# How long have I been married? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 10, 2011, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829 "2011-02-10T00:25:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![robardin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/43a26b/32.png) [@robardin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robardin)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2011, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/41 "2011-02-11T00:41:53Z")
> [@DWSKAMS](#): > > I have made sure to remember both anniversaries as they are both special to me. I think that the second one means a little more because after two years apart we were able to put everything aside and come together. See, now I just know that I and my wife are the types who would insist on the second marriage being on the same date as the original one so as not to have the problem of “what’s our anniversary date?”, and would also likely be of the same mind that the reconciliation represent an admission of error in the gap that should basically be ignored - meaning it’s your 20th anniversary. That, or else take the 180 degree opposite view that we needed to make the 2nd try as different from the first one as possible, have our 2nd marriage be 6 months off to the day from the first one, reset “the clock” and, if possible, change our last names as well to something completely other. Anything in between is just illogical. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Ceejaytee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ceejaytee/32/2956_2.png) [@Ceejaytee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ceejaytee)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2011, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/42 "2011-02-11T02:33:03Z")
I go with 20 years. By the way, my uncle did the same thing–married, divorced, and remarried his wife. They’re very happy. I wish you another happy 20 years. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2011, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/43 "2011-02-11T08:12:07Z")
In a board where asking “are cute kids cute?” can bring people saying “there is no such thing as a cute kid, not even mine”, this has got to be one of the most consensual threads ever. ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2011, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/44 "2011-02-11T23:16:30Z")
You should be celebrating your 3rd but it’s probably best to do what she says. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![grimpixie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecb155/32.png) [@grimpixie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grimpixie)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2011, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/45 "2011-02-13T20:06:26Z")
> [@DWSKAMS](#): > > As for best response? I give it to j66. (S)he was the first with the (right) answer. 🙂 The missus gives it to grimpixie. My wife told me what to write 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2011, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/46 "2011-02-13T20:13:00Z")
Whatever she says is right. If your wife says the sky is green and the grass is blue, she’s right. That’s the secret to staying married. ---
**Author:** ![j666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de0a6/32.png) [@j666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j666)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2011, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829/47 "2011-02-13T20:25:44Z")
> [@DWSKAMS](#): > > As for best response? I give it to j66. (S)he was the first with the (right) answer. 🙂 The missus gives it to grimpixie. Thanks, but **Mood Indigo** said it first - unless you refer to the remark about a third wedding … [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-i-been-married/570829.md?page=2)