# How long must I lick a clit? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 30, 2000, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738 "2000-12-30T00:02:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![bernse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a9a28c/32.png) [@bernse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bernse)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/41 "2000-12-30T17:26:57Z")
I have found that at least the “technique” I use isn’t so much on the licking, but the sucking… Last night it took about 5 mins I would say, but without looking at the clock, I am sure its taken over 1/2 an hour before too. Not that I mind 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Skelji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Skelji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skelji)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/42 "2000-12-30T17:43:07Z")
**uniball** , I sure as hell hope you’ve got a legitimate reason for asking this. If you really are looking for advice, you just might want to give your title phrasing a little more thought next time. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > > Tiburon, some women can’t come this way so they aren’t interested in getting it. It’s possible that some of these women just never had anyone who knew: a)enough about what they were doing b)a variety of techniques c)how to gauge a woman’s reactions I have no doubt that there are women who aren’t interested in getting it - I knew 3. They all said the same thing, that they couldn’t come that way, don’t waste your time down there, etc. I had one girl ask if I had a book she could read while I went down on her! Too bad they weren’t initially as willing as Mauvaise ;). All 3 changed their minds after one session. I can still hear the sound of that book hitting the floor. So, relating this to the OP, it’s not just how long, but how. The good thing is that, with practice, you’ll know intuitively what to do. The single most important thing you need to do is pay attention to her!!! I can’t explain it in words, but believe me, if you pay attention to a woman’s reactions to what you’re doing, you’ll know. It could be as subtle as one finger moving in your hair, saying “I don’t like when you do it that way”. Or it could be all 10 fingers acting in unison to pull you closer. Also, after you’ve been with someone, talk to them about it later on, when you’re sitting around, or taking a walk, or whatever. Ask her what she likes, or dislikes, about what you do, and what you might do differently. Don’t feel stupid about it - women are wonderful communicators, and will appreciate your thoughtfulness. And **uni**? Try not to be too blunt when you do, okay? ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/43 "2000-12-30T18:35:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dire Wolf \* > \*\*I have no doubt that there are women who aren’t interested in getting it - I knew 3. They all said the same thing, that they couldn’t come that way, don’t waste your time down there, etc. I had one girl ask if I had a book she could read while I went down on her! \*\* A book?! About the only I would ask for is some really nice chocolate (but that’s for enhancement, not distraction) \*\* > [@](#): > > Too bad they weren’t initially as willing as Mauvaise ;). \*\* You have _no_ idea 😃 \*\* > [@](#): > > All 3 changed their minds after one session. I can still hear the sound of that book hitting the floor. \*\* You know, sometimes I really regret not being single. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/44 "2000-12-30T18:42:45Z")
Based on discussions with friends of mine, the only women who told their partner that they didn’t like being eaten out either 1. had some kind of hangup or prior bad experience that prevented them from enjoying it 2. were with someone who didn’t know what he or she was doing 3. were lying so that their partner wouldn’t feel inadequate ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/45 "2000-12-30T18:50:15Z")
In polite society, and least until kickoff. Those of a more pedestrian nature stop when the pre-game show comes on. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/46 "2000-12-30T19:02:27Z")
Stoidela wrote: > [@](#): > > AND SHE HATES GETTING HEAD? I thought “head” was only a euphemism for fellatio, not cunnilingus. ---
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/47 "2000-12-30T19:16:55Z")
Una, I thought it was beyond funny. You know, there really should be a sort of “rent a dildo” place. I’d go there just to laugh. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/48 "2000-12-30T19:31:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tracer \* > \*\*Stoidela wrote: > > > [@](#): > > > > AND SHE HATES GETTING HEAD? > > I thought “head” was only a euphemism for fellatio, not cunnilingus. \*\* Well, yyou know you learn something new daily. I’m 42, and “head” has been used to refer to oral sex by anyone on anyone for at least as long as I’ve been familiar with the act, which would date it back at around 1968. stoid ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/49 "2000-12-30T19:40:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by porcupine \* > \*\*Based on discussions with friends of mine, the only women who told their partner that they didn’t like being eaten out either > > 1. had some kind of hangup or prior bad experience that prevented them from enjoying it > 2. were with someone who didn’t know what he or she was doing > 3. were lying so that their partner wouldn’t feel inadequate > \*\* well, I can tell you that none of the above apply to me. There are some women who simply don’t have enjoyment that way. But it’s really not an issue - we’ve discovered other ways to enjoy each other. ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/50 "2000-12-30T19:51:03Z")
**Rally** , sorry, I didn’t mean to imply it was a universal statement. I just meant that among friends I’ve talked about this with, that seemed to be the concensus. ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/51 "2000-12-30T20:02:01Z")
Hey, that’s ok. I understand. I guess the lowdown is you and your partner have to communicate on what you like the best and also remember that what you like can change over time. ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/52 "2000-12-30T22:01:57Z")
Hey, **Dire Wolf** , how _you_ doin’? ---
**Author:** ![Skelji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Skelji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skelji)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/53 "2000-12-30T22:16:43Z")
Hey, **evilbeth** , how about you and me comparing notes? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/54 "2000-12-30T22:29:45Z")
That’s exactly what I was thinking! Hey, we could write a book! ---
**Author:** ![Skelji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Skelji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skelji)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/55 "2000-12-30T23:07:00Z")
Of course, we’d need to do ample research first. You know, thoroughly test everything. We wouldn’t want to mislead our readers. “69 Tips, Tricks, & Techniques For Good Head” How about our pseudonyms: Phil Latio & Connie Lingus :p:p:p:p:p ---
**Author:** ![Tiburon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e36b37/32.png) [@Tiburon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiburon)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/56 "2000-12-30T23:30:50Z")
It was stated that some women don’t enjoy it…well, as I said - you can bet I wouldn’t be dating her. Honest to God, I’d sooner date a woman who couldn’t drive a car, ride a bike or swim than a woman who didn’t like oral sex. And I agree with whoever said earlier that the key is paying attention to your partner and what she likes and enjoys - and being willing to communicate with each other about this topic. Tibs ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2000, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/57 "2000-12-30T23:43:50Z")
_points to a few replies up_ that was me! but no problem, Tiburon - I’m taken anyway. ---
**Author:** ![zen101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c68b51/32.png) [@zen101](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zen101)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/58 "2000-12-31T00:41:43Z")
**evilbeth** and **dire wolf** : If you do a chapter on “things for a special and memorable occasion” make sure you mention Halls Mentholyptus cough drops. If you are unfamilliar with them it may sound really fucking bizarre, but the reactions and the compliments I have gotten due to those little buggers are nothing short of astounding. Also look for the sugar free ones, UTIs and Yeasts and all that. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/59 "2000-12-31T01:57:49Z")
> [@](#): > > I had one girl ask if I had a book she could read > while I went down on her! > > All 3 changed their minds after one session. I can still hear the sound of that book hitting the floor. Good God, I hope you’re kidding. Actually, I don’t care if you’re kidding or not. Either way, I’m greatly amused by the picture in my head of not only some girl asking for a book while you go down on her, but you saying “Yeah, wait a sec” and fishing out some Hardy Boys mystery or something so you could get back to it 😃 ---
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738/60 "2000-12-31T02:02:40Z")
Dire Wolf, evilbeth… I’d happily volunteer myself as a consultant on the book. I have impressive credentials. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-long-must-i-lick-a-clit/47738.md?page=4)