# How long have you been married? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 14, 2019, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513 "2019-02-14T01:15:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/61 "2019-02-15T04:00:01Z")
Big, fat zero. But had a partner for 10 years. He’s still kicking, just in a different country. We have remained friends. I couldn’t get a job in my field there, he couldn’t live here due to family/health issues. ---
**Author:** ![UncaStuart](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/uncastuart/32/404_2.png) [@UncaStuart](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncaStuart)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/62 "2019-02-15T07:06:29Z")
It’ll be 33 years next August, 34 years since we moved in together, and 35 years since we met. We both had 10-year trainer marriages before, however. ---
**Author:** ![CharmaChameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9d8465/32.png) [@CharmaChameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CharmaChameleon)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/63 "2019-02-15T11:03:47Z")
It would have been about 3300 days, except the divorce was final about 440 days ago. No great loss. Her choice, my benefit. (Just to make it clear, I filed, and won, the divorce suit.) I should have listened to the old friend who told me that the definition of a bachelor was “someone who never made the same mistake once”. ---
**Author:** ![pkbites](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pkbites/32/204_2.png) [@pkbites](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pkbites)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 11:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/64 "2019-02-15T11:24:54Z")
Married 39 years as of last month. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/65 "2019-02-15T15:08:06Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > Really had no choice, as I was leaving for an overseas posting three days later and she wouldn’t be joining me for another couple of months. It made a difference on the size of the apartment the embassy would provide. Makes sense - thanks. > [@CharmaChameleon](#): > > …I should have listened to the old friend who told me that the definition of a bachelor was “someone who never made the same mistake once”. A country singer once said, “Next time I’m just gonna find a woman I hate and give her half of everything I own.” ---
**Author:** ![CelticKnot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/celticknot/32/3392_2.png) [@CelticKnot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CelticKnot)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/66 "2019-02-15T17:14:37Z")
23 years in June. We didn’t waste much time dating. We first met in August at the first meeting of faculty, and married the Saturday after teachers were released at the end of the year. That’s nothing on my 2 older sisters. One’s first call home from her freshman year of college was “I’ve met the man I’m going to marry!” They’ve been married 32 years. Another was stationed far away, so I didn’t talk to her much, but I’d heard the entire saga of bf X. One day I called my mom to talk and asker what she was doing. “Packing for your sister’s wedding” was her answer. “She finally got X to come around?” I asked. “No, she’s marrying George,” Mom said. 😕 “Who’s George?” They’ve been married probably 25 years. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/67 "2019-02-15T17:17:07Z")
In about 8 hours, exactly 42 months, today. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/68 "2019-02-15T22:03:26Z")
30.5 years, all to the same woman! She’s a saint. A blind, olfactory challenged saint. ---
**Author:** ![ZonexandScout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zonexandscout/32/544_2.png) [@ZonexandScout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZonexandScout)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/69 "2019-02-15T22:59:23Z")
33 years…to three different women. Divorced one, buried one, and I am living happily with the third. ---
**Author:** ![Reeses\_Monkey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/reeses_monkey/32/2885_2.png) [@Reeses\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reeses_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2019, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/70 "2019-02-15T23:52:19Z")
On St. Patrick’s day it’ll be 6 years. We’ve been together since October of 2011. We met each other in college my freshman year, 1987. He was a senior who graduated in '88 and went off into the wide world. We bumped into one another again at my 20th reunion and have been together ever since. ---
**Author:** ![Kropotkin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kropotkin/32/18045_2.png) [@Kropotkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kropotkin)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2019, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/71 "2019-02-16T01:47:49Z")
Been with my partner 35 years, she was married for 4 of those years, we’re still not married. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2019, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/72 "2019-02-16T04:57:51Z")
Started dating 42 years ago in May. Celebrated our 35th anniversary last November, the Monday after Thanksgiving. ---
**Author:** ![GaryM](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garym/32/241_2.png) [@GaryM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaryM)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2019, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/73 "2019-02-16T14:27:10Z")
Married 49 years this March. Been great! ---
**Author:** ![Mrs\_Ducky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrs_ducky/32/6227_2.png) [@Mrs\_Ducky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs_Ducky)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2019, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/74 "2019-02-16T21:16:48Z")
I met him March 3, he moved into my house the first week in April and we got married on the 4th of July, all in 1987. Coming up on 32 years! ---
**Author:** ![PoppaSan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/poppasan/32/189_2.png) [@PoppaSan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PoppaSan)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2019, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/75 "2019-02-17T12:41:51Z")
28 years married, 31 since we met this next summer. This thread just verifies how old this board skews. ---
**Author:** ![commasense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/commasense/32/3017_2.png) [@commasense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/commasense)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2019, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/76 "2019-02-17T17:45:47Z")
Met my wife-to-be in college sometime in 1980-81, but we were slightly more than acquaintances and she was with the guy she would be married to for 13 years. Another 13-year relationship followed that. Meanwhile, I had no marriages or even serious relationships. In October 2009 we reconnected, things clicked, I proposed nine months later, and we were married nine months after that, in April 2011. So we’re coming up on eight years of wedded bliss (seriously). ---
**Author:** ![diggerwam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/919ad9/32.png) [@diggerwam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggerwam)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2019, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/77 "2019-02-18T01:16:31Z")
27 yrs this summer. Known her for 30 yrs. Holey crap. ---
**Author:** ![rbroome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2019, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/78 "2019-02-18T02:36:01Z")
42 years for us. 🙂 I am a lucky guy. ---
**Author:** ![Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulf_the_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2019, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/79 "2019-02-18T02:52:17Z")
We celebrated Valentines Day today, as Thursday was too complicated. My wife’s card to me said that we had been married for 13,013 days as of today. I don’t have that many fingers, but I’m sure she’s right! ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2019, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513/80 "2019-02-18T07:10:27Z")
We’ll be married 49 years in June, together 50 years in August. The “together” anniversary means far more to us than the marriage license anniversary. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-been-married/829513.md?page=5)