# How Many Hetero Male Dopers Dislike Anal Sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 24, 2010, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557 "2010-03-24T00:05:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/41 "2010-03-24T17:10:00Z")
I’ve never tried it, and I’m not sure whether I’d like it or not. I was once with someone who really wanted to try it, but the second I tried entering her, she shut down really fast. I have no great desire to do it, but no repulsion either. If it’s in porn, I usually skip that part. I love having my own anus stimulated, though. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/42 "2010-03-24T17:35:33Z")
We’ve done it probably 10 to 15 times in past 10 years. She likes it, I like it. Not an every day thing, obviously. What i really like is putting a finger in her butt during oral sex. The contractions as we near completion are a big turn on for me. She seems to like it too. ---
**Author:** ![Uncle\_Brother\_Walker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f08c70/32.png) [@Uncle\_Brother\_Walker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncle_Brother_Walker)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/43 "2010-03-24T18:42:59Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I’ve had anal sex probably… 200 times? Maybe a bit more. Never once had this happen. I’ve read about it happening and I’ve seen it in porn bloopers, though! Well, you know. Once bitten, twice shy, eh? ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/44 "2010-03-24T18:55:09Z")
> [@kidneyfailure](#): > > I, too, am not turned on by it at all. If that’s your thing then, well, have fun! But for me? No thanks. You mean “Butt for me? No thanks.” ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/45 "2010-03-24T19:57:01Z")
Never done it, never been interested. I’m boring. I know this. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/46 "2010-03-24T20:24:27Z")
Can’t get past the smell. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/47 "2010-03-24T21:17:27Z")
This is where I wish we didn’t have that online portrait gallery. I don’t want to know these things about you people knowing what you (and sometimes your spouse) look like… 😛 ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/48 "2010-03-24T21:35:25Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > This is where I wish we didn’t have that online portrait gallery. I don’t want to know these things about you people knowing what you (and sometimes your spouse) look like… 😛 Check us out! We’re actually quasi-attractive! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/49 "2010-03-24T22:24:41Z")
> [@Cisco](#): > > Ever hit any parked cars on the hershey highway? Not once. Despite my predisposition for the kinky, I tend to have sex at the same time every day so maybe the girls made sure to go to the bathroom in the afternoon or something? :rolleyes: I think I _once_ came out with a small amount of fecal matter on me (it was dark so I couldn’t see, but she told me later) and as usual, she cleaned my dick up orally after the sex was over. I know it’s unhealthy and I’m not attracted to scat AT ALL (that is a HARD no for me, Halle Berry could ask me to give her a tar her up and I’d still be out the door) and I’m pretty sure she wasn’t, either, but… she was a trooper and just finished cleaning me while she was down there! That was love. > [@Uncle\_Brother\_Walker](#): > > Well, you know. Once bitten, twice shy, eh? 😃 > [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > This is where I wish we didn’t have that online portrait gallery. I don’t want to know these things about you people knowing what you (and sometimes your spouse) look like… 😛 At least I’m cute! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![FallenAngel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@FallenAngel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FallenAngel)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2010, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/50 "2010-03-24T23:15:52Z")
It’s just about my favorite thing in the world. Unfortunately, it’s waaaaaaay down there, like somewhere near root canal, for my wife, so it’s a pretty rare thing. Fortunately, absolutely everything else about our intimate life synchs up perfectly, so there’s not much sense of feeling unsatisfied or “missing out.” ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/51 "2010-03-25T05:46:48Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > This is where I wish we didn’t have that online portrait gallery. I don’t want to know these things about you people knowing what you (and sometimes your spouse) look like… 😛 And you’re still reading…why? 😉 I’ve very limited experience with it, but I’ve enjoyed what I’ve done. Not something I crave or anything, and I don’t find it appealing in porn. But it’s not an activity I’d turn down upon request. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/52 "2010-03-25T07:20:07Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > ETA: Sampiro…are there a lot of gay men that “get by” with only (presuming here) hand jobs and oral sex, whereby anal sex is…offputting to them? Obviously the assumption is that…gay men by and large enjoy anal sex, and seek it out… My partner and I have been together over 22 years, and have never had anal sex. But I’d never use the term “get by” to describe anything we do. Yes, there’s plenty of oral sex, but we also do a whole lot of things that don’t involve a penis. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/53 "2010-03-25T07:27:31Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > Can’t get past the smell. Are you doing it with your nose? ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/54 "2010-03-25T07:54:18Z")
