# How long have you gone without having sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2001, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821 "2001-08-03T18:44:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![MannyL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@MannyL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MannyL)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/41 "2001-08-05T05:23:06Z")
Hmm I’d say 6 years and some months. Not by choise entirely Any single women in the NJ area looking for a 28 year old guy? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sultan\_Kinkari](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7bcc69/32.png) [@Sultan\_Kinkari](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sultan_Kinkari)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/42 "2001-08-05T06:46:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by goboy \* > \*\*Do you guys have three heads, crippling lack of confidence, or what? Sex is ridiculously easy to get. All you need to do is meet somebody cute and friendly, grab some rubbers and lube, find a convenient space, and get horizontal or vertical, or in some special cases, diagonal, and start aardvarkin’. > > It’s been 7 hours since the last time I had sex with my boyfriend. \*\* You are absolutely right. Sex **is** rediculously easy to get. It’s just that I am a former slut(for lack of a better word) and I am attempting to rehabilitate myself. I am trying to build lasting relationships that don’t revolve around sex(a new thing for me). So sue me if that sounds sad or pathetic. ---
**Author:** ![oldscratch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@oldscratch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oldscratch)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/43 "2001-08-05T06:51:52Z")
just under 3 months ---
**Author:** ![IceQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/34f0e0/32.png) [@IceQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IceQueen)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/44 "2001-08-05T06:58:44Z")
The longest I’ve gone without sex, I believe, was eighteen and a half years… ---
**Author:** ![Kipper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Kipper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kipper)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 8:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/45 "2001-08-05T08:29:23Z")
Well 12 months and counting. Mind you that included the last six months before I split up with the ex Mrs Kipper. 🙂 Can’t see any chance of getting any soon. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/46 "2001-08-05T15:32:09Z")
> [@](#): > > You’re right, sex is easy to get. But just maybe people are after more than just sex. After all, I can get the same thing from my hand or my vibrator that I get from of a one night stand, without the pregnancy risk Ah, but the OP didn’t ask how long you have gone without an emotionally fulfilling relationship, it asked how long you have gone without SEX. It is possible to have hot, sloppy, fulfilling sex with a new friend. After all, strangers are just friends you haven’t met yet. And there should be no pregnancy risk in a one night stand because you should insist on men wearing condoms, every time, no exceptions ever. And I guess the longest I’ve gone without sex is probably six months or so. > [@](#): > > I am trying to build lasting relationships that don’t revolve around sex(a new thing for me). So sue me if that sounds sad or pathetic. To the contrary, that sounds like a mature, sensible decision. Sex is definitely a lot more fun and meaningful with someone you love, because then there is an entirely extra dimension of emotions that heighten the physical sensations. But a quick meaningless fuck is fun, too. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/47 "2001-08-05T15:56:29Z")
I officially apologize on behalf of those of us too unattractive to simply have a stranger hop directly into bed with us at a moment’s notice. ---
**Author:** ![Chum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3ab097/32.png) [@Chum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chum)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/48 "2001-08-05T15:59:52Z")
4 months. And 17 years. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MAXIMUMSTRENT1)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/49 "2001-08-05T16:12:59Z")
(blushing) Seven years, now. Determined to break the dry spell. Anyone else besides me noticed that on this message, it’s mainly guys who are replying? Does that mean the girls are getting laid more than we are? ---
**Author:** ![MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MAXIMUMSTRENT1)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/50 "2001-08-05T16:20:32Z")
\ \ Masturbation just doesn’t cut it very well. You miss the physical sensations, like the touch and warmth of skin to skin, the scent of washed hair, the motions of muscles moving under the skin, the weight, and the actual look in and on your partners face. I don’t know, whacking the wiener is fine, but I miss seeing the swell of a beautiful butt, the sensation of soft knockers pressed into my chest and the lingering, drifting scent of perfume or fragrant soap **…?!?.. 'scuse me. Gotta go!!** ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/51 "2001-08-05T16:35:33Z")
> [@](#): > > I officially apologize on behalf of those of us too unattractive to simply have a stranger hop directly into bed with us at a moment’s notice. "And the fox said to himself, ‘Well, it doesn’t matter if I can’t reach those grapes; I don’t want them anyway because they’re probably sour.’ Please, this Manichaean pretense that flesh is evil is silly. Touching another person and making him feel good, if only for a short time, still beats masturbation any day of the week. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/52 "2001-08-05T18:08:57Z")
