# How many dates does it take to know if you have chemistry?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-dates-does-it-take-to-know-if-you-have-chemistry/529424>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 18, 2010, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-dates-does-it-take-to-know-if-you-have-chemistry/529424 "2010-02-18T02:34:25Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\
**Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-dates-does-it-take-to-know-if-you-have-chemistry/529424/81 "2010-02-19T20:15:02Z")

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> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#):
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> Well, he spilled his manhattan on them.

Oh, I’m sure that was a “mistake.” 😉

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**Author:** ![DivineComedienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c67d28/32.png) [@DivineComedienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DivineComedienne)\
**Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-dates-does-it-take-to-know-if-you-have-chemistry/529424/82 "2010-02-19T20:44:56Z")

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> [@Sudo\_Intellectual](#):
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> I  
> I tried to convince myself that I was just afraid of a good thing. (I may be somewhat of a commitmentaphobe). I kept going out with him, even kept having that good night kiss (although nothing else) for probably 5 or 6 dates. I finally came to the realization that it wasn’t something that was going to go away. There was no chemistry and although he was a great guy, he wasn’t the great guy for me.

And how did you explain this to the guy, after 6 dates? How did he take it?

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**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\
**Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-dates-does-it-take-to-know-if-you-have-chemistry/529424/83 "2010-02-19T21:50:36Z")

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> [@DivineComedienne](#):
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> We had drinks at the bar, then he asked me if I had eaten. I was honest and told him that I usually suggest just meeting for a drink in case we don’t like each other, we have an “out” 😉 And he laughed, and said we could split the check if I felt better about that. We ended up just having appetizers at the bar.

I know, in true Dope fashion, five people will say just the opposite, but this is the only way this sort of thing has ever worked for me – mutual acknowledgment of what a silly, potentially awkward situation you’re in and slightly cruel humor!

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