# How many females are open to the idea of 'scat fetish' in a relationship? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 26, 2016, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049 "2016-11-26T16:17:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Enlightening\_Meditation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecc23a/32.png) [@Enlightening\_Meditation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enlightening_Meditation)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2016, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/61 "2016-11-28T18:07:31Z")
The old fashioned method for fetishists (scat enthusiasts or otherwise) to meet is using the [handkerchief code](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code) at drinking establishments, fetish clubs, parties, or other social gatherings. I suggest sticking a brown handkerchief(s) in one or both back pockets of a pair of jeans. Be specific about what you want: coprophagia, hot Carl, hot taco, dirty Sanchez, Cleveland steamer, poo finger-painting art, all of the above, etc. I have encountered 2 friends-of-friend ladies who were rumored to be into scat. I’ve dated 2 women who liked to joke about scat play but never pressured me into actually executing…well, I _think_ they were joking. Like others here on SDMB, I perceive this to be a rare fetish, but it’s out there if you search well enough. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2016, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/62 "2016-11-28T23:19:48Z")
> [@Enlightening\_Meditation](#): > > The old fashioned method for fetishists (scat enthusiasts or otherwise) to meet is using the [handkerchief code](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code) at drinking establishments, fetish clubs, parties, or other social gatherings. I suggest sticking a brown handkerchief(s) in one or both back pockets of a pair of jeans. Be specific about what you want: coprophagia, hot Carl, hot taco, dirty Sanchez, Cleveland steamer, poo finger-painting art, all of the above, etc. > > I have encountered 2 friends-of-friend ladies who were rumored to be into scat. I’ve dated 2 women who liked to joke about scat play but never pressured me into actually executing…well, I _think_ they were joking. Like others here on SDMB, I perceive this to be a rare fetish, but it’s out there if you search well enough. Unless you’re a gay man in the '70s, the hanky code will be useless. ---
**Author:** ![Enlightening\_Meditation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecc23a/32.png) [@Enlightening\_Meditation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enlightening_Meditation)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2016, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/63 "2016-11-29T02:54:14Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Unless you’re a gay man in the '70s, the hanky code will be useless. This may be true within some geographic regions but absolutely false on a broader scale in terms of orientation exclusivity and time frame. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2016, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/64 "2016-11-29T05:24:23Z")
Could be useful for cleaning up. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2016, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/65 "2016-11-30T04:53:24Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > What would Dan say? Dan Savage has called this [“A fetish too far.”](http://www.thecoast.ca/halifax/some-kinks-are-a-fetish-too-far/Content?oid=2781939) ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2016, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/66 "2016-11-30T15:00:24Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Dangerous in what respect? The OP might be worried that if he creates a profile there, that the people there will shit all over him…? ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2016, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/67 "2016-12-01T03:57:01Z")
Ok for one, ew. No freaking way. That’s just so revolting I can’t even begin to imagine how someone would find it sexually satisfying. And secondly…why the hell are you talking about these things with your mother and friends?? How did that even come up?? Did she ask you how you felt about her chocolate mousse and you managed to segue into a conversation about eating shit? ---
**Author:** ![femmejean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/0ea827/32.png) [@femmejean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/femmejean)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2016, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/68 "2016-12-01T12:49:34Z")
> [@AngelSoft](#): > > Ok for one, ew. No freaking way. That’s just so revolting I can’t even begin to imagine how someone would find it sexually satisfying. > > And secondly… **why the hell are you talking about these things with your mother and friends**?? How did that even come up?? Did she ask you how you felt about her chocolate mousse and you managed to segue into a conversation about eating shit? No…We were talking about a beautiful teacher in my class who has pretty brown eyes and a hot accent. She jokingly asked if I was attracted to her and then brought up wanting to eat her poop. I honestly don’t see what’s wrong with it. Most people misunderstand this. I will only eat someones poop if I’m involved romantically with them and attracted to them. Otherwise I have no interest really. Preferably someone who would be like a motherly figure only in a romantic sense. (don’t actually want someone to mother me as an adult). Oedipus complex perhaps? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2017, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/69 "2017-05-26T17:33:07Z")
Sorry for resurrecting this zombie but I had to ask a question (that I’m surprised hasn’t been raised already): don’t you get pretty ill if you eat shit? ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2017, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/70 "2017-05-26T18:08:30Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Sorry for resurrecting this zombie but I had to ask a question (that I’m surprised hasn’t been raised already): don’t you get pretty ill if you eat shit? I was thinking the same thing. To the OP, I honestly cannot think of anything more viscerally disgusting, but there are probably other people into your thing that you can find on the internet. The idea of ‘‘compromise’’ is one I find problematic in this case. There are a lot of situations where compromise in the bedroom is a good idea. This would be a flat-out deal breaker for me, I could not be physically attracted to someone with this fetish. It doesn’t make you bad or wrong, per se, but it makes you bad and wrong _for me._ I think you’ll be much happier in a relationship with someone who shares your fetish 100%. Perhaps part of the issue here is that there are a lot of fetishes someone could be open to, or sort of into, where compromise and exploration makes sense. Like, maybe a woman is 100% into BDSM and dates a guy who is 50% into it. That could work. The problem is that you aren’t going to find people who are 50% into scat. You’re going to find people who are 100% into it or 0% into it. There won’t be many scenarios where a woman is going to be like, ‘‘Well, I never really thought about it, but I guess we could give it a try!’’ FWIW I dated a guy who revealed (after we broke up) that he had a diaper fetish and it immediately killed any and all lingering sexual attraction I had for him. ---
