# How many females are open to the idea of 'scat fetish' in a relationship? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 26, 2016, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049 "2016-11-26T16:17:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![femmejean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/0ea827/32.png) [@femmejean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/femmejean)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/1 "2016-11-26T16:17:50Z")
Just to say I am a 19yr old male. I identify as non sexual but throughout my life I have been ironically open to some …highly unusual fetishes which are not a joke or a mental illness (despite what some may say): [url=http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Scat] Scat [/url] and [url=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urolagnia] Urolagnia [/url] (SFW). Understandably, my mother was in an interesting disbelief when I shared this and we obviously never spoke of it again. My friends in secondary school said I was ‘full of shit’ thinking that I was lying and not understanding how anyone could possible enjoy that. I believe the overwhelming majority of people would probably question my mental stability, but I am fine. I don’t consume my own excretory products, I never have, don’t self harm, haven’t been abused; but when it comes to certain nice, attractive, intelligent, high class females (and hot males too particularly beautiful brown eyed ones.) that I have spend time with, there was this insane desire for me to consume their urine and feces. The problem is that if I share this fetish with any girl I want to date, I will most likely alienate 98% of them. Even through the relationship. I don’t expect anyone to consume any of my excretory products, I would just like to meet someone who would allow me to at **least** see how their feces taste like. Would you personally be open to this and if not would you separate from your partner? ---
**Author:** ![Me\_Billy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e480ec/32.png) [@Me\_Billy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Me_Billy)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/2 "2016-11-26T16:59:47Z")
I once stumbled upon a book in college when studying psychology. It was a thick book on sex and discussed every known fetish/variant known to man. I was distracted for quite awhile as I read through this book… And I learned there are MANY people out there with all sorts of fetishes. Not as uncommon as one would think! And in my life experience, it seems to me more men would be into various sorts of “unusual” sex play than women. And it seems to me you would find these men on a site like [craigslist.org](http://craigslist.org) in the men 4 men areas. With that said, you may not find a woman or man who is specifically interested in what YOU want to do, however they may have some unusual urge/desire/fetish and would be willing to share/trade with you? So might want to ask on [craigslist.org](http://craigslist.org). Say “I will do what you want if you do what I want!” Maybe you will get lucky? And as they say, there is someone for everyone. ---
**Author:** ![Chetumal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@Chetumal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chetumal)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/3 "2016-11-26T17:11:24Z")
I would immediately terminate the relationship and block you from any type of contact with me. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/4 "2016-11-26T17:16:05Z")
Are you really in the right place to ask this? I honestly can’t think of how this post will end without you abused like an Everlast Heavy Bag. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/5 "2016-11-26T17:18:49Z")
What would Dan say? Move to a big city and you can find someone who shares your fetish. ---
**Author:** ![purplehearingaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@purplehearingaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehearingaid)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/6 "2016-11-26T17:23:17Z")
Only if I was a dog ! ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/7 "2016-11-26T17:39:01Z")
Maybe you could hookup with John Mcafee. ---
**Author:** ![femmejean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/0ea827/32.png) [@femmejean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/femmejean)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/8 "2016-11-26T18:07:45Z")
> [@Chetumal](#): > > I would immediately terminate the relationship and block you from any type of contact with me. Really? Is that genuinely what you would do? Assuming you’re married, how would you proceed if your partner brought this fetish up? ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/9 "2016-11-26T18:13:35Z")
> [@femmejean](#): > > Really? Is that genuinely what you would do? Assuming you’re married, how would you proceed if your partner brought this fetish up? You mean, someone that you married “for better or for worse”? ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/10 "2016-11-26T18:32:40Z")
Scatophilia totally and utterly disgusts me and would make me all kinds of sick to my stomach. On the other hand, although I’ve never participated in urolagnia, I don’t find it revolting and would be open to try it if approached. I don’t think consumption would be in the cards though. I can’t ever imagine bringing this up with anyone IRL though for fear of shame and rejection. ---
