# How many partners have you had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2003, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192 "2003-02-01T23:55:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![SwimmingRiddles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/43a26b/32.png) [@SwimmingRiddles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SwimmingRiddles)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/41 "2003-02-02T16:44:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OpalCat \* > \*\*Am I the only one who has never gotten a guy off that I wasn’t having sex with at the time? [not necessarily at that moment, but in the relationship] \*\* Double negatives and no coffee equal one stupid Swiddle. You mean that they’ve never hit the mark unless you were having, as so conviently defined earlier, coitus? I’ve found gay men as a wonderful resource on how to get a fella off without having to have coitus. I COULD make a Margaret Cho reference here, but I think it’s really of questionable taste. 1. 3 or 4, depending on how you gauge it. 2. Female 3. 23 ---
**Author:** ![Texican](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ebca7d/32.png) [@Texican](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Texican)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/42 "2003-02-02T16:57:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jack@ss \* > \*\*1. Somewhere around 80. I had a wild booze & drug fueled 80s too. > > 1. Hetero Male > > 2. > 1. \*\* Ah, the 80’s. I miss those times. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/43 "2003-02-02T19:32:24Z")
1. To be specific: coitus with 3, oral sex with 1 additional, “hand job” with 1 additional 2. female 3. 22 ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/44 "2003-02-02T19:53:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by belladonna \* > \*\*Considering some of the numbers here, I think it’s safe to say that “relationship” might be a bit of an overstatement. 😉 But yeah, I have–I think that’s where a lot of the ranges are coming from, instead of just flat numbers. \*\* Huh. It just seems weird to me. I wouldn’t give a hand job or a blow job to a guy I wasn’t going to have sex with. Too weird. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/45 "2003-02-02T19:57:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SwimmingRiddles \* > \*\*You mean that they’ve never hit the mark unless you were having, as so conviently defined earlier, coitus? > > I’ve found gay men as a wonderful resource on how to get a fella off without having to have coitus. I COULD make a Margaret Cho reference here, but I think it’s really of questionable taste. \*\* No, that isn’t what I mean. What I mean is that I only give hand/blow jobs to guys that I’m sleeping with. I’ve had plenty of encounters where hands and mouths were the only thing that happened, but it was always with guys with whom I was in a relationship that included coitus. And I’ve never had a one night stand. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/46 "2003-02-02T20:06:37Z")
1. 1 2. Male 3. 25 yrs old. ---
**Author:** ![Narcissus\_Goldmund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/6bbea6/32.png) [@Narcissus\_Goldmund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Narcissus_Goldmund)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/47 "2003-02-02T20:50:53Z")
1. only one cums to mind (A Virginian, that likes to spit) 2. female 3. 30 ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/48 "2003-02-02T20:58:17Z")
1. 0 2. Male 3. 37 ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/49 "2003-02-02T21:18:50Z")
1. 3 2. Male 3. 23 If you want to count non-intercourse interaction, that ups it to 6. ---
**Author:** ![White\_Lightning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@White\_Lightning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Lightning)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/50 "2003-02-02T21:18:56Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by_\* samarm \*\*\* > Why are people answering a question 3… where did that come from? > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by White Lightning \* > 3) 22 > Isn’t this poll pointless for the goal stated unless you also get ages? Man, some of these answers… Until today I had been glad to have missed the 80’s. They always seemed boring to me. I guess that’s just because I was less than 10 years old for all of them. ---
**Author:** ![it\_sjustme](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/da6949/32.png) [@it\_sjustme](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/it_sjustme)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/51 "2003-02-02T21:23:54Z")
1. 1 2. female and to answer the unasked, but I think relevant, age question 3. 42 I think having had only one partner at the age of 42 is a lot different than if I was 16 and had only one partner. (And believe me, I’m making no judgements on you lucky people who’ve had more than one. I just happened to have met the man I eventually married when I was 17.) ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/52 "2003-02-02T21:56:47Z")
1. - coitus: 6, all of them guys I had a relationship with (2-months- 3 years). Two of them after “marrying” my SO, 12 years ago. - necking: including the 6 above, about 12. One night stands: One, and not worth repeating. 2 I’m female, aged 35 It seems, that about 2/3 of the women that respond to this thread are rather experienced. A few of the guys too, but most guys (3/4) have had fewer partners. I had always been told that Giuys tried t make the number higher and girls lowered it when asked about it? That would be contrary to what i see here… I once read an study that showed that most people have 1-5 sexual partners in their lives. A very few have very manu sexual partners. The study tried to prove that it was those "spiders-in-the-sexual web that you should reach with safe-sex-campaigns. ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/53 "2003-02-02T22:09:34Z")
1. ummm if it’s just sex then one, counting other stuff… 4 2. female 3. 17 ---
**Author:** ![whistlepig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/73ab20/32.png) [@whistlepig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whistlepig)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/54 "2003-02-02T22:28:32Z")
1. 14 2. Male 3. 40 Ah yes, the '80’s. I look back fondly on those years. And then I kick myself for being stupid, stupid, stupid about a couple of relationships. Why did I break up with a 19 yo Marilyn Monroe look-alike who bought all of her underwear at Fredericks to go back into a relationship with a married woman? Stupid, stupid, stupid. ---
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/55 "2003-02-02T23:12:47Z")
1. 3 2. female 3. 29 ---
**Author:** ![CuriousCanuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d2c977/32.png) [@CuriousCanuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CuriousCanuck)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/56 "2003-02-02T23:26:31Z")
1. 25 2. Male 3. 1. ---
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/57 "2003-02-03T00:21:17Z")
1. in the low triple digits, I’m afraid, but I’m nowhere close to an actual count. But the number plummets dramatically if we only count coitus. 2. male 3. 38 ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/58 "2003-02-03T00:28:53Z")
1. One. 2. Female 3. 20 ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/59 "2003-02-03T00:59:36Z")
1. Over 500 probably under 1000. I lost count before I turned 20. There were around 30 by the time I turned 17 before I went all out and started having sex a lot. 2. Male 3. late 20’s ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/60 "2003-02-03T01:01:24Z")
1. If we are not talking oral sex it would be around 300 for me (top) and about 30-40 (bottom). Would love to bottom more often but typically only do it when I am in a relationship. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=4)