**Author:** ![quimper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/7c8e57/32.png) [@quimper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/quimper)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2017, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/71 "2017-05-26T19:12:48Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Sorry for resurrecting this zombie but I had to ask a question (that I’m surprised hasn’t been raised already): don’t you get pretty ill if you eat shit? Apparently you get ‘shit disease’, at least according to this GQ article about [Japanese porn super star Shimiken](http://www.gq.com/story/shimiken-japanese-porn-star-interview). > [@](#): > > When his first on-camera opportunity came, it wasn’t quite the glamorous orgy he’d imagined. He answered an ad in a local paper and showed up to an unpalatable offer: 15,000 yen ($126) to eat a plate of actual feces, take it or leave it. He took it. The next day, he was so sick that he went to the hospital, where doctors put him on intravenous antibiotics, diagnosed him with what he remembers simply as a “shit disease,” and billed him 20,000 yen ($168). It was a brutal baptism but not uncommon, says Shimiken. For the first year, he was paid so little he had to pull extra shifts working traffic control and even serving as a guinea pig for university lab experiments. ---
**Author:** ![StarvingButStrong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/starvingbutstrong/32/335_2.png) [@StarvingButStrong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StarvingButStrong)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2017, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/72 "2017-05-26T20:40:10Z")
I’ll cop to being a bit of a germophobe. Participate in anything like this? Never. And if a man had ever revealed to me that he had ever engaged in anything along these lines, or even had wanted to… well, there isn’t enough soap/toothpaste/mouthwash/bleach/Lysol/ANYTHING in the world to sufficiently ‘disinfect’ him enough for me to ever have any sort of physical contact with him. Sorry, if that offends you. I realize this gut reaction may be extreme or narrow-minded or judgmental or whatever, but that’s the truth of how I feel about it. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2017, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/73 "2017-05-26T20:45:47Z")
> [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > I’ll cop to being a bit of a germophobe. Participate in anything like this? Never. > > And if a man had ever revealed to me that he had ever engaged in anything along these lines, or even had wanted to… well, there isn’t enough soap/toothpaste/mouthwash/bleach/Lysol/ANYTHING in the world to sufficiently ‘disinfect’ him enough for me to ever have any sort of physical contact with him. > > Sorry, if that offends you. I realize this gut reaction may be extreme or narrow-minded or judgmental or whatever, but that’s the truth of how I feel about it. Excellent screen name/post combo. ---
**Author:** ![BaldDudePeekskill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5e925/32.png) [@BaldDudePeekskill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaldDudePeekskill)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/74 "2017-05-28T01:29:25Z")
Have you ever actually done this or is it just masturbatory fodder? Most human beings have a revulsion to this because it is quite dangerous. Feces stink so that we instinctually avoid them ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/75 "2017-05-28T01:35:00Z")
> [@BaldDudePeekskill](#): > > Have you ever actually done this or is it just masturbatory fodder? I think _this thread_ is his masturbatory fodder. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/76 "2017-05-28T01:49:28Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I think _this thread_ is his masturbatory fodder. Just this thread? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/77 "2017-05-28T02:42:42Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Just this thread? No. ---
**Author:** ![femmejean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/0ea827/32.png) [@femmejean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/femmejean)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/78 "2017-05-28T11:21:55Z")
> [@BaldDudePeekskill](#): > > Have you ever actually done this or is it just masturbatory fodder? Most human beings have a revulsion to this because it is quite dangerous. Feces stink so that we instinctually avoid them Umm…since I first created this thread…Yes. I paid a girl I used to know from a youth group who needed some money for her upcoming trip to France. Now I’ll do a TL;DR. The feces itself tasted like ‘shit’ (from a gustatory point of view). However since I was very arousal from the woman I did this with, it did not taste ‘disgusting’ and thus I didn’t throw up eating it. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2017, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/79 "2017-05-28T13:14:54Z")
Another vote for fetlife and on-line dating. Dating is intrinsically risky, but pretty much everyone I know under 50 has tried on-line dating, and many have found partners and spice that way. There’s a whole set of etiquette that’s grown up around it to keep it safer. Meet first in a public place, like a coffee shop. Don’t share your address at first. Maybe don’t share last names, if that’s sufficient to look you up. Tell a friend where you are going and when you’re expected back before the first date… Lots and lots of people navigate this successfully. Scat is not a popular fetish. As someone said, Dan Savage called it “a fetish too far”. Which doesn’t mean he condemns it, but it means he doesn’t think that people who don’t share that fetish should try it just to please their partner. (In general, he advocates being “good, giving, and game”, which means he thinks you should try to indulge most fetishes, and see how it works out. But not this one.) I think my reaction is typical – I’d find it hard to bring myself to kiss someone who ate shit. Or even to let him kiss me not-on-the-mouth. Piss play is much less disgusting to me. (Again, I think that’s common.) If I had a partner who really wanted to drink my piss, or be pissed on, I’d probably indulge him, at least a couple of times, to see how it went. I don’t think I’d drink his piss… But scat. Just no. For me. And for a large fraction of the population. So if scat play is important to you, I think you’d do best to date people who are interested in it, too, and hope that you find someone you can fall in love with from that part of the population. And do be careful of disease. I’m sure you don’t automatically get sick from eating poop. But I’m also sure it’s easy to catch lots of things that way. I bet on fetlife you can find discussions about what precautions to take. (Testing, probably. But what tests?) ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2017, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049/81 "2017-10-31T05:39:15Z")
> [@Primo](#): > > I like to meet a woman for pee and scat Try Craigslist. Except it will be a dude. And a Zombie. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-females-are-open-to-the-idea-of-scat-fetish-in-a-relationship/773049.md?page=5)