**Author:** ![Chetumal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@Chetumal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chetumal)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/11 "2016-11-26T18:33:15Z")
> [@femmejean](#): > > Really? Is that genuinely what you would do? Assuming you’re married, how would you proceed if your partner brought this fetish up? The OP said nothing about being already married to the girl. And I am basing my reaction on his statement that he has an “ **insane** desire” to eat shit. Insane? How about “no”… ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/12 "2016-11-26T18:38:12Z")
I am not a female and I certainly don’t share it but you aren’t the only person in the world that has such a fetish (or almost any other for that matter). You may want to plan a trip to Germany. I don’t know how much of a stereotype it is but German scat porn is a real thing. I am a guy and would probably just laugh and then dump any woman that seriously suggested such a thing because it is disgusting to 99.9% of the population but there is a lid for every pot. Watersports (aka peeing on each other often in the shower) is a lot less disgusting and more popular but still very fringe. You are going to have a hard time finding many people to participate but there are undoubtedly some out there somewhere. At least it isn’t as bad as [that German cannibal](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Armin_Meiwes)that advertised for someone willing to be killed and eaten and found a willing participant (a coworker of someone on this board IIRC). If he could manage that, surely you can find someone that give you all the literal shit on a shingle that you could ever wish for. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/13 "2016-11-26T18:42:48Z")
I’m asexual. And I don’t give a shit what your fetishes are, just do it with someone else. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/14 "2016-11-26T19:00:40Z")
Just doo it! ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/15 "2016-11-26T19:12:23Z")
I have no experience with women, but have known a few guys who were into scat and water sports. If that’s what you’re looking for, move to a big city. You will certainly find what you’re looking for. But understand, that fetishes are only a small part of a relationship. Other than your fetish, you’ll be dealing with all the myriad pluses and minuses of any relationship. So the odds are low that you’ll settle down with someone who’s an exact match in every respect. But go for it anyway. Have you tried sites like [Alt.com](http://Alt.com)? ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/16 "2016-11-26T19:15:58Z")
> [@femmejean](#): > > Just to say I am a 19yr old male. I identify as non sexual but throughout my life I have been ironically open to some …highly unusual fetishes which are not a joke or a mental illness (despite what some may say): [url=[Scat - BDSM Wiki](http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Scat)] Scat [/url] and [url=[Urolagnia - Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urolagnia)] Urolagnia [/url] (SFW). > > Understandably, my mother was in an interesting disbelief when I shared this and we obviously never spoke of it again. My friends in secondary school said I was ‘full of shit’ thinking that I was lying and not understanding how anyone could possible enjoy that. I believe the overwhelming majority of people would probably question my mental stability, but I am fine. I don’t consume my own excretory products, I never have, don’t self harm, haven’t been abused; but when it comes to certain nice, attractive, intelligent, high class females (and hot males too particularly beautiful brown eyed ones.) that I have spend time with, there was this insane desire for me to consume their urine and feces. > > The problem is that if I share this fetish with any girl I want to date, I will most likely alienate 98% of them. Even through the relationship. I don’t expect anyone to consume any of my excretory products, I would just like to meet someone who would allow me to at **least** see how their feces taste like. > > Would you personally be open to this and if not would you separate from your partner? _Ewwwwwww!!_ Exit, stage left! ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/17 "2016-11-26T19:35:52Z")
“Hey, this isn’t a thread about Jazz singers!” ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/18 "2016-11-26T19:45:00Z")
> [@Me\_Billy](#): > > I once stumbled upon a book in college when studying psychology. It was a thick book on sex and discussed every known fetish/variant known to man. I was distracted for quite awhile as I read through this book… > > And I learned there are MANY people out there with all sorts of fetishes. Not as uncommon as one would think! A good rule of thumb…pick any person, activity, object or state of being, and SOMEONE out there gets off because of it. It’s really hard to define “fetish” anyway. That said, scat and water play are very uncommon. I would strongly suggest that you talk to you doctor, femmejean, about the potential health consequences of consuming feces. I’m not referring to the mental health consequences. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/19 "2016-11-26T22:11:19Z")
Is it just me, or is having a discussion nth your mom about having a scat fetish - not the usual way people have of exploring what gets them hot and bothered? ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2016, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/20 "2016-11-26T22:51:36Z")
Well, I totally thought the same thing. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049.md?page=2)