One year, just after I finished college, then six months after that. That was about 6 years ago, and I haven’t gone for more than a couple of months since. Confidence is a wonderful thing. –sublight. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/53 "2001-08-05T18:15:57Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by goboy \* \*\* > [@](#): > > Please, this Manichaean pretense that flesh is evil is silly. Touching another person and making him feel good, if only for a short time, still beats masturbation any day of the week. \*\* There’s no debate here, I don’t understand why you bring it up. As a wise man once said, “DUH!” ---
**Author:** ![mangeorge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d78d45/32.png) [@mangeorge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mangeorge)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/54 "2001-08-05T21:00:21Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by Manservant Hecubus \* \*\* > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by goboy \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > Please, this Manichaean pretense that flesh is evil is silly. Touching another person and making him feel good, if only for a short time, still beats masturbation any day of the week. \*\* > > There’s no debate here, I don’t understand why you bring it up. As a wise man once said, “DUH!” \*\* I didn’t get that either. Maybe **goboy** accidently quoted the wrong poster? Peace, mangeorge (Way Too Long!) ---
**Author:** ![Corrvin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@Corrvin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corrvin)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/55 "2001-08-05T23:28:06Z")
\<\\> My theory is that women who aren’t getting it, aren’t always counting. I mean, yeah, it’s been since just before last Thanksgiving for me, but until just now I wasn’t aware that that was 8 months and 20 days ago. And yup, that’s my longest dry spell ever. I haven’t really been counting because I’m really disillusioned with bad sex. It’s not that my standards are terribly high…anyone above the age of consent, young enough NOT to be my father, not crazy or a pathological liar (when you tell me you haven’t had sex with a woman in five years, you’d BETTER mention the 37 guys you’ve had…honesty gets you everywhere with me), and willing to drop the ego with the pants. And you have to be fun to talk to afterwards. Looks…well, I insist on regular bathing, preferably right before any intimate encounters; clean clothes, neat hair, and hey, they also have to be silly enough to think I’m somewhere in their range of “acceptably decent looking” too. Apparently at this point I’ve ruled out every man within a hundred mile radius of me, or they’re out there, but too shy to talk. Corr ---
**Author:** ![mangeorge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d78d45/32.png) [@mangeorge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mangeorge)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/56 "2001-08-06T01:09:22Z")
Hmmm, Berkeley, CA to Oklahoma City, OK = 1616.8 miles 1616.8 miles - 100 = 1516.8 miles too far. ☹ Dang! 😉 Peace, mangeorge (Too old, too. Dang!) ---
**Author:** ![mack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b19c9b/32.png) [@mack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mack)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/57 "2001-08-06T01:27:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AlbertRose \* > \*\*I’m working on seven years now. Next April, the statute of limitations will have expended itself, and I will officially be a virgin again. \*\* I thought two years was honorary virgin status. Maybe that’s just when you’re in your twenties. My longest stretch was around 2.5 years. ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/58 "2001-08-06T01:39:56Z")
My whole life. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![Lyllyan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b2d939/32.png) [@Lyllyan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lyllyan)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/59 "2001-08-06T01:54:05Z")
Depends on whom you ask. If you ask me, I will tell you truthfully that it has been a little over 24 hours. If you ask Mr. Lyllyan, however, he will say 18 years. He graduated from the National College of Exaggeration, summa cum laude (it didn’t mean what he thought it meant). ---
**Author:** ![Crispy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e47774/32.png) [@Crispy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crispy)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821/60 "2001-08-06T05:29:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Crispy \* > > \*\*Maybe three months. Should I feel ashamed that that’s the longest I can wait? > > Unfortunately, it looks like I could be on the verge of a _very_ long wait. \*\* > > Why, no. Rather, my ex-boyfriend should be ashamed he could wait longer than that. Yes, actually, my longest dry spell coinsides with a time when I supposedly had a boyfriend. About a year and it would have been longer had I left it up to him. > > But that’s over and there’s this guy and I hope everyone will wish me luck this week. > > And I wish you better luck, Cripsy. \*\* Ugh! A boyfriend that **doesn’t** want to have sex?! I can’t imagine! I’m almost ashamed because I’ll go for just about anyone when it’s been long enough. Two of my ex-boyfriends decided that I didn’t deserve to go through a dry spell. Maybe you wishing me luck helped out a bit. Ahhh. Sex with two different people two nights in a row. It feels so naughty. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-have-you-gone-without-having-sex/74821.md?page=4)