Well, you know what they say about guys with big noses. ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 9:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/55 "2010-03-25T09:59:27Z")
Don’t stare? ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/56 "2010-03-25T13:25:58Z")
My husband doesn’t like it. He had never tried it prior to me, so I let him try it… and he doesn’t care for it. I don’t think he’s squicked out so much by it, but he knows I won’t do ass-to-mouth or ass-to-vag or ass-to-anything. He’s a variety kind of man and doesn’t like being pigeonholed into finishing there. ---
**Author:** ![dhkendall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9adbd/32.png) [@dhkendall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dhkendall)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/57 "2010-03-25T14:14:55Z")
> [@Cisco](#): > > Ever hit any parked cars on the hershey highway? Euphemisms, how I love you … (And Dopers have some of the most creative ones too!) From what I’ve heard the colon doesn’t store em, it’s just, as you point out, a highway. Myself, I’ll try pretty much anything in bed with my wife but, to quote Meatloaf, “I won’t do that.” My wife is far more conservative than I am in bed (still haven’t done oral on me, and after 10 years of marriage (and LOTS of really good sex) only got to try oral on her on a semi-regular basis this month), so she hasn’t said that that’s something she wants. If she did ask for it, I would oblige (hell, what red blooded guy (gay or straight) would turn down sex? As Woody Allen once said “Even the worst sex I had was right on the money.”), who knows, I could grow to like it (like my wife is somwhat starting to get around to re: cunnilingus) but I won’t be the one brinigng it up. The porn angle is interesting too, I’ve found that what I like to watch in porn doesn’t necessarily match up with what I like to do in real life, (that is, there’s some things in porn I like to watch that I’d never do in real life, and vice versa) - and I always thought that’s how everyone’s thoguhts on porn was - so somewhat surprised to read how those who don’t like anal IRL would FF it in porn. (I mean, there’s things on the TV that I like to see that I’d never try in real life as well!) ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/58 "2010-03-25T14:31:03Z")
> [@Serenata67](#): > > He’s a variety kind of man and doesn’t like being **pigeonholed** into finishing there. Yes, I’m 12 years-old, but HAH! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/59 "2010-03-25T18:26:51Z")
I like it a lot. She has to “prepare”, neither of us like poop involved. My and my SO just try to do it every week or 2, an occasional treat. ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2010, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557/60 "2010-03-25T19:58:57Z")
> [@dhkendall](#): > > Euphemisms, how I love you … (And Dopers have some of the most creative ones too!) > > From what I’ve heard the colon doesn’t store em, it’s just, as you point out, a highway. > > Myself, I’ll try pretty much anything in bed with my wife but, to quote Meatloaf, “I won’t do that.” My wife is far more conservative than I am in bed (still haven’t done oral on me, and after 10 years of marriage (and LOTS of really good sex) only got to try oral on her on a semi-regular basis this month), so she hasn’t said that that’s something she wants. If she did ask for it, I would oblige (hell, what red blooded guy (gay or straight) would turn down sex? As Woody Allen once said “Even the worst sex I had was right on the money.”), who knows, I could grow to like it (like my wife is somwhat starting to get around to re: cunnilingus) but I won’t be the one brinigng it up. > > The porn angle is interesting too, I’ve found that what I like to watch in porn doesn’t necessarily match up with what I like to do in real life, (that is, there’s some things in porn I like to watch that I’d never do in real life, and vice versa) - and I always thought that’s how everyone’s thoguhts on porn was - so somewhat surprised to read how those who don’t like anal IRL would FF it in porn. (I mean, there’s things on the TV that I like to see that I’d never try in real life as well!) Ah, oral sex…how I miss you…giving and receiving. Its so strange. My wife has no qualms about me shoving my penis into her rectum, but if I try to perform oral sex on her she basically has the same squickiness about me doing that to her as I do about anal sex. And blowjobs are somehow out of the question. It got to the point where I just stopped trying to angle for one during foreplay, even if it was always foreplay in and of itself in the past. She just likes being penetrated, and…that’s it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-hetero-male-dopers-dislike-anal-sex/533557.md?page=4)