audible from the street outside the hotel, because a bunch of people started applauding and cheering. That was damn funny. Re: your friend, she and hubby need to TALK! ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2001, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213/40 "2001-11-28T01:15:44Z")
How long? A month tommorrow. Longest ever? A little under a year. How many? I’ve lost count. Although they were all very special. Position? Missionary, ironically enough. Favorite? Many. But as for recent favorite, I’ll go with a spontaneous, impromptu, unexpected (surprised myself, definatly surprised him) and (despite the akward position- front seat of a car. No, not a moving car) highly sucessful blowjob. Sure, I didn’t get anything out of it but his heartfelt gratitude and the Deep Inner Peace That Comes From Bringing Joy Into Another’s Life, but, hey, that just the kind of gal I am. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-has-it-been-since/95213.md?page=3)